Here’s a question that, before now, I can’t ever remember pondering: Does/can being bisexual make you a better lover? My first thought – well, after asking myself if I ever thought about this – was that if nothing else, you can learn more about sex, not only in the technical sense but also the things that drive lust and, yeah, as I’ve said hundreds of times, if you’re a bi guy and you’ve had sex with another guy, you get to understand what women go through with men.
But does/can having this wealth of sexual knowledge make you a better lover? Sex is “complicated” because there are so many factors that play into it – it’s not what you do but how you do it; it’s not how you do it but when you do; it’s all of the above and who you’re doing it with, where you’re doing it, and a bunch of other shit that when combined correctly, makes magic happen or when something doesn’t quite fall into place, um, well, we’ve all been in that not-so-good place, right?
It’s subjective – what you think about this – and objective – what the other person thinks and, um, sometimes, it doesn’t always come together (not saying that it never does). Whether we’re good at this or not is damned important for our egos; no one wants to be told that they’re not excellent in the service but there’s also a danger in overly boosting someone’s ego – telling them that they’re the bomb when they really aren’t nearly all that. Then again, these are things we should all know…
But does or can being bisexual make you a better overall lover? I honestly don’t know – I’ve never thought about this like that although I do know that you can have that wealth of sexual knowledge and techniques and none of it means shit if you can’t use all of what you know because you’re only going to be as good as the other person’s gonna let you be and I think all of us have that list of things we’re not gonna do that makes being good… interesting.
What do y’all think? Do bisexuals have a sexual edge on those who aren’t bisexual?