11 Jun

“Turquorius Vines, 23, told The Associated Press he was at the pool party Saturday evening with one of his friends, Pitts. He said he and Pitts were approached by two other men who started arguing with them over a woman.”

This is a quote from  When I first saw this, all I could do was shake my head because Black on Black violence is the number one killer of Black men.  Then, when I saw the above quote, I was even sadder because, again, Black men lost their lives, fighting over pussy.

Lord God, how many guys have lost their lives fighting over women?  And then you see something else that’s been too prevalent:  Settling a lack of fighting skills with a gun.

I’ve seen my share of fights over women and none of them have been good.  There’s a difference between defending a woman’s honor and wanting to beat some other dude to a pulp (or shoot the shit out of him) because the other guy’s getting the pussy and the aggressor isn’t.  Or he was… and now someone else is laying the pipe to her.  Do they not know or realize that no one wins when this happens?

Honor is one thing; stupid is something else.  And I can’t help but wonder how the woman they were fighting over is feeling right about now…

Women, take notice, please.  See, some of you think very little of men and probably not without good reason. But, you see, for all of our faults, some of us are willing to take the life of another man for your affections… or if we even think we might get them.  Some of us are willing to kill and then face life in prison and maybe even a death sentence.  Where are the nice guys?  Some of them wind up lying on a slab at the morgue, their only crime being a better man than the guy who killed him.

Totally fucking senseless.  It makes me angry and reminds me of the early days of “Black Power” when I heard a white guy say that they didn’t have to kill us – we were doing a great job of offing ourselves so why should they bother?  And it’s a good point, huh?  This incident just continues to bear that man’s sentiments out, doesn’t it?

I don’t mean to bust on women but in some of the blogs I’ve been reading, we’ve been chastised greatly for being players and game-players, fucking with a woman’s emotions, doing her wrong, stuff like that.  I don’t know if the woman involved in this had any intent or even knew a fight had started over her but, hmm, sometimes, when women play games, men die.  Which, I wonder, is the greater evil?  You can get over hurt feelings; no cure for being dead, last I heard.

Three more young men cut down in the prime of their lives.  They didn’t die serving and defending their country; they didn’t die by giving up their lives to save others.  They died because of a fight over a woman.  They died because someone with a gun didn’t have what it took to really face off mano a mano; call it false bravery, call it cowardice, call it utterly senseless.

So, go read the follow-up article:  They’re not sure if the shooter is inside  (at the time the article was written)  but, as it says, whoever’s in there doesn’t want to come out – I’m thinking it’s the shooter but time will tell.  If it is him, I wonder what he’s thinking about right now?  Gonna play it hard and come out shooting?  Worried about getting arrested and all the shit that goes with that?  Maybe he’s even wondering what his momma’s gonna think about all this?

Do you think that he’s thinking about that he’s killed people… because he started a fight over a woman and that, his woman or not, he just threw his life away as well… over pussy… and I’d even hazard the guess that he wanted the coochie in question and, shit, like the dogs women say we are, got all territorial, feeling all manly with the gat tucked in his waistband.

Just so fucking senseless.  I hope people can and will learn something from this tragedy, even if it’s a tragedy that happens more than we know.  My heart goes out to the families of the men who died and I hope that, in time, they can make their peace over what’s happened.

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