The Type

23 Aug

Over my life to date, I’ve had quite a few people tell me that I don’t look like the type of guy who’d want to have sex with another guy and I’ve responded with, “What does the type look like?”  I’m thinking that since I’m not running around and behaving like a girl – as some gay men do – then this prompts the whole type thing to come up.

I know the answer to the question:  The type looks like everyone and could be anyone and while you might be able to look at a guy and get the sense that, yeah, he might like some dick, looking at someone is a poor indicator because what makes you the type isn’t on the outside:  It’s on the inside and if you don’t know why they’re the type, well, no wonder people get surprised when they find out that someone they know is, indeed, the type.

With the exception of being gay, a guy will turn to other guys for sex for a lot of reasons.  They find guys attractive, they did some experimentation and found it to their liking, they have little or no success with women, they aren’t so well endowed or overly endowed to the point where no woman would want to take on the challenge, and even they’re so horny that pussy alone barely takes the edge off of their lust; they could even be in the process of satisfying their curiosity about what it’s like to get jiggy with another dude.  Such men could be devastatingly handsome or uglier than the original sin; they could be extroverts or introverts, too.

Once you understand why they are the way they are, then being the type – which a lot of people associate with being gay – isn’t an issue… or it shouldn’t but you know how people are.  If nothing else, you learn something:  Your eyes can deceive you so don’t trust them.

Now, I’ve been surprised to learn that a guy I didn’t think was into this was into it… but I never even thought about whether he looked like the type, let alone let that statement come out of my mouth and for no other reason than I got tired of hearing it.  It wouldn’t stop me from asking how and why he got into it, though.  Of the first-timers I’ve had the honor of engaging with, their reasons run from being merely curious to being desperate to have sex… any kind of sex.  I’ve had them tell me that they’ve tried everything else and sex with a guy was next on the list.  When I’ve asked – in private – I’ve had guys answer by dropping all of their gear and show me their lack of endowment and say, “This is why.”  Likewise, I’ve seen guys with really big dicks who’ve said, “No woman will give me the time of day after seeing what I got…”

Some guys can’t even get their own woman to fuck them or even get them to perform oral sex on them; some guys you can just look at and tell why they can’t get any pussy and all because the chromosomes didn’t get together and make him better looking, or not so overweight; too light or so black that you really couldn’t see them in a dark room unless they had their eyes open or they smiled or just ugly for no good reason and/or have been otherwise deemed unappealing by the women they want to fuck.

There are the guys who just don’t have enough game to convince a woman to drop her panties; guys who are too nerdy, not exactly the brightest bulb in the pack and, yeah, look so damned good that no woman would take a chance with him because she’s afraid that someone else could come along and steal him away.  Some guys get bullied into it because they look “girly” and some women are vain enough that they wouldn’t want to be seen with a man who looked more “girly” than she does and, yeah, let along give him some pussy.

There are the guys who do have a good sex life with women… but they need more stimulation or excitement that pussy alone can’t provide, even if they’re in some kind of open relationship that’s loaded with extra sex.  I’ve heard them say, “I’ve done everything else and this is next…” or they’ve simply said, “Why not?  It’s just sex, right?”  There are the guys who, I dunno, on some instinct or whatever who’ve said, “I’ve always wondered what it would be like…” and their curiosity has pushed them to get the answers to the questions that have been rolling around inside their heads for however long they’ve been doing that.

There are the guys that discovered that if you remove their inhibitions, they like dick just fine… as long as their inhibitions are made to sit on the sidelines via some kind of CNS depressant, like alcohol, for example and, no, I’m not really talking about those one-off, “shit just happened” moments; these are guys who accept that when they’re high, getting some dick is the way to go and they have no problems with it.

The type could be anyone… and the type looks like everyone and gay isn’t the only “type” they can be, is it, and more so when there are straight guys who like dick but they wouldn’t say that they’re gay or bi.

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