I was sitting here on a cool, rainy day and thinking about the guys I’ve been reading about on the bisexual forum I mentioned in my last blog and found my thoughts drifting to their origins or that moment when they realized that a man’s cock and ass were something they’d be interested in. From time to time, I’ve opined about how guys can go from being totally focused on women and pussy then, seemingly, find themselves drooling over the male form and, sometimes to them, right out on the blue.
One guy I just recently started communicating with, when I asked him how he got started on this path, told me that he was trolling the Internet looking for pussy pics when he came across a pic of a hard cock and – pow! – got this sudden hankering to put a cock in his mouth and suck it dry… despite having a good sexual relationship with his wife. Some of the other men have shared in their forum writings that they are in sexless relationships and this imposed celibacy has been driving them over the fence. A couple of guys shared that their wives suggested to them that if they were to suck cock with them present, that could be very hot and stimulating; one guy wrote that his wife has him sucking dildoes to get him ready to suck the real thing.
Now, this guy admitted to never thinking about doing such a thing… but is now chomping at the bit to be able to wrap his mouth around a real dick and wanted to ask guys experienced with this how to best suck the real thing… and whether or not he should. I started to comment on his post – but didn’t because a few guys had already chimed in with what I would have said. But, for you fine readers and followers, this is a bit of a sticky situation (no pun implied or intended) because on the one hand, you have your own beliefs about this while on the other hand, anything that’ll make your wife a very happy camper might be of some major benefit to you.
The answer is kinda obvious: If the guy felt comfortable with this, sure, whatever makes the little woman happy is a good thing – could seriously give their sexual relationship a jolt of extra excitement and even bring them closer together because they have something else in common. The operative word here is “if” and the bigger picture thing is that when you’re married, you are expected and required to go above and beyond the call of duty to make and keep your spouse happy and that includes having to make some sacrifices of one’s personal stances on things.
But, from what he wrote, his comfort level does seem to be quite high so that might not be an issue although he might find that it’s one thing to think about sucking cock, one thing to practice on a cock-shaped dildo… and something else when the cock waiting to be sucked is attached to a guy.
A lot of the guys who have shared their thought and feelings have said that they had no idea where this desire to have sex with a man came from; for one guy, I commented about latent bisexual tendencies, that potential to be bisexual that just sits back in the cut totally unnoticed for an undetermined amount of time before making itself known. Sometimes that awakening can be triggered by, say, watching straight porn and getting an eyeful of the on-screen cock; one guy wrote that he was at the gym and showering after a workout, saw a guy in the shower he’d been seeing regularly there… and suddenly wanted the guy to fuck him.
The comments to this one were all over the place but no one even mentioned that when you workout like that, it can jack your libido up something fierce, you know, all those intoxicating endorphins rushing through your body and making having sex a damned good idea and can lower inhibitions and in some interesting ways. The guy who wrote this didn’t say whether or not he got boned but he was most certainly surprised that the thought hit him like a ton of bricks and made his cock very hard.
“Why would I want to do something I’ve never even thought of before?” That’s the billion dollar question, isn’t it, and a question that lends to a lot of confusion until the answer is found. We are taught that sex with other men is forbidden, dirty, nasty, yada, yada, and we believe this right up to the moment when we find that the thought of being in a 69 with another guy a very exciting one. Wait… what just happened? My own pet “theory” is that our social programming is designed to eliminate certain evolutionary processes and traits that have been, over our existence as a species, been hard-coded into us, kinda like how you can teach a flatworm a trick, then chop up that worm and feed it to another worm, who then performs the trick that his meal had learned.
Way back before recorded history, two males, for whatever reason, got together and had sex with each other and it spread to other males, which eventually led to such acts being a part of a few cultures, most notably Greek and Roman cultures and the rest, as they say, is history and ladies, in case you think you’ve been forgotten and overlooked, the word “Sappho” is Greek in origin – look it up. There’s a guy reading this somewhere and thinking, “That’s bullshit – I ain’t never wanted to do some nasty-assed shit like that!” That’s because the social conditioning has stuck with you, erasing the notion that having a guy suck your balls dry is a nice thing to do, or that feeling his cock in your ass and injecting sperm into that forbidden place isn’t really all that pleasurable as it seems to be – and these things must be because, um, a lot of men have done it, are doing it right this very moment, and will be doing it in times to come.
Because for many of us, that conditioning has been broken – or now being just outright rejected and/or modified – by circumstance or even out of necessity… or just on general principle; it can be done so why not do it? What just happened? Nothing that hasn’t been happening for a damned long time now. Not everyone gives in to this but many men and women are learning to never say never about this, aren’t they?
Okay, time for me to get my head handed to me and play some Borderlands… but I gotta write something about that first.