Gotta Blame This On Something

11 Jun

Has anyone been following this story?  I read the article and everyone’s pointing at a lot of stuff, like blaming India’s urbanization and porn for these attacks.  Given that the article also states that India is like number three on the list for watching porn, well, I suppose it’s easier to blame what’s happening on what amounts to a lot of male frustration because they can’t get any poontang.

It does speak to a saying I heard when I was young:  A lack of pussy will make a motherfucker crazy.

It made me frown to read that some officials over there are taking an unpopular stance, namely, blaming the victims for what happened to them, like women are just walking around this country wearing a sign that says, “Please rape me” or something equally idiotic.

A women’s rights activist says of India’s thriving porn industry, “…the porn narrative here is one of sexual violence and domination, which is sending signals to men to associate sex with violence.”  Well, okay, but India isn’t the only country perusing porn that has such a narrative or sends such signals to men; our own homegrown porn is full of depictions of sexual violence and domination of women by men so, to that end, India’s porn seems to be in line with everyone else’s porn (you should watch Japanese porn if you really want to see this at work) and while one could point to the negative messages porn delivers, I’m not so sure that this is the gist of the problem (not that I have a clue what is the real problem).

I know I’ve watched porn and have been taken aback at the messages being displayed and it doesn’t take a genius to figure out that there are some guys – and maybe gals – who really believe that this ‘art’ reflects real life behaviors; I mean, you can’t watch the sex taking place without seeing shit that kinda takes the fun out of watching porn.

But, again, is this really the problem in India?  Well, what I should be asking is that is this really the whole problem or is there something else going on here and perhaps something their cultural pride won’t let them speak about?

So, okay, let’s just blame porn for this.  If it is a contributing factor of the attacks, you’d think that if you made the porn go away, you know, stop the narrative and all that, then perhaps it removes a fuel from the fire… except, hmm, porn is a big-time industry, too – doesn’t make sense to shoot yourself in the foot on this one, right?  I don’t think making rape a death penalty offense is the answer because while that important survival instinct can be strong enough in India’s men – or most men period – to decide that raping a woman ain’t worth getting killed over, there will be some guys who just might continue to believe that their right to take sex from a woman by force is not only their divine right but is, indeed, worth dying over.

Is their problem a moral one?  I don’t pretend to understand their morality but if it’s anything like an Indian co-worker once told me it was, it’s quite possible that their morality is the reason why these rapes are occurring given that it’s both biased against women and restrictive (or so I was told).

This is just some really insane shit.  Even legalizing prostitution isn’t much of an answer because like we see here and in other countries, a prostitute stands a better chance of being brutalized and raped – and all because the guy’s paying for it; with the price of some good pussy can command, some men are gonna be damned sure to get their money’s worth – and at the expense of some hapless sex worker – and workers that governments aren’t too keen about protecting since said sex workers are considered to be lower than low in a lot of cultures.


Posted by on 11 June 2013 in Life, Living and Loving


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2 responses to “Gotta Blame This On Something

  1. Pyx

    12 June 2013 at 10:29

    ( you can tell me to stop taking over your blog in a private PM, I am so taken with the back and forth here, I haven’t blogged – you have been on fire latey! LOL)

    Well the difficulty is blaming porn – when really there are degrees of pornography out there. Unfortunately I am on some rather… unpopular adult sites and that means that men do upload videos of them ‘accidently’ brushing up against women on buses, there is one guy whose whole channel is devoted to sneaky up skirt shots with his video camera phone, the bathroom stall ambush and yes there are videos of women who are clearly ‘not conscious’ at parties being gang raped or girls out in the bushes someplace with several guys. They are not all foreign uploads either.

    When I say video I do not mean cast and promoted by a porn company – these are user videos who are able to upload these things themselves.

    Can this warp minds? Sure! We have only begun to see the extent of how this technology is working with the brain – the youth today is not anything like the youth of my day, when a 16 month old baby can text on an iPhone… sorry I’m fascinated from an evolutionary standpoint. And we are ever evolving and we should also consider the group mentality in such instances as well: things happen and then while it happening we humans can sometimes find ourselves involve in a situation we normally would not be a part of.

    So when a society takes a particular activity to a fetish extreme, you are right, there are several things going on at once and one of those things does include ignoring travel warning when in a foreign country. I am not saying those women deserved to be raped – but who the fuck hitch hikes back home in the middle of the night? Even in America I would not do that… but campers and off road travelers only need to check in with authorities to get a local report and use common sense. When traveling abroad I was super sensitive and aware of my surroundings but also knew then when I traveled to a less than well beaten path the risk was increased.

    Certainly there are subjects of Indian culture that hold different perspective on women – what culture doesn’t – but we also see gang rapes and women held hostage against their will in America: example would be 2011 an 11 year old girl raped by 18 men in Texas over a period of several days and they took video of the assault.

    I think we need to be careful here when the press chooses to make this a cultural problem (it only happens over there) when portraying gang rapes in other countries because it would be like CNN saying: only black men drug, kidnap white girls and gang rape them in America.

    ** does porn impact the desires of people watching it? Umm yes. You only need ask a woman that was sexually active BEFORE the internet came along and recently has been asked if a guy can ‘gape’ her asshole. Ask some guys if they get requests from women to ‘tie them up’ and get kinky a la Mr Grey. We are highly subject to suggestion we humans.


    • kdaddy23

      12 June 2013 at 13:00

      Why would I tell you to stop, Pyx? This blog exists to exchange thoughts with other bloggers so you keep right on commenting! It just seems to me that if the number of rapes are skyrocketing in India and now natives and visiting women have to be more aware of roving rape gangs, there has to be a reason for it and I just don’t think that the ‘bad messages’ porn sends is completely responsible.

      But I liked what you said about evolution and it seems that morality and stuff like that has been lagging way behind, unable to keep up with the times or, better, what’s going on right now where sex and sexuality is concerned. We know that a lot of religions/cultures have some pretty strict stuff about sex and sexuality and a lot of it is aimed at procreation with lots of admonishments about fornication – you know, what people who ain’t married do. But we’re not the same animal that existed when these things were put into place; we’ve changed, our need for sex has changed, but the rules governing behavior in this have not. And, yeah, things have gotten so bad in this that a lot of rapes are taking place and this could be a huge breakaway from moral standards that, again, tend to prohibit sex.

      And mostly everyone knows that the most exciting sex is that which you’re not supposed to be doing (per morality).



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