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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: The Hunt for Cock

01 Jan

Among the many questions I’ve been asked about being bisexual is how one goes about finding dick and while there are a few answers to this question, eh, there are no real guarantees that when you go on the hunt for cock, you’re gonna find it.  Unless you happen to run across an obviously effeminate gay man, you really can’t tell if a guy is into dick – not by looking at him, anyway, and gaydar – that kinda weird instinctual thing – doesn’t always work; unless you’re able to engage the guy in conversation and manage to steer things in a more, ah, personal direction, nah… you just never know who’d be a willing participant.

In this, you don’t wanna guess wrong about a guy – that could be quite embarrassing and sometimes some pain might be involved.  If you’re a male bisexual and you’re trying to find someone to fool around with, say, for the first time, it’s hard to put together a plan of action that will aid in the accomplishment of your goals.  I’ve experienced that a lot of guys will check out guys they know; depending on one’s school of thought, this is either a good, safe move or the worse one possible and I’d say that some guys will metaphorically feel out their male friends before attempting to approach a stranger.  The danger here, of course, is finding out that, nope, your buddy ain’t down like that and now that he knows that you are, um, you might not be friends when the conversation is over.  Still, the prevailing thought is that it’s better the devil you know than the one you don’t and one’s results here cannot be predicted or quantified – I wouldn’t say that one has a 50/50 chance of success.

The fact that it’s not all that easy to get with the devil you know lends itself to the risky behavior associated with being a male bisexual because you’re relegated to seeking the devil you don’t know and, in the world of sex on the down-low, you don’t often have time to really get to know the guys you might be checking out, not because you lack a plan to make the time to come to informed decisions – it’s because there are a lot of other guys out there who don’t want to waste any time being all that personal since their only interest in you is what you’ve got between your legs and the availability of what you sit on.  The word “clusterfuck” comes to mind when seeking the devil you don’t know and while you might get lucky and run into guys that resonate with you, chances are good that you probably won’t and that could lead to some interesting discussions with yourself and along the lines of which is more important:  Getting the dick you crave or developing a sexual relationship with someone who is more your type of guy (whatever that might be).

There’s a perception that it’s easier to get dick than it is to get pussy and, for the most part, there’s a lot of truth to this thanks to the differences between men and women when it comes to sex.  Men tend to be more no-nonsense about it – let’s skip all the preliminaries and get right to the heart of the matter and the hardest thing in this might be agreeing on stuff more than trying to convince the other guy to give up the dick.  But it’s not really that easy and I’ve found that a guy’s preferences, things that are designed to work in his favor, can often work against him.  It’s assumed that all guys who like having sex with other guys just do everything by default… and I’d have to say that this ain’t even close to being the truth of things because, sure, we can be just as picky about how we wanna do it as a woman can be… and sometimes worse.  Those of you who have been following me for a few have seen me occasionally write about guys who read my profile on “that site” and still want to talk about fucking me when said profile specifically says I ain’t doing that.  Sure, there are guys who are down for anything and, indeed, there’s a sense of ‘desperation’ with some guys because it’s so difficult to find a fuck buddy so they’ll get dick any way they can and do whatever it takes – they settle for whatever they can get from another man and, once again, it lends itself to the inherent riskiness of being a bi guy on the prowl for dick.

Being aware of the risks can make a guy be a lot more discerning whether he’s the hunter or the one being hunted… because it really is better the devil you know than the one you don’t.  You can lessen the risks to one’s health (and everyone else’s) by being able to pick that one guy, take the time to really get to know him (and his current health status) and then exclusively do the nasty with him but that’s not all that simple either; this, too, lends itself to the perception that if you’re a bi guy, you gotta be in a relationship with another dude or you’re not really bi.  If you don’t learn anything else in this, there’s a difference between an emotional relationship with a dude and a sexual one; one has strings attached, the other doesn’t; one is about ‘thinking’ with one’s heart, the other ‘thinking’ with one’s dick.

It’s why a lot of bi guys are frustrated to the point where they’d rather give up the hunt for cock – it just isn’t as easy to acquire.  It’s why a lot of bi guys will decide that the risks are worth the reward of getting with another guy – the pickings are just so slim and because like I said somewhere in the beginning of this, you just have no idea what dudes are down for dick and which ones aren’t.  Hell, even with the guys who you may think aren’t down for it, that might not be a given because, yeah, sometimes shit really does happen – but you tend to not include this in your plans for the hunt.

Sometimes, dick just finds you… and usually when you’re not really looking for it.  Men, on the whole, are opportunistic and we’re known for taking advantage of those opportunities for sex whenever they come along and that includes bi guys; you leave yourself open to the possibilities and even in those times when you’ve put the other side of your sexuality on the shelf and are mightily indulging in the pleasures women have to offer.   Some guys adopt an “if I do, fine, but if I don’t, that’s okay, too” frame of mind about it and maybe this is a “default” bi guy behavior if he’s already taken the plunge a few times… but I’ve known guys looking for that first time to adopt this mindset and it not be all that fine if he doesn’t because that… compulsion to do something about his desires to have sex with another man can be terribly powerful.

As far as I know, there are no tried and true methods for the hunt for cock; it’s either gonna find you or you’re gonna find it… or you just might experience a drought in this that’ll just add to one’s list of frustrating things.  It’s not really about having game – it’s about the patience of the hunt and picking your “prey” as carefully as possible; it’s also about being “prey,” to know that you could be the one being hunted and then either making it easy or hard to be “captured.”  In this, it’s like you advertise… but not really.  Some guys are just pure hunters of cock and don’t make good prey; some guys are great at being prey but not so much of a mighty hunter in this.  So, yeah, for all the budding bi guys out there, one of the things you might wanna consider is whether you’re going to be “predator” or “prey” or even a little of both.  More often than not, you may fail to get the cock you want and now it’s really about not letting the frustration of failure mess with your head – and this isn’t easy for every bi guy to do.

 
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Posted by on 1 January 2015 in Life, Living and Loving

 

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2 responses to “Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: The Hunt for Cock

  1. Ellen

    1 January 2015 at 13:58

    I know a straight male who has gotten hit on in Rehoboth Beach a few times. One guy offered a BJ in the public restroom. Not a good thing to do to a homophobic male. It has to be scary knowing you might be on the receiving end of violence just by asking. But if you don’t ask, you will never know.

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    • kdaddy23

      1 January 2015 at 14:12

      It’s a tough position to be in – nothing ventured, nothing gained. Some guys are just out there hitting on every guy that looks good and hope to get lucky… very risky if they guess wrong.

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