Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Humility Works

24 Jul

At times, my brain just amazes the hell out of me.  I’m sitting in “the office” – the room where Linda and I have our computers set up – and I’m watching The Weather Channel and not really thinking about anything in particular when my brain starts thinking about cock sucking, how some guys are at it and, from there, the “better” mindset about doing it… and I thought that the guy who displays humility and even a slight lack of confidence in his ability to suck dick can be preferable than the guy who brags about being good at it… but sucks dick like it’s the first time he’s ever done it.

My brain searched “the archives” looking for instances where the guy thumping his chest about his cock sucking skills have left me wondering why he’d even talk shit about it – and I’m the guy who is always grateful for any time someone wants to suck my dick and one who doesn’t demand excellence or pornstar-like skills as a matter of course but, yeah, um, it would be nice if you really knew what you were doing.  Then there’s the rather unassuming guy, the dude that when you’re talking to him about sucking cock, he’ll almost readily admit that he likes (or loves) doing it but, eh, he doesn’t think he’s really all that good – and you can somehow sense that he’s not deliberately downplaying his abilities; uh-huh, I’ve had guys tell me that they’re not good at it and I’ve known that their words are just an attempt to run an okie-doke on me.

I understand the “importance” of giving a good blow job; a whole lot of years ago, I had reason to sit and think about whether or not outstanding skills were more important than a guy’s willingness to do his level best to give your cock a good sucking; I had reason to ponder whether or not there really is such a thing as a bad blow job, given that the dude sucking on your dick didn’t have to agree to suck it in the first place.  I had even more reason, during this moment of introspection, to look at a sampling of guys who had given me head and, yeah, sure, there were the guys who proudly said they were good at it and they lived up to their words; then there were the guys faking the funk, extolling their skills to the heavens but, at the moment of truth, couldn’t do a third of the shit they were previously crowing about – then the guys who I could just sense were uncertain about their ability or otherwise lacked a bit of confidence in their ability to deliver a good, pleasing blow job… and how they did, in fact, deliver in spades.

I’ve been in the negotiation phase with some guys and they’ve asked me how good I am at sucking dick… and all I’ll tell them is that I’m good at what I do and not much more than that because, as I mentioned in an earlier blog, it doesn’t make sense to talk shit and then find that you can’t back it up.  And I’ve still had reason to think about this and in terms of what I “expect” when someone does me the honor of taking my cock into their mouth.  Sometimes, getting your dick sucked isn’t about dumping a couple of gallons of sperm in the other guy’s mouth – it’s about how you’re made to feel before that moment ever arrives – and if it does at all.  I’ve noticed that the guys who lack humility spend more time trying to show off their skills than paying attention to simply making it feel good, where the guy who is humble, unassuming, etc., might lack the ability to get all of my dick and my balls in his mouth – but he’s doing the best he can and it’s felt so much better than being blown by the “master cock sucker” who might gag just trying to take half of me in his mouth.

I know a lot of guys determine how good a blow job is by their ability to cum… and I wonder if we are looking at the wrong aspect of this and that the definition of a good blow job should be more about how it feels – period.  Now, I’m not saying that technique doesn’t play into this whole thing because you’re only going to feel as good as the guy can make you feel and that’s based on a couple of things:  How he goes about sucking dick – the “skill” part – and whether or not he likes to suck dick or he loves to do it and I’ve found that the guy who says he can suck my dick, balls, and one leg down his throat lacks not only humility in this but he also lacks passion… but that guy, man, that guy who looks into your eyes and you can see that he’s not sure if he’s gonna be able to do anything to please me?  I love those guys!  So what if he can’t deep throat me down to my ankles?  So what if he hasn’t quite mastered the trick of keeping his teeth completely out of the mix?  Which thing matters the most – his level or skill or that thing inside him that always drives him to do his best and even when he has reason to think that his best might not be good enough?

Or is it really about me not having any preconceived notions or expectations in my head and just let whatever happens to happen?  I would suppose that “good” is subjective even though you could probably search the Internet for “what makes a blow job good” and actually find an answer… but, yeah, sometimes, it’s about the attitude of the person sucking your dick and, perhaps, much more than it is their ability, skill, or technique doing it.  Those dudes who like swearing by all that’s holy that they are, hands down, the best cock suckers on the planet are also the guys I’ve had stop sucking me after only a couple of minutes and ask, “You ain’t ready to bust a nut yet?”

Well, no, and I’m kinda glad you stopped because whatever it was you were doing wasn’t making me feel good… and if you were a bit more humble about yourself in this, you’d understand that the goal isn’t just to get me to cum – it’s to make me feel so good enough that I have no choice but to cum.  This kind of stuff actually had me thinking about myself in this, whether I was truly humble enough about this… and, um, sometimes, I’m not; no, I’m not gonna tell a guy, “Man, I’ll suck your shit so good that it’ll make you slap your daddy!” – but if nothing else, I have the passion and desire to make sucking his dick good to him and because sucking dick feels pretty damned good to me.  I know that if nothing else, I have to believe and be confident that I can bring my best effort to bear because, really, what’s the point in doing it if you’re not gonna bring your best effort?  So, sure, while I will say that I’m good at what I do or that I’ve been doing this for a very long time, yeah, I guess I’m somewhat humble in what I think about myself in this; in those moments when I don’t feel it’s necessary to speak to whatever level of skill I have, all I need to say is, “Well, there’s only one way to find out if I’m good at it, huh?”

I’m really not sure what made my brain bring this up… then again, if I knew the answer to that, I’d probably be rich beyond the dreams of avarice…

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