Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Why Bother Being Bi?

05 Feb

Good question, huh? I tend to think about the answer like this: I like people (well, most of them anyway) and I like sex and since I like both of these things, doesn’t it make sense to be bi and more so when I know for a certain fact that I’m not all that particular about whether it’s a girl or a guy?

Maybe you agree, maybe you don’t and if you don’t, that’s okay – it just makes it harder to understand why I’d be so damned comfortable with being so unconventional in this. I think, “What guy doesn’t like having his dick sucked and doesn’t like how it feels to be inside them and be as physically a part of someone that’s possible outside of being in the womb?”

Sure, there are… differences and we wouldn’t be human if there weren’t any differences in how we see these things. This bisexual thing isn’t really all that difficult to understand; being able to get the things that please me and makes me a happy camper makes being bisexual worth the bother and at the end of the day, it is about that which I find comforting and pleasurable even if I’m breaking centuries of prescribed heterosexual behavior at times.

And I’m not the only one but we’re not talking about the others who are like me – at least not yet. I know I have “choices” or “options” in this just as I know that because I do, eh, it makes some folks uncomfortable because I’m neither straight nor gay but I can be straight or gay depending on what I’m doing and who I’m doing it with or, yeah, sure, even what’s going on I my head at any given moment.

I don’t bother with the whole gender thing because it’s nitpicking, evasive, and even a form of denial for some who, for whatever reason, can’t quite get their head around how and why they like men and women and in whatever way they do… or if they’re really male or female in the first place. I’m not saying that these things aren’t important to some – it just doesn’t give me a reason to be bothered by it because if you’re male or female or otherwise attractive to me, that can work and now we’d have to figure out how it’ll work.

Why bother? Well, I’d say that you’d have to know what it’s like, to be able to override your basic programming society imposes and take a walk on the wild side for a moment so you can get an idea of what it’s like to have these desires and come to the conclusion that personal pleasure isn’t just limited to boy/girl things. I know – that’s preposterous in the minds of many, that one couldn’t find joy or pleasure to have sexual congress with someone who’s the same sex as you are… but any of this is about pleasure and as a bisexual, I know that the rules about this aren’t just black and white or otherwise locked in the event horizon of a black hole.

It’s worth any bother if you’re really and truly all about life and its many pleasures and more so if you’ve ever wondered, “Is this all there is to this?” No, there’s more and it can be bothersome to go get your share given how some people feel about bisexuals. It takes boldness and even conviction to decide that the normal way of doing these things just isn’t enough for your personal satisfaction and that if you could get these pleasures I. Some different ways, well, why not?

Oh, yeah… society says you shouldn’t. Conventional thinking says you shouldn’t. These things are even now saying, “Look, fool, be one or the other, okay? Being both is just you being a greedy bastard!”

And maybe they’re right because, fuck no, I’m not gonna turn down pussy or dick when I can get it, not just because it floats my boat but also because I long since refused to conform to a standard of living that doesn’t suit my needs or purposes and not the purposes I’m “supposed” to be about. I’m greedy because why shouldn’t I want the best of what men and women have to offer?

I “bother” because I want and need do – is there a better reason? It’s not easy being bi and I admit that openly and that being this way is, in fact, bothersome along so many lines. But, again, at the end of the day, it’s about what makes me happy and satisfied whether it’s basking in my love for Linda and the perks that come with that or deep-throating some guy’s cock for the sheer enjoyment and naughtiness doing that brings to the table.

I’d rather have these “options” than not not have them; I’d rather not settle for less than what I want or, if you wanna look at it this way, have my spirit confined to just being one way or the other. It works for many people… but not for me, which is why I bother with being bi. Ultimately, it is about answering the question, “What price do I put on my happiness?” And knowing that I don’t have to put a price on it just because I’m supposed to low-ball it.

Just a bit of a rambling rant that came to mind… and I gotta be more adept at doing these things on my iPad…


Posted by on 5 February 2015 in Life, Living and Loving


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3 responses to “Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Why Bother Being Bi?

  1. Ellen

    5 February 2015 at 16:52

    Maybe because it isn’t a choice?


    • kdaddy23

      5 February 2015 at 17:40

      Maybe it is, maybe it isn’t but I know that I choose or decide what to do with myself in this; choice, such as it is, doesn’t really get eliminated.

      Maybe it was destiny; my fate to be bisexual… or maybe I am because I can be? Yes, I’ve wondered if I’d still be bisexual had I not sucked that man’s dick or enjoyed it and the sensation of having his cock in my ass… but I don’t have an answer except to say that maybe I wouldn’t have been bi… but maybe I still would have discovered that I’d been bi all along and just needed a push in the right direction?

      I bother with being bi because, um, I like it – it fits me and my take on life and living and, yep, sex.

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      • Ellen

        6 February 2015 at 07:00

        It was never a choice for me. But it’s always been there.



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