A thought popped into my head in the form of what really is a rhetorical question: Why isn’t two guys getting it on not always seen as sexy/sensual? One of the things that probably doesn’t make this an attractive thing to see is how porn makes it look, willing to show us all kinds of guys… except regular Joe-type dudes.
We can see twinks, those guys who look like they should take the money they make from a shoot and gorge themselves on as much food as they can; these guys also appear to be a lot more feminine with their streamlined, hairless look. Then you have the biker-type dudes – I really don’t know what to say about this group with their leathers and looking as if they’re trying out for a Village People revival or need to rethink that whole leather fetish because, yuck, a lot of them don’t wear leather well. Then you have the muscle-bound hulks, guys who look as if their time would be better spent in the gym or lifting car engines.
Then you have those really hairy guys known as bears – I’d like to dip them into a vat of Nair more than anything else. Then you have the father-figure types, some of which I give props for doing porn instead of playing canasta or bridge at the local old folks’ home.
I’ve watched gay porn featuring these types, the industry’s idea of what they think would be seen as hot and sexy and maybe even sensual… and I’m not sure about that because I’ve yet to watch any of this and say to myself, “Ooh, I’d love to do it with that guy!”
Big dicks prevail and, oh, yeah, cock rings; with the way some guys wear them, it makes me wince to wonder just how they got that thing around their cock and balls. Now, while I do so very much enjoy looking at all that nice meat, to watch it being put to use, at least for me, is anything other than sexy/sensual. But, then again, porn’s main job is to stimulate and excite more than show the kind of man-sex the average guy would consider normal; if there’s gay porn out there with average-type guys, I’ve not seen it – yet.
When I’ve talked to other swingers and the mano a mano thing comes up (and it invariably does), that you have that group of guys who’d rather eat shit and die before engaging in any sex with another man is a given; ditto for that handful of women who not only think two men getting jiggy is some hot shit to watch, they’d love it even more if their guy would stop being a pussy and give her a thrill similar to the one he demands of her. The most interesting faction, though, is the one that states that while they have nothing against guys who want to have sex with other guys, it’s a big turn-off because it’s not sexy/sensual – read this as there’s no real ‘beauty’ in watching two guys getting sweating, grunting, groaning, what have you.
Then you have guys like me: We have this kind of sex but while any act we might partake of is enough to float our boats and pop our corks, when it comes to being sexy/sensual, eh, not so much. I’m not gonna say that it’s not interesting to watch or even stimulating; I just know that even if I’m in the middle of sucking a guy’s dick, sexy/sensual is nowhere near my thoughts or feelings.
Since I’m not much of a kisser when it comes to guys, if any sensuality comes into play, well, it’s before any oral sex takes place. Now at this point, if I’m sucking on a guy’s neck and ears (and trying not to laugh because he thinks I’m gonna kiss him) and working over his nipples, yeah, that’s kinda sexy and sensual… but would you think so if you were sitting nearby and watching me do that?
How much does this, uh, lack of vision play into bisexual acceptance when it comes to men? Why is it that we can give two thumbs up to a visual of a guy between a woman’s legs… but might go looking for the barf bag if the picture/visual was of a man between another man’s legs?
Is it the angst and taboo of such sex… or is it just ‘impossible’ for two men to have sex and make it look sexy and sensual?