Today’s Bisexual Thoughts:  It IS About the Sex

30 Mar

So after writing about the joys of sucking cock and eating pussy – and while I can certainly appreciate the romantic aspects that can be involved when you’re bisexual, like the title says, it is about the sex.  One can shuck and jive about “hearts, not parts” which is a cop-out and more so that most people always considers the person first before jumping into bed with them, even if they only spend a few minutes flipping that mental coin – heads I go to bed with them, tails I don’t.  When it comes to bisexuals and the sex they can have, romance isn’t always the goal or the purpose and a lot of guys are like me:  Women are for romance but guys are for busting nuts.  And while romance with a guy is possible, it’s not a requirement; I maintain that you don’t even have to “be into a guy” in order to go to bed with him – you just have to like him enough to want to do it and, as many women know already, not all guys are that likable no matter how cute they are or how big their dick might be.

I used to wonder why male bisexuals had such a bad rep, why we’re seen as indiscriminate in our quest for sex and some of it is because men tend to be no-nonsense about throwing down; we don’t want to hold hands or take long walks on beaches or in the rain and while taking a shower with you can get the ball rolling, most of are like this:  Let’s find a place to do this, strip down, and get it on… and the sooner, the better.  While a lot of people are all about no strings attached (NSA) sex, bi guys dealing with other guys are about no muss, no fuss (NMNF) sex; the fewer complications and conditions in the way, the better.

It doesn’t help our rep that we’re opportunistic; we will take advantage of any situation and pretty much anywhere we can find one, be it in some dark alley or on the other side of a glory hole in some out of the way truck stop.  They say it’s better the devil you know than the one you don’t, which makes sense; if you can talk your boy into whipping out his cock for you to play with, that’ll work… but almost any willing stranger will do – and some guys prefer the devil they don’t know.  Yes, it’s risky business in a lot of ways but there are guys for whom the risks are an aphrodisiac; getting it on in the relative safety of home is nice but boring but doing it in some flea-bitten no-tell motel is just what the doctor ordered.

Yes, a lot of bi guys play the game smarter than that, proof that not all of are as indiscriminate as rumor says we are but the perception is that if one of us is like that, all of us are.  The real truth is that this is true and only because it’s about the dick and getting it in the way we prefer as individuals but little attention is paid to this – it’s just easier to look at how some of us go about feeding our hunger for cock that makes being a bi guy so seedy and disreputable and lends itself to the perception that we’ll fuck anything above ambient temperature.  Yes, we will go to bed with men and women… and many of us are actually rather picky about who we throw down with but, uh, because there are guys who aren’t all that picky their behavior overshadows the behaviors of those of us who are more discerning and careful.

But make no mistake:  We don’t have sex with other men for love and romance; we do it because the sex can be damned good.  We know that at the very least, not only can we get our cocks sucked but our nuts will get emptied by the person sucking us no muss, no fuss; we might even return the favor, again at the very least.  Some guys are about the additional pleasure of putting cock into ass; while getting blown and finished is nice, fucking is the cat’s pajamas, be it on the catching end or the pitching end and, for some guys, both.  We can get all into that macho shit, playing D/s games, leather, stuff like that but at the end of the day, it’s about getting your rocks off even if it’s not in the preferred, moral method.

Bi guys have a lot of reasons for why they’re bi and the reasons are important even if they don’t make sense to other people.  The sex that’s possible is right up there at the top of the list, even for those bi guys who have yet to take the plunge and it makes no sense to be all PC about it and romanticizing it is, in my opinion, attempts to downplay and divert attention from our ingrained behavior to have sex and, for us, by any means possible or necessary… and the rules against getting with other guys be damned.

It’s not that we, as a whole, have anything against women; it’s not that we can’t commit to relationships or anything like that – and this particular thing isn’t wholly owned by bisexual men, mind you; straight guys are just as guilty of failing to commit and cheating.  Now, that greedy thing we get nailed with?   Shit, I know I’m guilt as charged because in my mind, there’s no such thing as too much sex so while it’s true that bi guys want sex from both sides of the fence, it’s not really the bad thing everyone makes it out to be – who seriously thinks that too much sex is a bad thing?

Bi guys don’t even though we get shamed for it; we get vilified for it; and all because we have needs that a single source can’t accommodate or, as I like to put it, when a guy wants to suck cock, women aren’t equipped like that (and transgender folks aside).   Yes, a lady can strap on a toy and give it us in the ass real good (and with cocks that would make very large animals blush if they could) and some guys are good with this – and it’s still about the sex, ain’t it?

What we know, what we have learned, is that it doesn’t matter who’s sucking on our dick as long as it’s being sucked and for those guys who like to fuck, fucking a guy in the ass isn’t any different from fucking a willing woman’s ass because it’s about the act itself.  It’s not even about who does it better; it’s about who’s willing to accommodate our sexual needs and, again, the fewer the hassles, the better.  And, yes, there are guys out there that make getting sex from a woman look easy by comparison.

Bi guys aren’t that hard to understand if you can understand why men are the way we are.  We aren’t all that different from  bisexual women in that we’re good doing things in the preferred way… but we also need things that the preferred way cannot provide… and sex is still what it’s about (but not discounting or ignoring the other reasons for being bisexual).

Thus endeth the rant…

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