Why Go There?

18 Oct

I’ve always heard that there are so many women out there who are more than willing to give up the pussy that there no need for men to do… outrageous stuff in order to get laid. But, if you’re a guy, you know that it’s not really all that easy to find such women and that getting laid can be rather difficult… even if you have a woman so getting laid is often the bane of our existence.

Still, as many of us have found, when the pussy is scarce and spanking the monkey beings more frustration than it does any kind of relief, well, there’s another way to get sucked off or to make a creamy deposit: Just find another guy who’s willing to go along with the program.

I’ve often heard people say that they don’t understand why two guys would want to have sex with each other, kinda telling me that they don’t really know a lot about men and the things that drive us, like having that need to fuck. Yes, women are supposed to fulfill that roll for us but as we know, it ain’t that simple a thing to pull off.

I was thinking about the events I wrote about in my last blog and how “desperate” those men were for dick. I understood it, of course, because I know all too well what it’s like to need the sexual releases that your hand just cannot provide and your woman isn’t of a mind to give you some pussy.

After a nice session with one of the guys, he revealed that a woman’s unwillingness to fuck him made him turn to men; he asked me what made me go there and I told him that I’ve always been like this and before I got to experience girls turning me down for sex. He acted as if he were surprised, like maybe he believed that men like us only went there because pussy was so hard to come by. I think it was his reaction that really got me thinking about why some guys are bisexual and to examine our compulsion to have sex period and what I learned was pretty fascinating and more so how some men wouldn’t balk at going there because, logically, they had to have an outlet for their lust even though the idea of slaking that lust with another guy was so repugnant.

Desperate times do call for desperate measures; I’ve seen so many men give into this even as they said that they really didn’t want to… but in their minds, they had no choice: It was either this or nothing at all. Sexual purists would probably insist that a man in need of release just wait for some pussy or use their hands; there’s supposedly no need for a man to get his rocks off via sexual congress with another man and I’d hazard a guess and say that people who think like that probably doesn’t understand the drive men have for sex as well as they think they do.

Sure, not all men go this route to get their nuts crushed but I’m not talking about them, no disrespect meant to them at all. But many do because, again, they feel as if they have little or no choice and that some guys just aren’t all that successful with women. Like, one of the guys in our little clique was single and he admitted that dating women was usually a disaster for him and that, here of late, he had had more sex with men than with women – but he still loved women.

One guy allowed that his woman, a really nice person in my opinion, hadn’t given him any pussy for six months so it just made sense to him that when they all got drunk one night (before I moved I there) he took up an offer for a blowjob from one of the other fellas.

“I was losing my fucking mind,” he said, shaking his head sadly. “I had to do something, you know? So letting him blow me was better than nothing! Then it just made sense to suck his dick and, yeah, that wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be, ya know?”

Did any of them see this as cheating on their woman? No, not really because it’s easy to convince yourself that it’s not cheating unless you have sex with another woman. Ya might say that this is a lie and no excuse for such behavior but if you understand how the self-justification process works, yeah, it makes sense and more so when a woman is more worried about her man cheating with another woman; it wouldn’t even cross her mind that if homey was stepping out on her, it would be with another guy and, yeah, all because she’s being stingy with the pussy for whatever reason made sense to her. Having said that, I’m not saying that women don’t have perfectly good reasons for withholding the coochie but, yeah, sometimes, they can come up with reasons that leave men mystified and horny.

Why go there? Because sometimes, some of us have to and because men aren’t all that good at dealing with imposed celibacy, with or without reason. The logic is simple: Why beg and wait for pussy or a blowjob when you can get a guy to do it and fairly easy? That it’s considered to be wrong on many fronts isn’t exactly ignored but as we used to say, a lack of pussy will make a motherfucker do some crazy shit and when it’s desperation time, it’s better to do something than to do nothing.

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