Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Just Wondering

25 May

So… I was flipping through Tumblr (again) last night and saw some shit that had me wondering a few things, like:

  • Why does gay porn – professionally made or otherwise – contain more white men than any other ethnicity?
  • Why do women hook a finger into their mouth when taking a “sexy” picture or stick their tongue out or, if they’re flashing the coochie, they spread it open as far as they can get it?  Do they know how silly that makes them look?
  • Do white sissies only like Black dick or can any color/size of cock work for them?
  • When a woman’s being fucked on “film,” why does she turn and look at the camera instead of focusing on what’s going on, even if they’re just sucking dick?
  • Why are Black men in gay porn portrayed as thugs or guys you wouldn’t want to meet in a dark alley?

Some of these are rhetorical, like the first one:  I know that white men aren’t the only ones who like sex with dudes… but you do see more of this than you do interracial couplings – or is that interethnic (yes – that’s a real word!).  As I scrolled through the things hitting my Tumblr, I either saw clips/pics of white men boning the shit out of each other or white sissies proclaiming their loyalty to Black (or nigger – yeah, some actually use that word) dick; I find this one kinda funny since it’s rumored that Black men are pathologically homophobic and if there’s anyone who believes this stereotype, well, they must have been living under a rock somewhere there’s no Internet connection.  Did ya know there are Black and other ethnic sissies?  There are… you just don’t see a whole lot about them… but white sissies who crave gigantic Black dicks seems to be all the rage and as much as the “call” for all white men to just give up their masculinity and give into their innate need to be a sissified slave to anyone with a huge dick and if that person is Black, so much the better.

The thing about this one is that cuckolding is being melded into being a sissy and I’m not really all that surprised that something that’s socially shameful has turned into a fetish du jour… and those male chastity locks just gives me the creeps.

The second one kinda cracks me up.  I can look at pictures of naked women purely for the aesthetic value and my appreciation for the female form… but when they start posing in this way – trying to appear innocent (which they ain’t) or alluring (not in the least bit) or, well, I don’t know why they’d spread themselves open so wide I could park a car in there; to me, it “ruins” the beauty of her pussy.  Number four has always kinda mystified me; I do know that when she’s being done and looks at the camera, she’s saying, “Don’t you wish this was you fucking me?” and my automatic thought is, “Uh, no – why aren’t you paying attention to what that man’s doing to you or why are you more interested in the camera than the dick in your mouth?”  Is it really as suggestive as some people say it is?  If anything, to me, it suggests that some women just shouldn’t do porn… or I need to stop being so literal about what I’m looking at.

The last one, well, okay – I know about the allure of the “bad boy,” that dude who pretty much takes all the rules of nicety and throws them away… but I wonder if the people who think these flicks up really know what the thug life is all about?  Yep, some of it is about “bros before hoes” but it’s also about having the utmost respect for women but porn, well, I don’t think it handles that last part all that well.  When I dug into the theories of the thug life – and because I just couldn’t imagine why any man would want to identify as a thug – one of the things that stood out was about men having much love for other men and, yeah, to the point where having sex with each other is seen as no big deal (or it shouldn’t be).  I think porn latches onto this rather obscure aspect of being a thug and just goes stupid about it; I’ve seen some guys in pics/clips/flicks that not only would I never have sex with, I’d rather shoot first and never ask any questions.

Just a lot of shit that can make you go, “Hmm…”  But these things can be quite educational and more so if you can’t get your head around how obsessed about sex humans can be.  Our society, on the whole, tries to skate around or place roadblocks in the way of our pursuit of sex and things sexual even though it is very much aware that “sex sells” – and there’s a reason why it does because we are not only social animals, we are very sexual ones, too.  So we shame women who love to have sex – casual or monogamous; we condemn anyone who’d stray from being heterosexual and there are still some people who firmly believe that everyone should stay with their own kind and not be sexually fascinated by someone who isn’t like them.

We know all of this and then some… but we also know the truth – or we should know the truth that society goes out of its way to keep us from seeing.  I find it curious to watch the way we’ll stumble all over ourselves to minimize sex in our lives or otherwise make it more complicated than it has to be.  Like I said to Ellen when I commented on something she wrote about this, sex, in and of itself, isn’t what causes problems – it’s all the hangups we have that causes the problems.  Sex is a good thing – how people go about having it or doing their damnedest not to do it – is what’s problematic and bad.  But, you can go on Tumblr – and probably other sites I don’t know about – and see where even the face of married bliss is “changing” and just setting aside “keeping only unto yourselves” for the heady pleasures of sex and because they love each other way beyond what our morals say are right and proper.

So when I see stuff like the things I mentioned above, they do make me wonder… but then they make me go searching for answers because, uh, there has to be a reason for it, right?

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