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What Gay Porn Teaches Us

23 Jan

After writing “MMM-Plus,” my thoughts turned to what, if anything, gay porn can teach the bisexual man since this is obviously what we do when we switch over from screwing women to getting with men.  Again, it’s homosexual sex and if you don’t think that it is, well, wake up and get some more coffee into your system.

The first and obvious thing it can teach you is that men do, in fact, have sex with other men… but it helps to keep in mind that when you’re watching gay porn, you’re watching actors doing a job – they may or may not really be gay or bisexual and they’re just following a script.  There are quite a few subsets of gay porn, from twinks to bears to lovers of leather and even BDSM-like action so not only do you learn that men have sex with each other, it is varied.

If you’ve never sucked a dick, gay porn can teach you how it’s done although one can often see scenes of cock sucking where the guy doing the sucking isn’t exactly all that thrilled to be doing it.  You can learn how to suck cock in the 69 position and the subtle differences handing a cut dick and an uncut one.  That these actors are selected because of the size of their cocks can kinda be ignored; this isn’t to say that men don’t have dicks that big but emphasizing size is meant to add to the visual stimulation.  In the oral sex lessons gay porn can provide, size really doesn’t matter as much as technique does – size just adds some challenge to the whole thing.

You can learn that men do kiss and passionately so; you also learn that a man’s body can be orally explored just as much as a woman’s body can, teaching you that you don’t always have to go from stripping down to sucking dick and not have a ‘warm-up’ period in between.  Whether one finds this to be a personal turn-on or not isn’t at issue… but the fact that it can be done is and, of course, what you’re watching on the screen is designed to stimulate more than anything else.  It’s about male foreplay and the things we can do to each other to get ready for more intense stimulation.

You can learn about anal stimulation, from being rimmed to being digitally stimulated – having a finger or two in your butt.  It’s not only done to enhance one’s pleasure but also to prepare one’s butt hole to have something much bigger than fingers wind up there.  If you’ve never had your ass fingered and your prostate messed with, you’re missing out on something pretty damned intense.

Then, of course, you can learn how to fuck someone’s ass and how to be fucked (with or without protection); and it’s rather graphic, too, watching a pretty good-sized cock being pushed into a hole that, by appearance, can barely accept a finger.  You don’t get to see or learn the process of making sure one’s ass is clean and evacuated – that’s all done before the fact – and, sometimes, you don’t get to see when the lube has been applied but for the purpose of the film, nah, you don’t need to see that – you just need to see someone’s ass being penetrated and then, of course, lustily fucked and in multiple positions.

The cum shot… well, it is what it is although there are some flicks where pulling out doesn’t happen until a load of spunk has been injected and, of course, it’s visually stimulating to see it oozing out.  The lesson here, of course, is that pulling out and shooting that load all over the place or leaving it in place and doing it is acceptable, just as it is to pull out and either jerk and/or suck the load out – but provided that the cleanliness procedures have been strictly adhered to.  That ass-to-mouth thing is inherently disgusting; it’s one thing to be in another guy’s ass, something else to suck that dick once it comes out of there but, of course, in real life, such things do happen.

If one chooses to watch this, they can learn that having sex with a man isn’t all that different than having sex with a woman as far as the physical is concerned.  The actors do their best to portray the lust and the effort involved with getting your thang off with a man; by watching the men on the screen, you can get an idea of what’s really involved with this and all the viewer has to do is add their own emotions and even preferences.  For newbies who are on the verge of taking the plunge but aren’t sure what’s really involved, watching gay porn can provide the basics; it’s kinda easier to see this and decide for one’s self whether or not they can actually do any of the stuff they may be looking at.

And watching gay porn is great visual stimulation if all you want and need to do is jerk yourself off.  There are those who say that porn is a poor vehicle for sex education and I’ll even agree that it is – it’s an exaggeration of what real-life experiences are like and it’s portrayed to stimulate more than anything else.  You can watch it and learn a great deal… but it’s certainly no replacement for actual experience.

 
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