I found a pingback on my Dashboard this morning related to this URL – http://www.chocolatecoveredlies.com/stop-effeminate-black-men-pt-1/ – and, as is my habit, before I approved or disapproved it, I went to check it out and, well, damn, it brought something to my attention that, honestly, I’ve never paid any attention to in this context.
From a sexuality point of view, I’ve learned that effeminate men make me a little nuts – but I don’t hate on them even though a man trying to out-woman a woman gives me the willies. If you go check out the URL, you’ll find that the author’s writing about Black men who are, for all intents and purposes, dressing up in women’s clothing – celebrities, according to this writing – and, yeah, I kinda find myself agreeing with a lot of what the author had to say, not that I give a flying fuck what celebrities are doing in the first place – but I don’t ignore the fact that there are a lot of men who (in particular) who do pay attention to what Black male celebrities are wearing these day.
The author mentions Tyler Perry’s “Madea” character and, yep, the brother has gotten mad rich, not only for his brilliant writing and directing skills but also because “Madea” is a stone trip so, yeah, an actor dressing up for a role, that makes sense. But the author also mentions Kanye and had a picture of Kanye wearing something that I wouldn’t even wear in my home, let alone in public; indeed, when you look at some of the pictures the author provided in making his point, those brothers look ridiculous and, yes, because a lot of people treat celebrities as if they walk on water, this trend is spreading and, yep, it kinda sends a wrong message and more so if a guy wearing this stuff isn’t an effeminate gay man – not that such a man would affect this type of clothing but you almost kinda ‘accept’ that he might if he were more of a transvestite – it’s complicated.
Now, there are men who are into cross-dressing and wearing women’s clothing just floats their boat; there are some who will go out in public decked out in women’s clothing, complete with all the accoutrements that makes them look like a woman, which is fine… unless they happen to turn out being an ugly woman – check out the author’s picture of Michael Strayhan and you’ll see what I mean. I don’t have anything against cross-dressing men but I know I wouldn’t do it just as I know someone would have to offer me some very serious money to do it. I know a few effeminate men and they’re all gay and none of them dress up like women.
The thing that makes this “bad” juju plays into the myth that Black men are homophobic; this, of course, is a lie because all Black men are not homophobic but, yeah, putting on the air, facade, or persona of a homophobic Black man is part of the swagger, like, totally dissing homosexual men even though the guy doing the dissing is handling some business like that. So, um, if the word on the street is that all Black men are homophobic, er, ah, why in the name of all that’s holy would a supposedly homophobic Black man dress up as a woman? Doesn’t make sense, does it? Is it totally okay for a Black man not to be homophobic? Sure it is! Is it okay for Black men to dispel this myth? I believe so… but I don’t think running around wearing a dress is the best way to do it and then trying to maintain one’s manliness while doing it.
Go check out the URL and, if you’re of a mind to, come on back and share your thoughts about this!