Once More Into the Fray…

08 Oct

Hanging out on the right side of my Dashboard is, of course, that little area that says, “Top Searches” and today’s top search of interest is “bisexual sex.”  This is almost a no-brainer; bisexual sex isn’t about having sex with men (or women if you’re a girl) – it’s about having sex with both sexes and to whatever degree suits one’s purposes.

I think one of the things that fuck people up about this is an insistence that there has to be a preference, you know, you like having sex with women more than you do with men and, indeed, a lot of bisexuals tend to behave like this, like having sex with someone who’s the same sex as they are is seen as something different or something they’ve added on to their primary preference for having sex.

We – society – tend to treat bisexuality as that either/or thing that personally drives me ape shit; bisexual sex is about both so the answer to the somewhat irritating question of whether or not you’d rather have sex with a man or a woman is… yes.  Bisexual sex is about erasing that line that someone keeps drawing because bisexuals are ‘forced’ into making a choice between sex with a man and sex with a woman, like you should really do one or the other… but not both.

It’s not about when you do it like this nor is it about whatever it is you do when you do it like this – it’s simply the fact that you can do it like this.  What is so hard to understand about this?  There’s nothing mysterious about having the ability and desire to have sex from both sides of the gate.  Okay, yeah, there is that whole “bisexuals really exist!” thing from a while back – I still think that’s just too damned funny but, back to being serious, it’s not a big deal if you do have this ability to pull off the balancing act of sex.

Not just with women.  Not just with men.  It is with both and in whatever way works the best for you.  It doesn’t matter if your head is in that “I like pussy and dick but I like pussy/dick more” space.  What does matter is the first part of this preferential statement – liking pussy and dick… not pussy or dick.  See, using the word ‘or’ forces bisexuals to make a choice within the choice they’ve already made for themselves in this; this, I believe, is society’s attempt to make bisexuals stay in one room or the other:  You’re either straight or gay and, well, guys and gals, you just fucking confuse us when you knock down the wall and play in the bigger room!  Why won’t you just stay in one room or the other?

Because for those of us who are bisexual, staying in one room or the other just doesn’t fulfill our needs – why [again] is this so hard to understand?  Pussy alone doesn’t satisfy us just like a steady diet of dick won’t.  Ah, but if we can have both, well, we’re a happy bunch of recently discovered critters!  I know, just like many more people like me, that being dick deep inside a woman is so fucking wonderful… but so is having a man’s cock in your mouth or ass if you like it like that and making him cum and feeling his cock pulsing strongly as it pumps sperm into the condom he’s wearing or, if you’re brave, directly into your ass.

Does it really get any better than this, to want, have, and enjoy the best of both worlds?  I don’t think it does and I suspect other bisexuals feel the same way.  This, my friends, is the essence of bisexual sex as this blogger – and dyed-in-the-wool bisexual – sees this subject.

Next up, a lot of words about the objectification of women…

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