What is growing in numbers but is as scarce as rain in the Sahara?
(Waiting for everyone to think about this for a moment; sucks to be in Boston right about now, huh?)
The answer is today’s Top Search phrase: Bisexual guys!
As you walk down the street, shop in the stores, ride the bus, etc., you could be right next to a bisexual guy and not even know it. You’ve probably heard the word ‘gaydar’ used, that mystical ability that pops up – and sporadically, I might add – when you can look at a guy and just know that he’s not straight or, in this case, not entirely so.
I can’t begin to tell you how many times in my life that I’ve heard, “You don’t look like the type!” I also can’t tell you how many times I’ve resisted the urge to roll my eyes and, with a slight grin on my face, ask the question, “What does the type look like?”
Apparently, ‘the type’ has a look but what that is has escaped me for many years; the old adage, “It takes one to know one” doesn’t seem to work here because even as long as I’ve been this way, um, I never know until it’s been revealed.
A lot of bisexual guys aren’t as casual about revealing their other side as I am and if you’ve been following my blogs on the subject, you know why they’d rather not be so open about it. Then, for the purposes of this discussion, let’s toss in the guys who indulge in the sex… but would rather eat shit and die before confessing that they are, in fact, bisexual; again, if you’ve been following along, you’ve seen my thoughts on this one as well.
Are we really so different? That depends on who you ask; if you were to ask me (and you didn’t but this is my blog), I’d say that I’m really no different from other guys… except for one rather significant thing but other than that, nah, I’m just a guy. If you’re all into statistics, then you might know that a lot of men have reported having at least one same-sex experience so to that end, nope, I’m not all that different from a lot of guys… except, ah, I didn’t stop at one or two experiences.
If I could converse with the person who was searching for this, my first question to them would be, “Okay… what about them?” Despite what the scientific community has to say about it, we’ve existed for a very long time and at least as far back as biblical times – hence the warnings about it. Yet, our society behaves as if bisexual men are as mythical as unicorns – and, yeah, that includes the single, bisexual woman so highly prized and cherished in the swinging world.
Reactions to a guy’s dual nature range from total disgust to slack-jawed amazement to nonplussed acceptance; I’ve heard with my own ears people ask, “Why would a guy want to suck another guy’s dick?” – this one kinda cracks me up because, duh, you mean to tell me you couldn’t figure out why? Honestly, it’s not that difficult and, no, it’s not really because bisexual guys have ‘feminine tendencies’ as has been reported. With no disrespect mean to any woman, throwing down with a guy has nothing to do with being or feeling girly – but it’s easy to confuse us with those gay guys who try to out-woman the real thing – and no offense is meant to them, either.
We are not confused. We are not in any form of denial over whether we’re really gay or not… because we’re not gay and, yeah, while we do share the homosexual sex thing, uh, we can, have, and will throw down with a guy, have a grand time… then go get some pussy; we refuse to accept society’s insistence that we pick one gender or the other for our sexual pleasures.
I can also not tell you how many times I’ve been asked, “Do you like men or women?” Ditto for my usual (and sometimes sarcastic) reply of, “Yes.” Being the bisexual guy I am, I’m often amused at the reactions people have; likewise, I’m not so warm and fuzzy about other reactions so even though I’m out there and outspoken about it, there are times when silence is golden.
Other bisexual guys are aware of this, too, which is why they’ve become the riddle I asked in the beginning of this…