Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Womanly? Really?

02 Jun

On occasion, I’ve been told by men I’ve blown that either I suck cock like a woman or I’ve done it better than women they know.  It is, indeed, a compliment… but I didn’t always see it as one; there’s that whole not wanting to be seen (or treated) as being feminine thing that bothers some bi guys.

Some dudes have been surprised because I guess they didn’t really believe that a guy could not only suck them but get them off like that and, yeah, so surprised that I’ve had some guys erupt just by licking their shaft.

Oh, back when I didn’t know any better, I’d get so offended that I’d feel compelled to initiate a violent response… until something in my head decided to look into whether this was a true insult or not.

Given the variety of blow jobs I’d gotten from women (at that time), yeah, I could see how and why I’d get complimented; then again, if I didn’t absolutely love sucking cock, I probably wouldn’t have gotten a single compliment at all.  At one point I actually compared the way I do it to the way women have done me and, well, some of the gals just put me to shame while with some others, I not only could have done it better but I could have taught them a thing or two about doing it.

Technique is always a good thing but I maintain that unless you have the desire – that love of doing it – and a modicum of patience and persistence, sucking a dude’s dick isn’t going to be as much pleasurable fun for either person.  I’d even say that it helps to see oral sex as a form of sex in and of itself instead of merely a prelude to other things.

I don’t know how many times I’ve heard a woman say, “I like it, but…” And understandably so; if you think it’s easy to (a) suck dick and (b) make a guy cum doing it, well, give it a try yourself and let me know how that worked for you.  I’ve known women who have gotten offended because I suck dick and more so when I humbly say that I think I’m really good at it… like they own cock sucking and no man should ever intrude on their territory.  That, too, used to piss me off but now, eh, now it doesn’t.  Yep, I suck dick and, no, this isn’t a competition to see who’s better and, besides, how do you get bent about me doing something that you do as well?  Oh, and if you get bent to discover – when we compare notes – that I’ve actually sucked more dick than you have, well, don’t get mad – just catch up if you can…

The difference between me and some women I know is that my whole mission is to make him cum and by any means necessary… because that shit is fun and so very pleasurable for me.  So, no, when a guy gives me such a compliment, I can easily accept it and because my manliness is very much intact.


Posted by on 2 June 2015 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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4 responses to “Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Womanly? Really?

  1. rougedmount

    2 June 2015 at 20:27

    i guess that means i suck cock like a very sexual, bisexual man?

    Liked by 1 person

    • kdaddy23

      2 June 2015 at 20:28

      I guess although I’m not in a position to actually find out if you do…

      Liked by 1 person

  2. acquiescent72

    3 June 2015 at 04:01

    On some level, I hope that I’m “womanly” when I do it.


    • kdaddy23

      3 June 2015 at 11:16

      I hope so, too, my friend, and if there’s a “key” to this, it’s learning to love it and not just like it or do it out of that sense of expected obligation. Like I said, I learned to think about this from the standpoint that when I take another man’s dick into my mouth, I’m not doing it to please him – I’m trying to please myself and, as such, I am always going to bring much passion and desire to doing it and if he benefits (and they almost always do), okay, that’s fine. It sounds selfish because we’re “taught” that the purpose of sex is to first please the other person and that’s all we should be focused on…

      And I greatly beg to differ on that one. Technique is always a good thing… but if you have technique that’s not being driven by a love of sucking dick, well, perhaps one just becomes “adequate” I’d guess. Still, it’s not about having my ego stroked; if they tell me complimentary things, fine… but I’m still gonna feel damned good and fulfilled if they don’t because I got yet another chance to do something I love: Suck his dick and make him cum for me.

      It’s not even about being “as good as” or “better” than women are in this; I’m not in a competition with women in this but merely doing something my mother bade me and my siblings to do: Whatever you do in life, be the very best you can be at it. So, to me, there’s no point in sucking dick or even eating pussy if (a) you’re not going to love doing it and (b) aren’t going to be the very best you can be in doing it.

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