You guys have got to go to Sydney’s blog and listen to this conversation she had with a gay guy who tried to convince her that her boyfriend is really gay. I read his initial comment to her blog – you should probably read that first – http://soimdatingthisbiguy.wordpress.com/2013/07/29/why-do-people-on-the-internet-hate-on-bi-guys/ – and look for “Rafael’s” comment, which lead to her actually talking to him.
Lord knows I’ve had this conversation too many times with gay men who were dead set on telling me that there was no way I could like pussy and dick and that I was so very much in denial about really being gay. I listened to Sydney’s conversation and, wow, it sounded really familiar except for the multiple insults “Rafael” hurled at her – man, talk about gross disrespect for another person!
See, with my mindset these days, I couldn’t have had that conversation with someone like “Rafael” – I would have done my best to shred his ass for being so fucking stupid and narrow-minded; today, I would not do well with someone who doesn’t know me trying to tell me that I’m really gay and that my woman is some gay-hating, scheming bitch who’s trying to keep me from realizing my full potential as a gay man because calling myself bi is just a front.
Honestly, I’m a little surprised to learn that there are still gay men out there who continue to think like “Rafael” does, that when it comes to sexuality, there’s no middle ground – you’re either straight or you’re gay and while there are a lot of absolutes in life, uh, this ain’t one of them. Okay, sure, I know a couple of men who went from being straight to being bi and then realized that they were gay all along; it’s like they tried it and it just wasn’t for them. Likewise, I know gay men who have never been with a woman, swearing off of pussy and they’ve never given it a test drive, as it were.
But there are obviously guys who have gone both ways… and that’s just fine with them. It stands to reason that if one bisexual man exists, there must be others because it would be fucking impossible that I’m the only bisexual man in the entire world, right? One would think that common sense would tell a person that if “Jack” says he’s bisexual and this is a certainty within himself, no one is going to be able to convince him that he’s really gay… because he knows for a damned fact that he isn’t… and he probably would never, ever want to be entirely gay.
No offense meant to gay men – I do respect your decision and right to be gay and if it works for you, more power to ya but I know – just like a lot of bi men do – that I couldn’t be just gay anymore than I could just be straight. But I really think a lot of gay men do, in fact, understand this… except this “Rafael” character and, my friends and readers, if you really want to take a look at this unique kind of sexual prejudice, please, click on the links and see and hear it firsthand and more so if you’ve never heard anything like this before.
Sydney gets so many props from me on this one…