About an hour ago, I read a blog with the Bisexuality tag where the author went on a rant, essentially saying that there’s no such thing as a bisexual and that people are only straight or homosexual… and I rolled my eyes mightily because, clearly, there are so many people out there in the world who continue to see things in the absolute black and white viewpoint.
It’s amazing how many people continue to hold onto a viewpoint like this when there’s plenty of evidence that contradicts their point of view. I understand that we all believe in stuff and in whatever way we do… but there was a time when people thought the world was flat until they learned that it wasn’t. There were people who believed the earth was the center of the universe and everything revolved around it until they learned that they weren’t even close to the truth. And it was once believed that everyone was heterosexual until it was learned that, um, nope, that’s not even the truth. It was once believed that humans only had sex for procreation until this, too, was proved to be inaccurate – we have sex simply because we can and it’s a whole lot of fun (most of the time). At some point in our sexual history, two men figured out that, hey, we can get our rocks off with each other; likewise, two women discovered that they could do a better job of delivering sexual pleasure than men could.
Yet, despite the evidence that exists in the here and now, there are still people who refuse to believe that men can have relationships with each other just as much as women can with each other – and they say that we’re the ones who are confused, that we’re deceiving ourselves into believing that we aren’t what we’ve proven ourselves to be?
The author of the blog I mentioned says that guys who’d rather hang with the fellas than their women are exhibiting homosexual behavior, as if he never heard of the concept of male bonding. Indeed, within his rant is evidence that he has a very narrow view of sexuality as well as sexual behaviors – he doesn’t seem to believe that a man or a woman could enjoy sex outside of heterosexuality… but they’re not homosexual by default. Forget Kinsey’s famous scale, which reveals that there are gray areas in human sexuality – oh, like bisexuality, for instance. Let’s not think about the fact that if heterosexuality is zero and homosexuality is six, there are a lot of other numbers in there that a lot of people just happen to fall into. Why should we pay attention to the fact that there are people who are expanding Kinsey’s scale beyond mere homosexuality, creating a new upper limit and, thus, more shades of gray?
The world isn’t flat. The universe doesn’t have the earth at its center. Bisexuals are very real and none of them are confused about what they are. Sure, we might question to what extent we are bisexual but there’s little doubt that we are; come one, it’s really not that hard to figure out, right? Does it go against the status quo? No, not really, since humans have been displaying these behaviors for a very long time; it just goes against what we’ve been conditioned to believe and the way the majority wants things to go – how’s that been working, by the way? Not so good?
I get that there are people who firmly believe that bisexuals and homosexuals shouldn’t exist… which, of course, doesn’t change the fact that they do. You can try to apply whatever methods you care to in order to disprove their existence and, ultimately, they will all fail and if there are people out there who are trying to prove this lack of existence, I say to them that you are the ones who are deceiving yourselves because one of the things we all learn at some point is that life doesn’t do things the way you’d like it to.
Is having a viewpoint of zero shades of gray a matter of belief… or is it ignorance and a form of denial that’s being foisted upon those of us who aren’t straight? I’m not gonna say that having the belief that anyone that isn’t heterosexual is wrong is, in and of itself, a bad thing – if that’s what you believe, then it’s what you believe but just because you believe it’s wrong only means that you believe it’s wrong – doesn’t mean that bisexuals and homosexuals (and all the other queer folks) don’t exist.
The shades of gray in human sexuality do exist and we are learning that these gray areas are much larger than we previously thought they were. Open your eyes and your mind and allow yourself to see them; you don’t have to accept them but you should acknowledge that these gray areas do exist and they’ve always existed…