Is He or Isn’t He?

16 Jul

Redwineandroses, in her comments to “Surprise” shared that her SO not only chokes his chicken watching tranny porn but has said to her that he wants to do a tranny… while maintaining that he’s not bisexual.

If you read “Surprise,” you would have seen where after my, um, experience, a tranny is just a guy with tits so any sex you might have with one is still going to be homosexual sex – the addition of a nice rack seems to make a difference but, at least to me, it really isn’t because while a guy might be happily sucking away on that nice-looking rack, there’s still an erection in the mix… and I’m not talking about the other guy.

This ain’t about how a tranny sees themselves; they very well may literally bring out the woman in them by changing their features and adding whatever size rack they want and/or can afford… but physically, that cock dangling between his legs makes ‘her’ a ‘him’ – and we’re not going to argue the gender binary or other headache-producing contradictions here.

Redwineandroses said that her SO refers to trannies as “she” – that’s kinda understandable since, say, 38DD breasts are normally only associated with women.  You get the ‘she-male’ designation because, duh, they might be a she from the waist up… but from the waist down?  Hermaphrodites notwithstanding, if you have a cock and balls, you’re a guy as far as most people would be concerned.

So… if a straight man has sex with a transvestite, is he still straight?  Is Red’s SO justified in saying that even though he wants to have sex with one, he’s not bisexual?  Let’s take it a little further and say that while he’d want the T-girl to give him head – but he’s not gonna return the favor, if he fucks ‘her’, well, unless some really special surgery took place, that T-girl only has one hole to accept his boner – and we know what hole that is.

I don’t know about y’all but in my world, if a guy fucks another guy in the ass, he’s either bi or gay – even if the guy has nice tits and pretty hair and all that.  Again, they might be emotionally female but when it comes to the physical, well…

Any staunch and hardcore LGBT advocates reading this might be having a bit of a hissy fit – and I’m not trying to upset them… I’m just calling it as I see it nor am I debating that whole gender identity issue with this; if you think you’re female but you weren’t born with the female form, I can see changing your body and exchanging the cock you were born with for an artificially-created vagina – then the argument about whether or not they’re actually a woman kinda goes away unless you wanna check her DNA for the XX chromosomes that cannot ever be changed.  You keep the cock – and there are reasons why a T-girl wouldn’t want to part with it – and they still have XX chromosomes, well, you might be a woman trapped in a man’s body… but women don’t have dicks and balls – no offense to the hermaphrodites.

And if you have sex with ‘her’, you just might be bisexual.  A question just popped into my head:  Would a gay man have sex with a T-girl or would the nice rack be a total turnoff to him because despite the erection, they still look like a woman?


Posted by on 16 July 2013 in Life, Living and Loving


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6 responses to “Is He or Isn’t He?

  1. redwinenroses

    2 August 2013 at 11:02

    On this one you put into words exactly what I had been thinking, even with the last question you asked!


    • kdaddy23

      2 August 2013 at 12:25

      To be honest, I’m not sure of the answer to that question although I would think that it probably wouldn’t happen – gay men are not known for their sexual love of women; they wouldn’t be gay if they were, right?


  2. redwinenroses

    9 August 2013 at 11:29

    I have wondered about that as well. Would a Gay guy have sex with with T-Girl, being that ‘she’ has boobs? Or would a Gay woman have sex with a T-Girl, being that ‘she’ has a package? Would it make either somehow less Gay if they did? Would it actually mean that the person might be Bisexual and not Gay, if the did it and liked it and then did it more than once?


    • kdaddy23

      9 August 2013 at 12:19

      Good questions… and I’m thinking that the answer would be no to all of them unless, of course, our hypothetical gay person felt that they really weren’t 100% gay. I know I’ve read blogs written by lesbians who will give another lesbian the business and take away her lesbian card if she actually has sex with man in order to have a baby. At first, that kinda puzzled me because unless she can adopt or is able to afford the costs involved with in vitro fertilization, um, the only way you’re gonna get pregnant is letting a dude hit it. But, then, you kinda get to the root of the whole thing with some gay folks – men and women – in that if you cross back over to being bi or – gasp – being straight, then you’ve betrayed what it means to be gay.


  3. redwinenroses

    10 August 2013 at 10:53

    I’ve read blogs like that as well but having sex with a man as a means to an end is not really the same thing as having sex with a man because it feel good and is desirable. Add in the fact that a lesbian having sex with a man once or even a few times just to be able to have a baby is not the same as having sex with a man because she is attracted to him sexually or romantically. As a means to have a baby, I dont see that she would be any less Gay/Lesbian. If a Gay man had sex with a woman in order to have a child I do not that he would be any less Gay either but again, its not the same thing as having sex with her for pleasure.


    • kdaddy23

      10 August 2013 at 12:04

      I agree; it’s the difference between business and pleasure as far as the totally gay folks having children goes. But, they have a legitimate ‘excuse’ for crossing the line; someone we both know – and whose name we will never mention – has no excuses in this other than not wanting to admit to something that you and I embrace joyously. I had my tranny experience; it was… interesting, to say the least, but it’s not something I’d want to experience again – I prefer my men without a 38D rack.



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