On occasion, I’ve been told by men I’ve blown that either I suck cock like a woman or I’ve done it better than women they know. It is, indeed, a compliment… but I didn’t always see it as one; there’s that whole not wanting to be seen (or treated) as being feminine thing that bothers some bi guys.
Some dudes have been surprised because I guess they didn’t really believe that a guy could not only suck them but get them off like that and, yeah, so surprised that I’ve had some guys erupt just by licking their shaft.
Oh, back when I didn’t know any better, I’d get so offended that I’d feel compelled to initiate a violent response… until something in my head decided to look into whether this was a true insult or not.
Given the variety of blow jobs I’d gotten from women (at that time), yeah, I could see how and why I’d get complimented; then again, if I didn’t absolutely love sucking cock, I probably wouldn’t have gotten a single compliment at all. At one point I actually compared the way I do it to the way women have done me and, well, some of the gals just put me to shame while with some others, I not only could have done it better but I could have taught them a thing or two about doing it.
Technique is always a good thing but I maintain that unless you have the desire – that love of doing it – and a modicum of patience and persistence, sucking a dude’s dick isn’t going to be as much pleasurable fun for either person. I’d even say that it helps to see oral sex as a form of sex in and of itself instead of merely a prelude to other things.
I don’t know how many times I’ve heard a woman say, “I like it, but…” And understandably so; if you think it’s easy to (a) suck dick and (b) make a guy cum doing it, well, give it a try yourself and let me know how that worked for you. I’ve known women who have gotten offended because I suck dick and more so when I humbly say that I think I’m really good at it… like they own cock sucking and no man should ever intrude on their territory. That, too, used to piss me off but now, eh, now it doesn’t. Yep, I suck dick and, no, this isn’t a competition to see who’s better and, besides, how do you get bent about me doing something that you do as well? Oh, and if you get bent to discover – when we compare notes – that I’ve actually sucked more dick than you have, well, don’t get mad – just catch up if you can…
The difference between me and some women I know is that my whole mission is to make him cum and by any means necessary… because that shit is fun and so very pleasurable for me. So, no, when a guy gives me such a compliment, I can easily accept it and because my manliness is very much intact.