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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Bisexual Group Sex

06 Jul

One of the misconceptions about bisexuality is that bisexuals are all about threesomes and other forms of group sex… but if you understand the current mentality a lot of people have about sex, you’d know that at best, this is wishful thinking because, as we’ve been taught, sex is better when it’s one-on-one… and it is… but it’s an untruth, to be polite about it.

Bisexual porn doesn’t get it right… but the genre isn’t about accuracy – it’s all about sensationalism – so if you look at this crap and think that this is what happens when two men and a woman climbs into bed, guess again.  For one, most women would freak the hell out just thinking about being in bed with two men and some men are too territorial to allow another dick to join the party.  Even with the women who would go for this, if she isn’t getting all of the attention, well, that’s a problem and, as I’ve seen a few times, if she’s giving the guys head and thinks she’s doing one hell of a job – and then the fellas get to blowing each other – she can get quite miffed to, essentially, get shown up because the guys are sucking dick better than she ever could.

The list is long and not so distinguished and it’s about one of the fastest ways I know to expose one’s insecurities when it comes to sex – and that’s never pretty.  In my life to date, I’ve been in so many threesomes and moresomes than I care to admit to; I’ve seen them exceed expectations and crash and burn in the most hideous ways and these spectacular failures is one of the reasons why I’d tell someone who was thinking about this that if they think they know some shit about sex, um, no – you really don’t.

Still, I happen to be one of those bisexual men who have experienced group sex and the kind where everyone was fair game; in my mind, well, that’s the only way to do it!  Throw all the rules and inhibition away and let’s see what kind of magic we can make.  Even more, it doesn’t mean that all bisexuals would even want to engage in such activities because they might be able to step outside the heterosexual box… but they still have their thoughts and beliefs on what constitutes the best way to have sex – and that’s usually without any extra participants.  Now… I ain’t gonna say that a group sex scenario won’t pop up in their heads because I can tell you without any doubt that if you really want to experience the best of both sexual worlds, group sex is the way to do it… and it can be intense and give one a better understanding of what sensuality is, among other things.

But thinking and doing are not the same things, are they?  Bisexual women have been known to freak out because their male partner, upon learning of her duality, throws that threesome thing out there and, even as a joke, women just do not think this is funny.  When you put the shoe on the other foot – girlfriend says, “So, you like dick just like I do?  Let’s have a threesome!” and for a moment, the bi guy will think this is a good idea… until it hits him that the other guy is gonna be all up in his pussy and, oh, hell, no!  So while a lot of bisexuals have what it takes to be bisexual, it’s not a given that they have what it takes to have sex in a group setting — this is an entirely different mindset, trust me.

You find out pretty damned quick that if you can’t run with the big dogs, you’d better keep your ass on the porch.  Bisexuality challenges your view of things sexual… but not like group sex does.  There is, however, an erotic, aesthetic sensuality that can be seen and experienced, not simply because of some “wide open” sex but because you can see and experience humans at sex and how it’s not as disparate as we’re made to think.  Reproduction notwithstanding, it is about that which stimulates both men and women into orgasm and, perhaps it’s just me, but you haven’t lived until you’ve shared a dick with a woman, being aware of what she’s doing, aware of what you’re doing, and then being aware of the effect it’s having on the guy who owns the dick.  Shit, you ain’t lived until you share eating a pussy with a woman – and for the exact same reasons.

But if your head ain’t in the right place, well, you know.  Bisexuality and group sex can take having sex to a new level and one that, I think, inherently scares the shit out of most people and if they are scared, well, yeah – I happen to know that they have good reason to be scared because the power of sex can either make a person seize up as if they got dipped in liquid nitrogen… or unlock things about them they never knew about themselves (or didn’t want exposed in any way).  It can make you vulnerable; it can remove your inhibitions and to the point where you might have started out being a rational, intelligent person… but this form of bisexual eroticism can reduce you to a bundle of orgasm-tortured nerves and there’s no telling the impact on one’s sensibilities when the storm is over.

Like I said, I’ve seen it at its best and at its very worst; it is both very damned sexual and sensual… and as scary as anything you could imagine when “Sexamania” is running wild on everyone involved.  If you’re bisexual and you can do it, it  can be the ultimate sexual experience and the only thing that makes a threesome better is adding more people to the mix.  But if you think that bisexuals just get into this as a matter of course, well, guess again.  If what I’ve written here so far about this makes you feel some kind of way (and I don’t mean in a good way), then you should know that a lot of bisexuals will feel the same as you do about it:  Sounds like a good idea but you’d never get into anything that looks like this, uh-uh, nope, no way, you gotta be fuckin’ kidding me.

And that’s just group sex with a mix of men and women involved.  Now, you’d think that if you got a bunch of horny dudes together, well, this should work nicely… and it can… but I’ve seen this one go horribly wrong, not just because men are territorial but because – again – group sex requires a different mindset and some guys – and, yes, even bi guys – don’t want an audience when they throw down.  I’ve experienced the good and the bad; nothing can kill the mood faster than one guy jumping up and punching on of the other guys in the face for some reason or an argument getting started because someone’s feeling left out or, worse, being “targeted,” i.e., the other guys team up to bring the noise on just one guy; women aren’t the only ones with fears of being raped (or anything that looks like it), you know.

That shit they show in gay porn?  Not even close to the real truth when it comes to this because, sometimes, having all that testosterone saturating the air ain’t exactly a good thing and you just do not want to know how things can spiral into the drain when you’re the only guy in bed with several women and even if they’re bisexual as you are.  By comparison, being bisexual is easy; being bisexual and being able to engage in group sex?  Good luck with that – let me know how it worked for you.  I’m not saying that it can’t work because I know for a fact that it can and, yep, sometimes, it goes badly.  What I am saying or pointing out that the attempt to link bisexuality with group sex is, in reality, not a realistic thing to do and if you understood how most people are about sex, well, you’d know why it doesn’t make sense to think of bisexuality in these terms.

