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Group Sex Angst

05 Jan

One of the blogs I follow with great interest is one where threesomes (and moresomes) is the main topic of discussion – http://3somes.wordpress.com/.

Threesome

Threesome (Photo credit: PinkMoose)

The author of this blog pretty much tells it like it is and, in my opinion, does a damned good job of dissecting the anatomy of a threesome from the emotional and behavioral points of view; I’ll go on record and say that if you want to know about threesomes, you should follow this blog.

The latest blog, http://3somes.wordpress.com/2013/01/05/why-does-my-husband-or-boyfriend-want-a-fmf-but-not-mfm/, is one that, given my experiences in this, is right on point… and makes me want to laugh – and frown – over how silly some guys can be about participating in a threesome; if it’s FMF, well, they’re all for it and it can’t jump off fast enough to make him happy.  But, if it’s supposed to be MFM, well, er, um, damn, baby, uh, do we really have to do this?

The latest blog, I think, does a great job of speaking to why men will balk at doing an MFM.  I’ll be the first to admit that the first time you do an MFM, you’re going to be severely tested in that talking about doing this is much easier than being there and watching it happen.  One of two things is going to happen:  The guy is going to find out that he’s not as grown up and open-minded as he thought… or all of the negative emotions that come with this will be forever purged from him.

Unless the guy is bisexual, the MFM threesome, also in my opinion, is for the woman’s benefit.  My thoughts about this flow along the lines of if it’s your duty to provide your woman with that which makes and keeps her happy, well, there shouldn’t be very many things that you are going to deny her.  So if she proposes an MFM and because it’s something she wants to experience and doing so will make her a happy camper, well, handle your business, fella; don’t get all bent out of shape and turn her desire for this into something about you because, duh, it ain’t about you, is it?

Kama Sutra Illustration

Kama Sutra Illustration (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Most men are totally unwilling to share their woman with someone else – but they are very willing to share someone else’s woman, right?  A lot of men I’ve talked to about this are so worried about the other guy trying to do something with them… and I’m not going to say that this concern isn’t justified… but I’m also not going to deny that, hey, sometimes, shit happens.  To me, when I’m thinking about MFM, one of my first thoughts is to expect the unexpected – and that’s despite the fact that I’m bisexual.  Sure, if you know – and you’d better know before the fact – that the other guy wouldn’t, say, appreciate you jerking on his boner, you respect this because ignoring this will totally ruin the experience for your woman and, oh, yeah, she’s not going to be happy with you because you fucked it up.

Then there’s what I’d call the fairness factor:  If your lady gave you the FMF you’ve always dreamed of, then if she asks you for a MFM, your only response should be, “Okay – when do you want to do this and who do you have in mind?”  Ah, but we already know that there are men who ain’t gonna do this, don’t we?

English: Scene VI of the famous mural showing ...

English: Scene VI of the famous mural showing variants of sexual intercourse. Threesome of two men and one woman in bed. The hair of the figure on the left indicates that this is a lesbian sex scene. The man in the middle is penetrated anally by the man on the left. The woman on the right is shown in “doggy style” position. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Again, I’m not going to say that a man doesn’t have the right to have, ah, reservations about doing this; what I am going to say is that if he loves his woman as much as he says he does, he needs to dump all that stuff and realize, again, the simple fact that this is for her pleasure (and yours since you’re gonna get to nail her as well) and it’s better to have a happy woman by your side than one who is a candidate for Queen Bitch of the Universe – trust me, this is not the woman you want lying in bed with you at night.

Those of you who follow me have seen me write about stuff like this and have said that in order to do a threesome or some other form of group sex, you have to unlearn everything you’ve ever learned about love, sex, and relationships and adopt a totally new mindset.  This is a situation where the rules of monogamy cannot and do not apply and, really, if you can’t get your head around this – and most people can’t – then a threesome or whatever is something that should (1) remain in your head and (2) is never put on the table as a topic of discussion.

Go check out the blog – you’ll find it very interesting and more so for those folks who fantasize about having a threesome or moresome.

 
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Posted by on 5 January 2013 in Life, Living and Loving

 

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6 responses to “Group Sex Angst

  1. marriagecoach1

    5 January 2013 at 15:26

    I have an ex wife who wanted a threesome. She actually admitted that she wanted to do it with 4 guys, one on each tit and one eating her pussy and the other giving her a rim job. She allowed as how she did not think that she had the stamina to have intercourse with 4 guys repeatedly but she thought that she could handle two guys. I told her no and she divorced me just 6 months after we were married and I say with good riddance.

    No I am not worried about the other guy doing something to me as I assume that it would have been with another straight guy, but I did not want to be rubbing junk with him as she also wanted double penetration as well.

    As I have previously stated on here, I don’t recommend this as it is the beginning of the end of the relationship. I don’t know of any relationships that have survived long term after going there.

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    • kdaddy23

      5 January 2013 at 17:08

      Honestly, I can understand your reaction – most guys would react the exact same way. We go into a monogamous relationship with the thought that our partner should be enough for us when it’s time to kick holes in the walls and break a few headboards. So, if she wants you and some other guys to turn her out, well, most men would be greatly offended because she should know and understand that she should NEVER need any other dick than the one she’s married to.

      However, I’d point out again – and you already know this – that if you truly hold onto the tenets of monogamy, this is something you should never, ever think about, let alone try to do. If she’s not enough (or he’s not enough), well, you’re stuck with the choice you made in this until divorce – or death – do you part.

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      • marriagecoach1

        5 January 2013 at 17:11

        Yea, I do. Otherwise we are no different from primates who take turns raping a female in heat. In the primate kingdom there is no alpha male with a harem, a female in heat will likely be mated by up to a dozen males in a day

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  2. travellinginternationally

    5 January 2013 at 16:15

    Reblogged this on Threesomes and variations.

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  3. marriagecoach1

    5 January 2013 at 17:16

    That reminds me of a joke. A man and his very pretty wife were at the zoo and the wife was dressed provacatively in a low cut and short dress. Once they got to an orangatang’s cage the male started getting highly agitated. The husband told the wife that he thought it was because the gorilla was wanting to mate with her. He told her to bend over and let the gorilla check out her boobs in the low cut dress, she did and the gorilla went nuts.
    The husband then told her to pull up her dress in front and show the gorilla her lacy panties and the gorilla really went nuts then. So the husband grabbed the wife, opened the cage door and shoved her into the cage and said, “Now tell him you have a headache”.

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