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Porn and Male Sexuality

09 Dec

http://professorpolyamory.com/2013/12/09/the-homosexual-heterosexual-binary-lie/

I would very much like for those who are interested in sexuality issues to click on the above link and read this blog… and especially the part where the author talks about porn.  I found that part to be interesting because, as a bi guy, sure, I like looking at another man’s erection, watching him use it in whatever way he’s using it, and then pull out, jerk himself furiously, and squirt sperm all over whoever he was screwing… although I’ve always thought that this part was a terrible waste of sperm.

I will admit to never seriously given any thought to straight guys watching porn for the reason I might be watching it… but the author of the blog suggests that this may be so, that even when watching straight porn, men aren’t necessarily watching it for the gorgeous woman that’s being fucked.  I think the author accurately pointed out some change in the porn mentality, making a switch from ‘average-looking’ guys with average-sized cocks to dudes who are ripped and possessors of huge pricks – and right along with those extremely beautiful women.

The author suggests that men watch porn to vicariously enjoy seeing another man’s cock and that the woman is just a prop and one used to facilitate our homosexual desires… and I thought, “Well, um, there might be some truth to that…” and it did occur to me that there have been times when I’ve watched porn with other guys and paid attention to them as they watched; I’ve often heard comments about the size of the guy’s dick even as they comment on the woman’s body; I’ve definitely heard them comment at the point where the guy on the screen pulls out and shoots his load and, yup, the comments have always been about how much sperm he’s shot.

Anyone remember Peter North?  Man, talk about a guy who could bring a load!  When I first saw him on the screen and the amount of sperm some poor girl would have to deal with, hell, I was impressed right down to my socks… but so were some guys I know who have seen Mr. North do his thing.  Now, I wouldn’t have dared to question their sexuality in regards to this but maybe that blog’s author has a point:  If you’re not bi or gay, uh, why would watching another man bust a nut capture your attention so much?  Indeed, in my observations, I had noticed that at the moment the guy pulled out for the cum shot, not one man there looked away as the guy choked his chicken to deliver the load for the camera.

The author suggests that the cum shot’s whole purpose is for men to see other men get off; personally, I always thought it came to be because it was visual proof that the sex you just watched was real – that cum shots can be faked is besides the point.  But, again, as a bi guy, hell, yeah, I have often fast-forwarded through a flick just so I can watch the way he finished himself… but no one would find that unusual since I’m bi, right?

I know straight guys who watch gay porn and under the premise of them trying to figure out why two guys would want to have sex with each other.  And I’d laugh at them because, um, if that’s what you wanted to know, you only had to watch a gay porn flick once to get the gist of the whole thing; if you’re watching gay porn more than once, well, what might that say about the straight guy watching it?

That there may be some correlation here is just interesting.  Sure, it’s easy for a guy to watch some straight porn and emphatically state that he’s watching it because of the girl and she’s got a killer bod, nice tits, and an onion booty, you know, that ass that looks so good it makes you want to cry.  But unless you’ve got a serious vision problem, it’s almost impossible to watch her without watching what he’s doing and especially when he’s using that huge dick on girlfriend.

It makes me think about what porn focuses on; like, when the woman is being face-fucked, what are guys really looking at?  Are they looking at how she’s sucking him… or are they looking at that guy’s dick being rammed into girlfriend’s mouth?  You might see the guy eating pussy… but not for very long and not very often – it’s face-fuck the girl and then ram it into her.  The camera is now getting every possible angle of homie’s dick in her pussy and/or ass… and there’s no doubt that  us guys are sitting there watching his dick more than we’re paying attention to the girl he’s fucking.

Getting a little weird for ya right about now?  It would be weird and more so if you never looked at porn from this perspective, huh?  I’m sure there are straight guys reading this and going, “Oh, fuck no!  That’s not why I watch porn!  Men don’t turn me on ’cause I sure the fuck ain’t gay!”

Not saying that anyone’s gay – I’m just speaking out on an aspect of porn and sexuality that I never gave any thought to… but I have seen with my own eyes what the blog’s author is talking about.  Is there any real truth to this?  Damned if I know… but I do find it interesting and, indeed, the whole blog is interesting (at least I thought so; otherwise, I wouldn’t have read it).

 
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7 responses to “Porn and Male Sexuality

  1. B. K. Hung

    9 December 2013 at 19:42

    A very interesting post. I’d probably agree with you. Perhaps we’re all bi-curious. But does that mean we must be gay? Just a thought. (There’s nothing wrong with being gay)

    Also another thought: I do look at the guys cock when he’s fucking her. But I’ve always interpreted it as this: we imagine his cock is ours, his sensations are ours – but as a way to experience the pussy he’s fucking in as intimate a way as possible. Does that make any sense?

