The following is a URL of a blogger I discovered while browsing the “Bisexuality” tag: http://assentive.wordpress.com/2014/03/04/bi-all-rights/
When I read it earlier today, I really loved what he had to say and his questions on whether or not to become an advocate for bisexuality within the Community and it raised a question in my mind: As bisexuals, should we all strive to be advocates for what everyone calls “gay rights?” And, if so, in what form should such advocacy take?
Do we run out to our local LGBT group and throw our support to a cause that contains some segments that don’t exactly like us? Do we even want to get caught up in the political bullshit that’s being flung over the rights of the gay and transgendered when, upon closer examination, these folks have issues that bisexuals don’t have to deal with? Could we, with a clear conscious, become advocates for bisexuals only and, in a sense, ignore the much broader community?
Y’all know I don’t have any problems talking about bisexuality, whether I’m sharing my experiences or otherwise riffing about what it means to be bisexual and that the things others say about us aren’t entirely or specifically true to all of us. In a sense, when you see me writing about this I am, in my own way, being an advocate by trying to be a positive voice in a sea of negative voices. Every time I think about doing something like attending a Pride parade or something, man, I just cannot see myself doing it, not that I don’t have it in my heart to back my fellow bisexuals as best I can – I just have issues dealing with political situations (read that as little tolerance and patience for politics).
But even if you can get one person to understand bisexuality, it’s a start; if you can get one person to get over the fears being bisexual can bring to the table, this is good, too. If you can answer a question, dispel a myth, or otherwise give another bisexual some insight, this is also a good thing and, yeah, I really don’t need to hang out at the local LGBT chapter to do this – it’s one of the reasons why I have a blog, one of the reasons why I write about this as much as I do.
If I can get one bisexual to not buy into the bullshit being flung all over the place, then I think I’ve done a good thing. If I can speak out against this so-called privilege thing and this bisexual erasure crap and someone sees that I think it’s bullshit, then maybe they, too, can call stuff like this into question and not just allow themselves to be bullied by those people who aren’t comfortable with our sexuality.
You know, when I catch myself up on my soapbox, I ask myself, “What are you doing?” and the answer is, “What I need to do.” I know people struggle with being bi and if I found a way to get through those struggles – and without any help, mind you – then why can’t I do what’s right and help other bisexuals, even if it’s to let them know that they really aren’t alone in this. Sure, you can reasonably assume that there other bisexuals out there… but that’s different from being able to hear from someone who’s been there, done that, trying to give away some of the T-shirts.
And when I read the blogs of other bisexuals (or folks who think they may be bi), it gives me insight into what they’re thinking about these days, which just adds on to that which I’ve learned over the years. Am I an advocate? Yeah, I guess that in my own way, I am. Not so much because I feel that we, as bisexuals, are really getting the shitty end of the stick but because I have knowledge and experiences that could make a difference in someone’s life and to withhold those things, well, I just don’t believe that it’s good or right thing to do.