I know a lot of bisexuals who are more afraid of a threesome (or other group sex settings) than they are about getting outed at the next family reunion.  Like I said, they can get their head around getting some dick or pussy… but to be in a position/situation to get both at the same sitting?  Not a common behavior for most bisexuals… or anyone else for that matter.  I was poking Rougedmount about a blog she posted – https://rougedmount.wordpress.com/2015/07/06/erotic-erection/ – and I encourage you to go read what Rouged wrote (damn, she’s good!), see what I said to her, and see what she said about my comment… and you’ll get an understanding of what I’m talking about here.  This shit sounds good on paper but practically applying it is beyond most people – it’s just the way they are and there’s no fault or blame in this.  There are a lot of sexually adventurous people out there (and many here on WordPress)… but bring up a group setting and with a bisexual in the mix?  Without offense, you will now see something very different about them and that can include bisexuals… because people are just funny about sex that isn’t boy/girl and one-on-one and can be just as funny when it’s boy/boy or girl/girl.

One on one, ya mon, it’s all good… until doing something other than that is on the table.  Bisexuals and group sex?  Not the “given” people seem to think it is and, yep, I’m the bisexual guy who’d tell you that it isn’t.  Bluntly, most people, including bisexuals, don’t have what it takes to engage in group sex and, no, that’s not a black mark against them so let’s not go there, okay?  I’ve been in group situations and have seen that the moment anyone goes to the bi side, all holy hell breaks out so, hell no, even folks who are into group sex aren’t as enlightened as they think they are in the majority of times – and more so if it happens to them.

This whole dynamic is so damned fascinating but where bisexuals are concerned, grossly and incorrectly taken out of context… and if you really knew anything about people and sex, you’d know why it isn’t what people seem to think it always is with bisexuals.  And, no – you don’t have to believe me; all you have to do is imagine yourself in a group situation with some bisexuals present (and even if you’re bisexual) and then take note of your initial reaction to such a scenario… and if you feel a little freaked out thinking about this, well, you know that saying all bisexuals love threesomes and have to have them is pure unadulterated bullshit – because a bisexual can have that same freaked out reaction.

You’ll learn something important and the least of it is that thinking and doing are not the same thing.  Even if this scenario didn’t freak you out to think about it, your next mission, if you choose to accept it, is to figure out the probability of you actually doing it (if you haven’t already, of course) and if that makes you feel some kind of way, then you’ve learned something important about bisexuals in general along with everything else that can be learned (and a lot of it is about you, by the way, and not bisexuals so much).

And, yes, I’ll keep saying it but this is one of those situations that, even if you are bisexual, should be totally and completely left alone if you can’t make the proper adjustments to your sexual mindset – just walk away and don’t look back.  Ha, there are people who think I’m insane because I can walk into a group sex setting, strip down butt-naked in front of a bunch of strangers, and go for the gusto and not give it one thought.  And, really, it’s not because I’m bisexual – I love sex, period, and being bisexual facilitates that love of sex in some gratifying ways… and even if I don’t do one “bisexual” thing.  But, yep, I’ll go in there ready, willing, and able to eat (and fuck) pussy and if there’s a cock willing to be sucked (or if a dude wants to blow me), it’s on like the proverbial motherfucker; you just have no idea what it’s like to have a hot pussy sitting on your face and some guy trying to eat your cock off your body!  But I’m one of the exceptions and not even close to being the rule when it comes to this.

I’ll leave you with something else to think about this.  See, not only does this upset a lot of sensibilities for some folks, there are folks – bisexual or otherwise – who won’t dive into this part of the pool because they can’t sexually multitask…

 
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6 responses to “Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Bisexual Group Sex

  1. wordstobeornot

    6 July 2015 at 17:40

    As a bi-curious bottom bi/hetero I went into relationships with couples where the man was essentially gay. This would lead me to ticking an item off my bucket list, which is the sandwich. Getting fucked and fucking simultaneously. Quite a treat, and as good as the fantasy about it, if not better. The girl in the mix was aware of her man being mostly gay, so not bothered. She came out with the best line when a friend of hers enviously said to her: “So you have sex with 2 men, wow, that must be double the pleasure.”, She retorted: “Well, 2 Black and White TVs don’t make a colour TV”. And at the time, where I was living, there were a lot of well endowed men that were geniuses at sex (Eastern European origin); but even that gets boring, and that’s why some more astute women like getting bi-curious boys in.

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    • kdaddy23

      6 July 2015 at 17:44

      Yep, the sandwich can be so nice and the more slices, the more interesting it can get! Thank you so very much for your comments – and what’s next on your sexual bucket list?

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      • wordstobeornot

        6 July 2015 at 17:51

        How do you get more layers if the sexes are polarized, i.e: f (fucked by): m(fucked by): m . The last male has to be fucked by a ‘m’ or pegged right? Errr, next on my bucket list.. A trannie perhaps, though they usually look better than they speak. I’d like to have sex with the woman I’ve been in love with too, and with whom I share a great attraction.

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      • kdaddy23

        6 July 2015 at 18:03

        Via pegging, adding more dudes, stuff like that!

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  2. laurabedlam

    6 July 2015 at 21:50

    I’m bi and I really enjoy group sex. It’s a little complicated being married to a straight dude, but I have some pretty neat memories from past group encounters where everyone was bi or flexible. They’re hanging out in my memory’s rainy day fund for when I’m having a crummy day.

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