I had this thought in my head as the new year came in and right after I thought about this, I read an article about Brian Boitano coming out. I nodded, thought that yet another famous person – and Olympic athlete – is out of the closet… and perhaps we’re going to see a lot more people coming out and declaring their sexuality in some way.
I don’t particularly think this is a bad thing and while there are still huge pockets of straightness in the world, it seems to me that people are slowly but surely embracing whatever sexuality fits their lives – the LGBTQ thing – where they’ve picked one of those letters and now they are running with it and to hell with the consequences and to hell with how the straight people think.
If this sexuality reawakening is a revolution, it’s still a quiet one; as far as I know, there’s no “National Coming Out Day” planned, a call to anyone not straight to drop all of the pretenses they’ve carried in their lives and join others to shout to the mountaintops, “I’m not straight and I’m damned proud of it!” And even if there is such a day, well, okay; there might not be masses of out people running rampant in the streets but a lot of people would take the first step into coming out and that’s coming out to themselves.
But only when they’re ready; it takes time to assimilate not being straight, trying to sort out feelings that run counter to the sexuality status quo while trying to determine where on that sliding scale they are. Maybe they’ve confirmed their spot and are now trying to work out what, if anything, they’re going to do about what they are and how their life is going to be once they take that first step toward action.
Perhaps more people will complete the act of coming out to themselves and give some thought about doing so with others; perhaps more people will skip this step and just do whatever comes naturally to them, having come to the conclusion that if anyone else finds out, they just find out. Others – those with some fame – will use the media to announce their outness and as eye-rolling as that can be, it does send a message to the world that anyone, regardless to their fame, can be bi or gay and proudly so.
I have a sense that the more famous folks that come out, the bigger the impact on the rest of us who aren’t so famous; the famous will show that standing up for themselves – and at the risk of their notoriety – is of greater import because fame is fleeting… but you still have to have a life after the spotlight grows dim and one’s fame fades to black.
Should be an interesting year for coming out and sexuality…