I was flipping through Tumblr to see if I had any comments to my last blog when I came across – wait for it – a video clip of two Black guys, one with his dick out and hard, the other squatting down (and with his own dick damn near on the ground) and sucking the living daylights out of the first guy’s dick. I forget exactly what the caption said but the gist of it was about showing a Black dick some love.
The clip was only about 1:30 or so long but the thing that stuck out in my mind more than anything else was that I was looking at something that I used to hear was “impossible,” that being Black men who were obviously not homophobic. Yes, yes, I know – this isn’t just a stereotype, it’s an outright lie because all Black men aren’t homophobic. But I’m watching this clip looping over and over and paying particular attention to the brother squatting down and polishing that knob, not really because he was doing a decent job of it but the fact that he was doing it – period. He was shirtless (must have been a nice warm night wherever these two were when this was shot), his upper body adorned with tats of varying sizes, was wearing a “skully” – a knit skull cap – and my first thought was one of whether or not I was seeing yet another example of what the thug mentality has in the way of hidden meanings. The tats and the cap doesn’t mean anything in this regard – I have a lot of tats and when it’s cold, I’m not too far away from my own skully and I know I’m not a thug.
I asked myself, “What are the chances that these two brothers are gay? Could they really be bisexual?” Now, you can’t really look at someone and tell if they’re gay (what does the type look like?) but you can tell a lot by one’s body language if you know how to look and I got a strong sense that the guy doing the sucking wasn’t gay at all – and, no, I really can’t explain my impression. I laughed at one point during the clip when the guy doing the sucking picked his dick up off the ground and stroked it a little before letting it go where it fell on the ground again – I’m sure you can appreciate the humor in this.
What I was really thinking about, as the squatting Black man once more ate what looked like seven thick inches of dick right down to the other guy’s pubic bone, was the “justification” provides where “bros before hoes” is concerned, an aspect of the thug creed that, on the surface, says that Black men (or, really, any man who’s seriously into the thug life) should always stand up for each other and show each other love… but the hidden meaning that no one really talks about is that, yup, there’s more than one way to stand up with and for other men and show them love and respect, you betcha!
Two men, regardless of ethnicity, really don’t need an excuse or any kind of justification to have sex with each other; they just have to want to do it… but as I see more and more of this allegedly “thug” behavior, it makes me wonder what’s really going on these days when you can see many examples of strong, masculine, Black males throwing down with each other and in ways that, in my opinion, some gay men could take a few lessons in. After closing Tumblr, I sat and thought about this… explosion of brotherly love, letting my mind go back a few decades to where I first heard that Black men were homophobic by default and the obvious lie being told. I know, for a fact, that I’ve heard Black men ranting and raving – and sometimes dangerously so – against any homosexual act but, at the same time, often talking about how they’d make some dude suck their dick or fuck them hard in the ass – but make it sound as if this was some kind of punishment, just like I know quite a few ranters and ravers have, privately, given in to their own hidden desires for dick and they’ve been the ones doing the sucking and getting fucked good and hard.
It would explain why I’d often get that “Say what?” reaction when someone learned of my bisexuality because everyone knows that Black men are all homophobic; it explains why even in the here and now I’ve seen a few people write in the blogosphere that there can’t be such a creature as a Black, male bisexual, thanks to the lie that’s still being told over the last half century that I know about. But it’s my thought that a lot of ‘straight’ Black men are using “bros before hoes” and it’s more deeper meaning to let their full sexual desires come to the surface and brazenly so – it’s like a big coming out party for all those Black men who everyone believed were rabidly and violently homophobic.
Oh, you bet your ass, there are still a lot of Black men who are fiercely homophobic, so let’s not let this go by the wayside. Still, this particular clip had my mind chugging right along as I was slaughtering bad guys in my Borderlands 2 game (so much fun) about the probable reasons why these two Black men used a cell phone’s camera to document the moment, or 1:30 of the moment. Were they gay? I doubt that. Were they doing this because they couldn’t get any pussy? I doubt that, too. Were they high and just had their inhibitions removed? Eh, maybe but there wasn’t a way to tell from the video clip. So why were these two well-endowed Black men doing this?
Because that shit feels good no matter who’s doing it, that’s why. Sometimes, we tend to overlook the obvious and then assign some shit to, say, a video of two Black men lying side by side and sucking the life out of each other and assume that they’re gay… and they may not be. Yep, it’s fellatio homosexual style but that doesn’t mean the men doing this are gay. And while there may be many reasons for why they’re doing this – and reasons that the clip will never be able to provide – sometimes the best thing to do is to look at the obvious: That guy I’ve been talking about was on his haunches, with his dick on the ground, and sucking another Black man’s dick because it feels good to suck dick. The brother getting his knob schlobbed was allowing this other brother to blow him because this, too, feels damned good. Could they have invoked the thug credo of brotherly love to get things popping? It’s probable, given how much of this I’ve been seeing in the last five years or so.
That there have always been bisexual Black men is, to me, a given but just like our gay counterparts, it was always best to stay off the straight majority’s radar… but now these guys are popping up all over the sexuality radar screen and the justification for their emergence, at least in my opinion, is a subset of the thug credo, that thing that, today, says that if you can’t or won’t throw down with another man sexually, well, you just ain’t a real man; a real man will show another man love like this because, um, because they can. And that same real man will turn right around and show women much love and respect… and knock their pussies out of joint and crack some backs, too.
I just find it terribly interesting how we – humans – can justify our actions in things and especially where this is concerned. Again, the only real justification needed is wanting to do it… but it always feels better when you can ascribe a “higher” purpose for doing something that people wouldn’t think you’d do. Why was homey sucking that dick? Well, because he wanted to but if you asked him (and I wouldn’t, just in case, ya know?) he’d probably tell you in no uncertain terms that (a) he loves some pussy but (b) he was just showing a brother some love, nothing more, nothing less. Black men doing each other is now seen as an honorable and manly thing to do. These guys aren’t gay – and ya might not want to suggest that they are for, you know, health reasons – but they may not say that they’re bisexual, either, and if you think this sounds like an oxymoron, you’re right – it is – but when you add the justification, well, you can probably see how it makes sense.
I did think that the dude with his dick on the ground would have found that moment a lot more interesting if an insect had decided to check his shit out; I laughed as I imagined his reaction to feel a bug crawling on his dick…