Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: “What’s Your Flavor?”

05 Jan

Despite what the stereotype says, bi guys just don’t run amok and start jumping on every cock they come across – there’s the matter of one’s preferences to consider and more so when it’s clear – at least to me – that while all of us bi guys are joined by our bisexuality, we’re not all bisexual in the exact same way.  The unspoken stereotype is that bi guys just do everything two dudes can do by some kind of default and I guess it’s easier to say that than to look a little deeper and see more of the truth.

Some guys are tops, some are bottoms, some are versatile; some are only oral, some limit their same-sex activities to mutual masturbation; for some guys, the closest they ever get to having actual sex is taking comfort in being naked with another man and just cuddling.  Some suck cock and some don’t; some like being fucked and some don’t and while sexually active bisexual men can be “set in their ways” when it comes down to how they prefer to get busy with another guy, it’s also not all that unusual for a guy with specific preferences to change his mind.

I find that one of the confusing aspects to this is the portrayal of gay sex from a porn point of view – yeah, I’m going there again.  You can see twinks, bears, daddies, “sons,” leather lovers, BDSM practitioners, muscle-bound hulks, and thugs, all of which come in varying body types, cock size (with emphasis on the really big ones), color, race, etc..  When I think of these flavors and the fact that this kind of porn is imitating real life, I wonder if gay men ever pitch a bitch at how the way they have sex is portrayed or think it’s an accurate representation of the shit two (or more) guys can do with each other.  Anyway…

At some point – and if you’ve been out there getting your freak on with another guy – you eventually learn two things:  What you like and what you don’t like.  There’s also what you will do without thinking about and those things you’d never do for all the tea in China and, yeah, it’s not always set in stone because that heat of the moment thing, along with that certain something about the other guy, could justify taking that list of preferences and throwing it out the closest window and all because the moment calls for it.  And, of course, one’s preferences can be focused on a particular type of guy.

Just as we are with women, we are creatures of habit for the most part; we can and will get sex whenever, wherever, and from whomever we can get it from but our default preferences for men are still there and it’s all about what a guy finds attractive in another guy.  There are guys for which attraction is everything, just as there are guys who don’t really give a fuck about attractiveness as long as the guy says yes to the sex and in whatever form that happens to be.  I even think that it is those guys who don’t put a lot of stock in attraction that gives the “they’ll fuck anything” stereotype legs to keep walking around; just as we are with women, we can be all hyped about attraction and chemistry when it comes to another guy and without those two things, no deal can be made… or there are guys who again say, “To hell with all that shit – can we do a little something or what?”

There are guys who prefer the biggest dicks they can find; there are guys who’d prefer they not be all that big; there are guys who say that size is so fucking overrated and the only two things that really matter is does it work and is safe and if the owner will allow access to it.  There are guys who prefer uncut cocks, guys who prefer their meat to be cut and, yup, those guys who don’t really care whether the meat is cut or not as long as they can get it.  There are guys who prefer to get busy with “their own kind” – and I apologize for putting it that way but I couldn’t think of a better way to say it.  There are guys who would rather not stay with their own kind and be more, ah exotic about their choice of men… and here they are again, those guys who pretty much say none of this shit really matters as long as homey is down for some kind of action…

But it’s action that conforms with their preferences and the flavor of men that will get their cocks rock-hard with just a mere thought more than some “overall” lust for every swinging dick walking around anywhere in the world.  And that just stands to reason, doesn’t it?  Sure, overall, we love women but certain women really get our attention, don’t they, from their personalities to their various assets and all of the above?  Check this out…

There are guys who, when they are with women, are oh, so masculine, that take charge kind of guy who knows how to push all of her button in the proper order or can even rearrange those buttons… but when they’re with a man?  They are the exact opposite, submissive rather than dominant, more “feminine” than masculine; they ‘exist’ only to be on the receiving end of another man’s lust.  Then there are the guys who, when with a woman, are masculine but overbearing (for lack of a better word); they’re considerate and all that… but when they’re with a man?  They’d make the Marquis de Sade look like a punk bitch when it comes to bringing the noise to some hapless dude and, yeah, a hapless dude who prefers to be so hapless.

Bisexual men do come in many flavors and with differing sets of preferences, likes, dislikes, and even a fetish or two here or there.  It’s not good to assume that just because we like dick that we’re all down for every- and anything and even in this, some are and some might be, and some are extremely picky about what they do and who they do it with.

Yet another bunch of stuff that happened to cross my mind that I wanted to share…

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