Today’s topic, subject, whatever you wanna call it, is something that is so very important when you figure out, decide, discover, etc., that you’re bisexual. It’s probably the one thing that “experts in bisexuality” don’t talk a whole lot about, preferring to take a concept that’s simple and turn it into something that I think is overly complicated and, as such, can make it hard for newbie bisexuals or those folks struggling with their sexuality to get a handle on. What’s the one thing?
Just be yourself.
You see, if anything has changed about you, it’s whatever and however bisexuality has descended upon you – could be emotionally, physically, or even both… but other than that, has anything else about you changed? You still get up each and every morning, go through whatever routines that comprise your daily activities, and call it a day when you’re ready to go to bed at night. Yeah, you know that you’re different and that you’re trying to understand what’s going on – and that’s provided you haven’t figured out already, mind you – and for a lot of bisexuals, it comes down to what to do about the way they’re feeling. Things like coming out and trying to get laid on the other side of the fence are right there in the front of the minds of a lot of folks and while that’s understandable, it’s easy to overlook the one thing that should be done: Just be yourself.
You can let these other things simmer in the back of your mind, you know, working on them in the background as you go about the business of being you. Some folks I know try to push the urges to the back of their minds and then ignore them and, sometimes, find that ignoring them doesn’t quite work and I’ve felt that this is because these are things that behave as high priority items, things that you have to do something about or, at the least, decide on one way or the other – you’re either gonna do something about the way you’re thinking/feeling or you aren’t. Still, as you’re trying to work these things out in your head, just be yourself. Sure, there are some folks who might notice that there’s something going on with you; they might notice changes in your behavior – not that being bisexual can show, in that sense, but because your mind could be furiously working on that “what to do” part, yeah, you could be distracted, anxious, stuff like that, while other folks are sensitive to such things – they can sense something different about you even if they have no idea what that might be and then there’s “gaydar,” that odd perception that tells other bisexuals (or gay folks) that you are just like them – and you don’t even have to say a word about it.
Just be yourself because despite this sexuality thing you have going on, doesn’t it make sense to just keep being the person you’ve always been? At some point, you’re going to decide on what you want to do about this – come out to folks, dive into the physical and/or emotion end of the pool or maybe even do nothing at all. Being bisexual changes you but those changes are all internal and are, after all, just a part of who you are as a whole so there’s no reason I can think of for someone not being their usual old self as they work on assimilating their sexuality into their persona and more so when it’s not prudent to let everyone you come in contact with know that you’re not exactly straight all of the time (or even some of the time). People pick up changes in behavior, mood, etc., and for those folks who cannot afford to attract any unwanted attention in this, of course it makes sense not to give them a reason to stick their nose in your business – but if you’re just being yourself, you’re not giving other people a reason to question what’s going on with you or, as a saying goes that I heard some time ago, “If you ask me no questions, I’ll tell you no lies…”
Handle your business as you see fit… but just be yourself.