While flipping through Tumblr, there was a clip of what was obviously one guy pounding his dick into another guy’s ass. My first thought was, “Wow… he’s really hammering homey…” and my next thought was, “What is it that makes a guy want to fuck another guy in the ass?”
Yeah… I apparently didn’t have anything better to think about in that moment but I actually thought of a few things. My first thought on this is that we’ve got this built-in compulsion to fuck; yep, we’re supposed to only do this in a woman’s coochie but like everything else about sex, someone figured out that sticking it in her ass was fun, too – and two guys got together and figured out that if you can stick it in a woman, why not stick it in a man in the same way? And this kinda jives with the thought that a guy will fuck a knothole in a tree just to have something to fuck or that we’ll stick our dick into anything we can get it into.
I started thinking about the romantic aspects, when wanting to fuck another guy is more than a matter of convenience. Those first two very early men who fell in love with each other started something that, all these years later, is still one of the banes of our existence… but it plays into that idea that [at least] I grew up with that if you love someone, you’re supposed to have sex with them as well as that’s the only time you’re supposed to have sex – but we all know how that really works, right? And given that men only have two holes in which to insert the wood… well, you can see where this is going.
Then I thought about it being done to literally take another man’s masculinity. It sounds pretty fucked up that there are guys who’ll fuck another man because he feels it gives him power to make the other guy his bitch – willing or otherwise. This, of course, is the scary monster-under-the-bed thing that’ll make a lot of men stay straight or, if they aren’t, stay as far away from anal sex as they can get. That there are guys who really don’t mind being treated like a woman is a given but I wasn’t so much looking at being on the receiving end. These guys even scare me; it’s one thing if you wanna fuck me in the ass because it just makes you feel good, something else when you want to do it for the purpose of taking away my manhood and because you somehow think you’re more of a man than am I. That’ll make me become quite violent…
Then there’s what I’d call the obvious: A guy will fuck another guy in the ass just because it feels good to fuck – period. I’ve found that these guys ain’t about love or romance any more than they are about emasculating some other guy – but embraces, “If it feels good, do it!” And it helps, I think, to keep in mind how most of us feel about that part of our body and, um, what comes out of it and since we do know this, uh, it doesn’t seem to be that much of a deterrent for those men who enjoy anal sex.
I got to thinking that if there were any other reasons, eh, they really didn’t bring anything else to the table and that even the things I thought about are just “excuses” to explain away the fact that by design, men want to fuck… something and because it feels good to fuck… something. With the “memory” of the clip in my mind, my thoughts turned to those guys who get off fucking a woman in the ass… but ask them if they’d fuck a guy in da butt… and just watch their reaction to such a “preposterous” idea. I thought about the taboo about guys doing this to guys; our conditioning programs us to do whatever we want with women – or whatever we can get away with, anyway – but doing that to another male? Oh, fuck no! I thought it odd that the guys I did ask about this – and because I really wanted to know (and just wanted to fuck with them) would say that it would be different… but how would you know it would be if you wouldn’t do it? I understand that women are subliminally different – they give off a very different vibe than men do and even if we’re not aware of this little factoid but when you think about how we’re told to never want to have sex with another man, let alone like it, it can also play into how a guy would “know” it would be different – it’s “different” because it’s supposed to be different.
But it really isn’t… and guys who like doing the butt have obviously learned this. Of course, I thought about the times when I loved doing da butt and why I did… and I kinda blushed a little to recall that I liked it because it was so nasty and forbidden and, yup, I liked to fuck – period. Sure, I did it out of love once in my life and I’ll even admit to having a couple of moments where I just wanted to dominate a guy, which wasn’t really fair because he wanted it like that but, okay, if I could do it for the various reasons, then understanding why guys like fucking guys is kinda easy.
it was just something to occupy my mind after seeing that clip. It was so… primal to see what was taking place, the way the one guy was just pounding his dick in the other guy’s ass so fast and hard! It’s about sex and sexuality but also about understanding men and our need to have sex and by any means necessary. It’s not always moral… but it is part of the nature of what we are…