It’s kinda funny how you can see something that reminds you of something else, huh? So, lifeofalovergirl wrote this blog – http://lifeofalovergirl.wordpress.com/2013/04/22/trying-to-keep-it-moving/ – and, well, what she’s writing about is really kinda fucked up… but that’s not what got me writing at the moment. No, it was a comment a guy made to her about sucking a guy’s dick and she said it was small… and the guy asked why she’d suck a small dick – paraphrasing here; you should read the blog’s comments to find out exactly what he said.
My first thought (now that I got reminded of it) was, “People who don’t suck dick just don’t get it” and then my next thought was, “There you go… another guy worried about the size of somebody’s dick…” Now, she was kind enough to explain why she went down on this guy and I happen to agree with it because sex is reciprocal – you do me, I’ll do you and all that and, in this, size doesn’t matter… although, as someone who knows a couple of things about sucking dick, um, ‘smaller’ is actually better.
People who don’t suck dick don’t understand that and just because you get your dick sucked – and regardless of your size – it doesn’t mean that you know anything about actually doing it. So any time I see comments like that or some dude complaining about a lousy blowjob or a woman’s lack of talent in that area, I like to invite them to give it a try themselves… and then find out how easy it ain’t. I even invite them to go find a guy with the biggest dick you can find… and then have a go at working on it so you can find out that it’s not as easy as it looks and maybe, just maybe, you can have a better appreciation when someone deigns to go down on you.
I was thinking that the guy said what he said because he’s under the impression that if it ain’t at least nine inches long and several inches in circumference – big enough to club someone to death with – women don’t want to be bothered… and that’s partially true because I know a few size queens and to hear them ranting and raving against anything smaller than nine inches is just pathetic and sad… like homeboy had any fucking control over the size of his tool and that he should be ridiculed and/or denied oral pleasure because he doesn’t have an extra leg in his pants.
The one blowjob I’ve given to a guy that thrilled me to no end was a guy who was only three or four inches when fully erect… and I had so much fun doing him in not once but twice. The criteria here is simple: Is it clean? Does it get hard? If the question to both is yes, then if you like or love to suck dick, well, there you go and, sure, the easier it is for you to handle it, the better it is. The guy I just mentioned? He was of a size that I could easily get his cock AND his balls into my mouth at the same time! As the giver and receiver, oh, man, can it get any better than that?
People who suck dick, are you feeling me on this one?
It all just makes me roll my eyes. Now, I kinda laughed softly because LOALG saw fit to mention that the guy was kinda small… but even though he may not have been of a size she’s used to or prefers, that didn’t stop her from returning the favor – and such things shouldn’t ever stop that from happening. I realize that we live in a sexual culture where “bigger is better” is a mantra of all things sexual even though pretty much everyone winds up learning that it’s not the size of the tool – it’s knowing how to use it and, in this, knowing what to do with it. So if we know this – and who doesn’t know this – then why are some people so size-conscious?
For a moment after I read that guy’s question, I wanted to slap him upside his head… but the thought passed quickly and was replaced by a question: Why was he so concerned about the size of the guy’s dick, hmm? Which are the more important things here when it comes to this? Wait… that was two questions, wasn’t it? Anyway, I personally applauded her for having sex with this guy even though she deemed him to be small… because having sex with someone shouldn’t be based on the size of his dick – it’s supposed to be about the pleasure you can obtain from, um, interacting with it. For the purpose of her blog, I even agreed that if he went down on her (and however well that went), going down on him, while not really mandatory, is the ‘right’ thing to do – call it common courtesy for the lack of a better way to explain it at this moment.
Maybe this dude has spent a lot of time watching porn, where guys with “small” dicks don’t ever seem to exist and where the… models… always seem to go totally ape-shit when she pulls the guy’s phone pole out of his pants… which doesn’t even come close to what real life brings to the table.
I just don’t think it’s ‘right’ for people who don’t suck dick to question someone who does like that because if you want to know why, go find out for yourself and then come back and tell us what your experience was… if you’ve got the stones to find out and perhaps you’ll understand it the way people who do suck dick understand it…
Just had to get this off my chest…