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    • kdaddy23

      9 December 2013 at 19:58

      Welcome, BK, and no, I don’t believe that we must be gay unless, of course, being gay works for a fella. Your other thought does make sense; most guys do, in fact, watch porn and imagine that they’re the one nailing the hot chick or, at the least, fervently wish he could be the one nailing the hot chick and that’s something I’d consider to be normal. But the “men watch porn because they may be latently homosexual” theory? Like I said, I never gave it any thought until I read that blog and while I couldn’t say that this is a chiseled-in-stone fact, it could be plausible… but even if we (as guys) are checking out the dude’s dick on the screen, that doesn’t mean we’re ‘secretly’ wishing we could get to play with it as well and the fact that we’re even looking at his cock doesn’t mean that we’re gay or even want to be (no offense to gay dudes) and being bisexual could be so far off a guy’s radar that he doesn’t even know the meaning of the word.

      I just found that part of the blog fascinating and I hope you read it as well to get the full flava!

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  2. B. K. Hung

    9 December 2013 at 20:04

    Agreed.

    The subtleties that we cum to learn… 😉

    (I have yet to read the link. It’s on my list. Cheers)

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  3. Pyx

    10 December 2013 at 08:59

    As a woman I would have to agree – I have asked myself this question and came to a similar conclusion. I am also convinced most online cock shots are of the same theory: it is really for other guys.

    Through all the sex I have had a guy pulling out to leave a healthy deposit someone ON my flesh is pretty rare…

    I think it might be a monkey brain thing, showing one’s ass and or exposing genitals in a male on male aggression posture – or Knights and everyone wants to pull out their swords and compare!

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    • kdaddy23

      10 December 2013 at 12:34

      Hi, Pyx! I recall being on the swinging site forum one day and a debate about cock shots was in progress and was doing a good job of confirming my position that sex makes people crazy. At one point, one guy said that he didn’t mind cock shots on profiles because it gives ‘them’ a chance to see what the other guy is packing; someone came right back and asked him why HE was looking at other guy’s junk if he wasn’t bisexual, which I thought was a good question and I was pissed that I hadn’t asked it myself. The guy who made the statement kinda went off and went into a long explanation, saying that he looked at the other guys’ dick to make sure it would okay for his wife.

      I jumped in – I couldn’t help it – and asked, “Why would you be worried about that when the dick ain’t gonna be used on you?”

      Now, maybe it’s that competition thing men have built into them… or maybe this guy had an unconscious and latent appreciation for cock… but when you think about that part of the blog I wrote about, it makes you go, “Hmm…” doesn’t it?

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  4. Mrs Fever

    14 December 2013 at 13:38

    I’m inclined to agree with BK on the whole ‘imagining it’s ME’ thing when it comes to men watching other men. Though I liked Thumper’s points on the homoeroticism of porn-watching, be it gay, bi, straight, or masturbatory.

    I also agree with Pyx on the whole cock shot thing. Men are much more interested in their own erections ~ and in each others’ ~ than any woman is, in my experience. Plus, photography is all about angles. If you (not you personally, but *men*) are making your dick look bigger/longer/fatter than it actually is through the creative use of lens magic… What the fuck is the point? When a woman sees it for real, she’s gonna know the truth. Why not let that be a package that’s unwrapped when it’s gifting time, eh? Makes much more sense to me.

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    • kdaddy23

      14 December 2013 at 13:58

      Thanks for joining the conversation, Mrs. Fever! Okay, the point you asked about: Men have issues with their junk because we have it in our minds that women (in particular) only want the longest, fattest dicks so we have a lot of angst about that… even when we’re well-equipped. I’ve always found it funny that we will, if we can, check out each other’s shit because for some reasons, it’s always good to know what the competition has and we feel that we have to measure up… and even if our shit is bigger than the other guys. We’re just weird like that, I suppose. Yep, we can make the camera lens lie for us – Photoshop is one of the greatest computer programs invented since Windows – but when it comes to the reveal, well, yeah, the truth will out every time and while a lot of women really don’t want to see it before the fact, we also know that at the moment she unwraps the present, um, things can either be very good… or very bad; nothing like whipping it out and having her ask, “What is this shit?”

      I’d have to admit that the homoeroticism thing went right over my head because as someone who likes being intimate with another man’s cock, I just never paid any attention to it and when I had those chances to see guys paying close attention to the dicks on the screen, I just found it kinda interesting but never seriously put the two things together. Today, I’d go as far to say that some guys would tell you that there’s a difference between watching another guy’s dick on a screen and having one right in their face (and I suppose there is but I’d have to think some more about that aspect). It makes them okay with looking because if you’re watching to see the woman, you can’t do that without seeing that dick… but if the guy sitting next to them pulls his shit out, there might be a problem – maybe. I’ve seen some ‘strange’ shit happen after some porn has been watched…

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