Today’s Bisexual Thoughts:  Hypocrisy at It’s Best

03 Apr

Cityman texted me a pic of a woman he’s been talking to and, whoa, baby’s got some serious back for days!  The thing that bothered him, though, was the thought that this woman, who is bisexual, would reject him because he’s bisexual.

Wait, wait… you mean to tell me that a woman who sucks cock and eats pussy would kick a guy to the curb and soundly diss him because he eats pussy and sucks cock?  Cityman, understandably, went on a mini-rant about the illogic and hypocrisy of this particular double standard and all I could say in return was, “Yeah, you’re right…”

You would think that female bisexuals would be more understanding about what motivates their male counterparts and before you get tuned up, yes, I know that there are a lot of women who are understanding and thinks having a guy who sucks cock (at the least) is a hot commodity to hold onto… but they’re still a minority despite any increasing numbers.

Even though Cityman once called me a pimp daddy (cracked me up) and I’m not trying to fix him up with anyone, his one wish is to find a woman he can be with on a more permanent basis who understands and accepts that he’s bisexual and his sexuality has nothing to do with his ability to love her, care for her and, yeah, screw her silly and, frankly, given what I know about him, ladies, you couldn’t go wrong by taking him off the market.

Just saying… and he’s gonna get me for that last paragraph… but anyway.

I’ve been thinking about what he said about this bi woman with the onion booth maybe rejecting him and it gave me both a Lewis Black moment and caused me to blink real slow; how does this make any sense?  One of the key elements to getting a relationship started is commonality; what’s going on in our lives that we share?  The more things we have in common, the better and commonality is supposed to open more doors of opportunity, not close them; this is a failure that doesn’t make a lot of sense to me and keep in mind that I’ve spent years thinking about this and I’ve not gotten any closer to anything I can point to and say, “Oh, okay, that makes sense!  That explains a lot!”

Now, it did cross my mind that this babe could be one of those women who uses the bi label as bait because she understands that there are a lot of men who find a bisexual woman to be the absolute shit and they can easily be led around by their erections… but maybe she didn’t expect to attract a bi guy who is more, ah, philosophically on board with female bisexuality than some guys tend to be and since she did, um, well, ew.  And, by the way, women who use this tactic seriously gives true bisexual women an increasingly bad rep; it gives that faction who’s against bisexuality a stick to beat all bisexuals with.  To them, it’s some kind of game that’s being played at the expense of those for which bisexuality is their whole life and lessens their chances to be truly happy in their bisexuality.

It’s hypocrisy at its finest and a quote I read about dogma blinding one to the reality of things keeps reverberating in my mind.  Yes, choice plays into things a lot… but shouldn’t a form of common sense play a part in things as well?  Are we so blindly enslaved to the dogma that speaks out against bisexuality that we find reason to ignore the logic that suggests that a bi gal hooking up with a bi guy provides a needed anchor of commonality that can make having a relationship possible and allow it to flourish unfettered by the restrictions of the dogma a lot of us will cling to despite the evidence reality presents us with?

Shit, if nothing else, the sex would be off the damned chain between them… and it’s time for more coffee.

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