Innocent Until Proven Guilty

15 Jan

I read this article – – about the allegations against Bill Cosby and how it’s supposedly affecting Black men and all I can do is shake my head over the matter because, unless I woke up this morning in another country, he – like anyone else suspected of a crime – is innocent until proven guilty in a court of law… not the court of public opinion and certainly not by this country’s press.

I grew up listening to Bill Cosby who, at least to me, ranks right up there with the greatest comedians of all time; his ability to take everyday kind of things and make you laugh so hard you might have to change your underwear – and without being vulgar about it – makes him a special kind of storyteller.  That he turned out to be very outspoken on a few hot-button topics regarding Blacks, admittedly, didn’t make him a lot of friends… and now there are women coming out of the woodwork accusing him of date rape and sexual abuse… but no charges have been filed, he hasn’t been arrested in connection with any of these allegations, and he hasn’t had his day in court before a jury of his peers.

In the court of public opinion, driven by the media’s penchant for glorifying celebrities one moment and vilifying them two breaths later, says that because Bill refuses to say anything about these allegations, well, he must be guilty.  Now, as a Black man, does this situation create a dilemma for me?  No, not really because for one, I’m not surprised that yet another celebrities is being accused of some sexual wrongdoings – and we know the media just eats this kind of stuff like the finest caviar – and, for the other, what you suspect is one thing… but what you can prove in court is something entirely different.  His media silence on the allegations doesn’t cause me any difficulties as a Black man and one who still thinks he’s one of the funniest people who has ever lived; I’m not saying he did the things he’s  being accused of nor am I saying that he didn’t do them and, as such, I don’t blame him for not speaking about these things because if he comes out and refutes the allegations, then he’s a liar… and I’m fairly sure his lawyers have advised him to not say a damned thing about this because anything he does say isn’t exactly going to help him and especially if and when he’s arrested and charged with a crime.

That there have been celebrities whose sexual behaviors have been exposed to the public isn’t surprising; I read today that a linebacker for the Indianapolis Colts got arrested for rape today (or maybe yesterday – I didn’t read the whole thing).  Athletes, politicians, and entertainment stars have all been exposed for their exploits, some have had their day in court, some haven’t; some have been found innocent of their alleged crimes, some have been found guilty.  That we, as a society, need to do something about shit like this is evident… but that’s why we have courts of law.  Yes, yes, I know; history has also shown that if you have a shit load of money and the best lawyers money can buy, justice, as we understand it, isn’t always served… but not everyone manages to dodge the pursuit of justice, either.

Arrest the man; charge him with whatever crimes he’s being accused of; let him have his day in court and let the system do what it was designed to do.  It makes me wonder if all the publicity surrounding this would allow Bill to have a fair trial anywhere but that’s not for me or the media to decide.  Innocent until proven guilty is one of the principles of our society… but so is guilty until proven innocent, it seems…


Posted by on 15 January 2015 in Life, Living and Loving



12 responses to “Innocent Until Proven Guilty

  1. Ellen

    15 January 2015 at 12:20

    He won’t get a day in court because the statutes of limitations has run out on the cases. He’s a free man, but that doesn’t mean he’s innocent either.


    • kdaddy23

      15 January 2015 at 12:49

      That’s probably true… but it also doesn’t mean he’s guilty, either – and that’s my whole point; until he gets hauled up in front of a judge, he’s innocent until proven guilty. Yeah, since a lot of women have come forward and have accused him of sexual misbehavior, it’s easy to assume that if so many women are saying he did it, then he must have done it; it’s easy to assume that because he hasn’t confirmed or denied the allegations, well, he must be guilty because if he wasn’t, there’s no need to hide anything by keeping quiet.

      Even though I’ve admired the man, if he got busted and found guilty of any of this, that’s the price he has to pay for not keeping it in his pants and for using some dirty tricks in the process. Even if he were tried and found innocent, everyone is still going to believe that he did it, won’t they? So he’s damned if he does, damned if he doesn’t…


      • Ellen

        15 January 2015 at 13:46

        I had doubts at first, but where there is smoke, there is usually fire. People keep asking why the women didn’t come forward when it happened. Yeah, right. He’s a very powerful man in the entertainment industry, and any hopes they had of succeeding would have been crushed. Like any predator, he picked his prey carefully.


      • kdaddy23

        15 January 2015 at 14:06

        And that’s probably true… but the place to prove it is in court and not in the media. We have seen celebrities “get away” with shit – even in court – that people like me and you would never get away with. They have power, influence, more money, and better lawyers.

        Then look at the reverse: How many have been accused and falsely so by people looking for a huge and easy payday because a celebrity will pay whatever to make this shit go away, not because they’re guilty of anything but because of the damage the allegations would do to their careers?

        I’m not saying this is the case in this situation but, again, the place to find the truth is in court, not in the media. But we know that even when the truth reveals that nothing happened, the accused is still fucked – and not in a good way – going forward.

        They should just stop the dumb shit, convince a grand jury somewhere to indict him, and let it play out from there. Maybe this will happen – the statutes of limitations vary from state to state – and maybe it never will but, really, to accuse someone of doing something and not proving it where it needs to be proved – in court – isn’t fair to anyone, celebrity or not.

        And, no, I don’t condone this shit at all – it makes men look even worse than we already do. If a guy’s gonna chase tail, then do it honorably and without having to resort to the really dirty tricks. If I asked you for some pussy and you say no, I might ask if you’re sure – you always give a lady a chance to change her mind – but if you still say no, then that’s the end of it and for me to do something like slip you a roofie is just heinous.


      • Ellen

        15 January 2015 at 14:33

        The thing is, if he had asked, they probably would have done it. But a rapist is not after sex, it’s all about power and control.


  2. oceanswater

    15 January 2015 at 14:45

    Well I don’t think he’s guilty… seems like the time for some women to come out of the closet to say men did something to them 30 or 40 years ago… The media asks how can these women be saying the same thing? Well duh… all they have to do is repeat what the others are saying… I find it very difficult to believe thatNONE


    • oceanswater

      15 January 2015 at 14:46

      THAT NONE OF THE women came even two years after the incident… but yet they can all come out now, foolish in my opinion…


      • kdaddy23

        15 January 2015 at 15:06

        Yeah, I thought, “Why now?” But I do understand that trauma can delay these things or allow them not to happen at all and it seems that the media hasn’t addressed this. Some things are “Better late than never” but the law doesn’t always work like that…

        Liked by 1 person

      • oceanswater

        15 January 2015 at 15:12

        Well i believe these wonen are full of shit. Thats my opinion prosesstonal and personal. It aint going to change.


      • kdaddy23

        15 January 2015 at 15:24

        I’m not saying one way or the other – like I said, indict him, arrest him, and convict him if the law allows it to be done; otherwise, the law says he’s innocent until proven guilty just like anyone else who lives here.

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      • oceanswater

        15 January 2015 at 15:48



      • oceanswater

        15 January 2015 at 15:49

        I just say its getting old fast. Every day another three wonen come out.



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