Educational What?

10 Feb

I’m sitting here, sipping on my coffee, and well into the morning routine, which includes jumping on WordPress to see what I’ve missed.  After reading what Mystery had to say about hypocritical psychology, I went to my Dashboard, got rid of yet another piece of spam, looked a little down and to the right and, well, my eyes spy “educational masturbation.”

You can tell by the title of this blog exactly what I said to myself… and the funny thing was (well, maybe not so funny) that my brain, with caffeine coursing through it now, started pondering whether or not masturbation – usually a fun thing for folks to do – can be educational.

The old noodle said, “Well, you do have to learn how to do it, right?  Then you do learn something about yourself and something you could reasonably apply to other people – ya feel me?

Obviously, that part of my brain was way ahead of me on this one; I hadn’t gotten past the thought that you learn how good it can feel.

“You know, it is possible that masturbation could be used therapeutically, you know, just like chess can…”

Yep, still way ahead of me; I was momentarily occupied thinking about my own, um, research into it from way back in the day.  As I clicked to start this post, that part of my brain went silent as it worked on just how educational masturbation could be.  I wanted to grab my cup of coffee… but was told to leave it alone for the moment.

“I’m working here – give it a moment, will ya?”

I ignored the order, by the way; if you don’t like coffee, you might not understand.  Anyway, it occurred to me – read that as I was indignantly informed by that part of my brain – that masturbation could be used as a tool to help the sexually dysfunctional break this very disheartening cycle.  Most of us know that it’s okay to ‘touch yourself there’ despite all the admonishments not to; if you’ve heard the old saws of “You’ll go blind” or “You’ll grow hair on the palms of your hand,” then you know what I’m talking about.

It could be used to assist those sexually dysfunctional folks who also have self-esteem and maybe even body image issues, folks who, somewhere along the line in their lives, were told that masturbating was a dirty, nasty, filthy thing to do.  It could be used to teach those who, for whatever reason, find no pleasure in masturbation to actually enjoy it and to literally and figuratively get in touch with themselves.

In the “Related Articles” section, I’m seeing stuff that suggests that masturbation is a bad thing and how it’s considered abnormal behavior, can ruin relationships, and right along with a single article on how it’s not only fun but actually good for stress relief and stuff like that there.  Like one article says, it’s everyone’s dirty little secret; ask someone if they masturbate and they may categorically deny that they do, ever did, or ever will… but if you really want to have some fun, turn right around and ask them why this is – then watch the look on their face and read their body language.

The comedian in my head started laughing and provided the thought, “Oh, yeah, can you see the lines forming to sign up for this class?

The analytical part asked the comedic part to shut the fuck up – it was still working on hashing this all out; Comedic gave Analytical the finger but kept quiet just the same.  Could it be used for therapeutic purposes?  I’m thinking that it could, maybe not initially about being able to please yourself when the mood strikes you… but to give folks a reason to have the mood strike them to begin with.

Comedic asked, “So, ah, you’re gonna open shop, hang out your shingle – again, I might add – and teach guys about spanking the monkey and get gals to ya-ya the sisterhood?  That could get messy…

Analytical slapped Comedic in the back of the head, a la ‘Leroy Jethro Gibbs’, and went on to inform me that, details aside for the moment, sure, it could be used as an educational and therapeutic tool.

I’d really think more about the specifics involved… but it’s Sunday and I need more coffee…


Posted by on 10 February 2013 in Life, Living and Loving


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2 responses to “Educational What?

  1. Pyx

    10 February 2013 at 12:58

    This is great, I have my dealings with masturbation – but I remind my husband often that it is good for his prostate, surely I would love to give him a hand or two with that, but it isnt always about sex… it does serve a function.

    I once told some patients that self pleasure was a great time to touch yourself, all over the place, you would be surprised how many women do not touch themselves naked in the shower (they use something to wash) and the idea for a lot of young girls – using a tampon without an applicator is gross! Gross? but you will let a guy put his penis in there?

    Naked, self loving again doesnt have to be sexual but can lead to sexual arousal – in the shower, in bed, or when I am applying my ritual oils and muds, I touch myself all over the place – remember a lot of women find lumps on their body AFTER their partners have found it… so jerk off and pay attention to the whole book and not just the nipple? Hells yes masturbation can be educational… but after my self exploration is when I usually jump my husband. LOL

    Great answers on lifeofalovergirl’s blog by the way – bravo!


    • kdaddy23

      10 February 2013 at 14:24

      Thanks, Pyx – I had fun answering her questions. I know what I’ve learned about myself, sex, and even life when it comes to yanking my own chain: Don’t leave the responsibility for your sexual pleasure in someone else’s hands, literally and figuratively. It’s fun, healthy, and fun – oh, did I say that twice? Mutual masturbation really isn’t the same thing but this, too, could be used for educational and therapeutic reasons when you really stop to think about it – but, initially, this is really about being able to pleasure yourself and without any guilt or misgivings.

      Women and masturbation… yeah, I’ve heard plenty about that one and, at least in my opinion, I find it really sad that some women just ain’t into pleasuring themselves for whatever reason makes them feel that way. Then again, if you were told – and believed – that it was a dirty, nasty thing to do – and you had to have a man to scratch your itch – well, that would explain a few things, wouldn’t it?



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