Given that we live in such an enlightened world these days, what’s the hold up that’s keeping bisexuality from being better accepted on a global scale? We see small victories here and there; bisexual celebs are coming out of the woodwork and few of the moral majority are giving the huge rafts of shit about their sexuality choice, which is interesting and shines a light on the level of prejudice we are capable of, i.e., the rich and famous are free and clear to comport themselves as they see fit but an everyday sort of person will catch seven kinds of hell for being bisexual.
One would think that if we’ve finally gotten to the point where we can treat homosexuals like they aren’t homosexual, then a more broader acceptance that includes bisexuals would be a no-brainer and that our society, in particular, could easily make this happen next given what we’re learned in the struggle to banish homosexuality, the futility of such a thing, and our consequent failure to make it go away.
I’ve read a few things written by folks who seem to believe that the acceptance of bisexuality is impossible, a point of view I don’t agree with because there was a time when I didn’t believe that an African-American would ever be President of the United States… and, yeah, that happened didn’t it? It’s not that we can’t do it; we once thought that homosexuality would never be accepted… and that happened, too, didn’t it? Oh, not in one fell swoop bit more of a cascade effect; once the ball got rolling, it kept rolling and picking up speed despite some areas of the country stubbornly holding onto the ancient ways or, as I’ve been saying lately, they choose to cling to dogma instead of adapting to a new understanding.
It seems the more a change is needed, the slower it winds up happening even though there are a lot of people who believe that reforms in our behavior where sexuality is concerned are called for and long overdue. On the new forum I’ve been checking out, many of the men there express a “desire” for things to be changed so that they don’t have to hide their sexuality and can openly act on it without getting their heads handed to them… and it seems to impossible, doesn’t it, and more so when a great many people are stil of a mind that bisexuality can’t and doesn’t exist or going out of their way to insist that that quacking sound you hear isn’t really a duck.
The LGBT community has done little to, um, up the value of bisexuals in the public eye… then again, they’ve been very busy promoting the homosexual cause and fine-tuning it, if you will. So we’re left to our own devices and struggling to make sense of that troubling double standard that says female bisexuals are the greatest thing since sliced bread… but their male counterparts are the scum of the earth. Many male bisexuals live in fear of discovery and dogma doesn’t allow them to be comfortable in their own skins; many are existing in the seedy depths of the DL and taking risks that can be seen as unwarranted, careless, and even insane… and all because we see little choice than to remain hidden in the face of that lack of social acceptance.
I’d even go as far as to point out that if the social acceptance was there, the DL would empty out and would once more be the sole province of adulterers. It would seem to me that if the DL is a great source of infectious diseases, taking some steps to “shut it down” would be prudent and vilifying it hasn’t worked. Gaining that more open acceptance means men aren’t taking those unnecessary risks, like hanging around truck stops and adult book stores, or frequenting glory holes in order to feed their hunger for cock.
Bi guys in a relationship will still be hosed even if society gets its head out of its own ass and declares bisexuality to be acceptable; the rules are very different in this important area even if the folks involved aren’t married and will not be easily reformed and if changes come in this area, well, chances are I won’t be around to see monogamy fall by the wayside and as the only way to have a relationship.
It’s one thing to be able to identify the sticking points; it’s one thing to be able to suggest ways to unstick those points; it’s gonna be a royal bitch to implement the reforms that will make the lives of bisexuals easier to live; more has to be done to uphold the rights for everyone to pursue their happiness without being sanctioned for it, as is the case at this moment.
It all sounds like wishful thinking… and it very well may be… but someone has to say it because silence isn’t golden, ignorance is not bliss, and we are seeing that what we don’t know is hurting the shit out of a lot of people who only want to indulge in their sexuality preference without getting beat down in the process…