Two RSS feed articles got my attention today involving 14-year-olds: http://www.delawareonline.com/article/20120504/NEWS/120504030/1006/RSS, which is about a 14-year-old boy raping a 7-year-old and, http://www.delawareonline.com/viewart/20120504/NEWS/120504021/Boy-14-charged-shooting-another-14-year-old .
I saw these and my mind automatically said, “What the fuck…?” That both of these happened in my “backyard” is equally disturbing because we tend to think, at times, that our state is just to small and “boring” for such things to take place and, overall, we’re not considered to be a hotbed of crime.
Of course, we’re just in a form of denial on this one because while we might not be a major metropolitan state, we got crime out the wazoo and, yeah, there’s a lot of crime being committed by those folks who aren’t legal adults yet.
While the second article – the one about the shooting – is shocking, it’s not all that surprising in that you can read about kids getting their hands on a gun and shooting another kid; it’s just my opinion but when the cops show up to make arrests, the parents should be arrested for not making sure the weapon was locked up and equipped with a trigger lock as well – this is a hard lesson to learn and one that isn’t absorbed until someone gets shot, wounded, or maybe killed.
The first one, while equally shocking – and maybe more so – is probably an indication of what happens when teens don’t have anything better to do with their time… and when parents aren’t really paying as much attention to what their kids are doing.
Okay, that teen-aged boys, full of raging hormones, might get with another boy – equally full of those same hormones – and get their “freak” on to avoid a case of blue balls isn’t all that unusual; the bad news (like we needed more on top of what happened) is that this particular crime happens more often than not – it just doesn’t get reported.
This isn’t as much of a sexuality issue as it is a matter of convenience; I’m not really saying that the alleged offender’s parents weren’t on the job but those of us who are parents know that if our kids are out of our sight, eh, that’s a pretty big blind spot for us and all we can do is hope he or she (or they) won’t get themselves in trouble, serious or otherwise.
Those of us who are parents also know that us telling our kids something tends to evoke a couple of reactions: It goes in one ear and out the other or whatever we said, they do the opposite and, yeah, before I forget, sometimes, telling them not to do something? Shit, you may as well have told them to go ahead and do it…
Are you wondering where the 14-year-old got the idea of having sex with a much younger boy? Where does the finger get pointed when it’s time to assign additional blame for this – and I used the word ‘additional’ because, of course, the teen’s gonna get jacked for this… but someone (or maybe even some thing) will be blamed for putting the idea in his head – and that can be his parents, his friends, other adults, the Internet, cable TV – pick something.
I’m sure both of these incidents will be reported on and, if they are, I’ll see about letting y’all know what happened in each case.