Today’s Bisexual Thoughts:  “We Know Like You Know…”

27 Jul

In response to Cityman’s comment, which I re-read just a moment ago, what some bi men probably wouldn’t talk about openly is that when we have sex with men, we learn what women learn about having sex with us; sometimes it’s the bomb shit and, sometimes, men can truly be the assholes women say we are.

From being seduced, to the game-playing, to giving head, and to being screwed, I don’t know about other guys but I have a lot of sympathy for women and understanding about what even I’ve put them through when I want to get into their panties.  Now, I’m not saying that a straight guy couldn’t be aware of this… but you really can’t get the gist of what it’s like to be a girl during sex until you have sex with another guy.

In the past, I’ve written about being subjected to (and submitting to) another man’s lust and it can be… unnerving at times and mostly because we don’t think of ourselves as being sexual objects to other men, well, not until we happen to find ourselves being eyeballed by what might be a gay man or a guy rolls up on you and has the unmitigated gall to ask you if he can suck your dick.  As the “predator” in this ‘game’ we call sex, we’re not used to being pursued as prey by our fellow man – it’s okay of the predator chasing us is female, of course but, nah, we just don’t take into consideration that we are fair game for anyone until proven otherwise.  Even for those of us who wouldn’t object to being prey, we do so with a certain understanding, oh, like, the guy hitting on you is doing so with respect and even a sense of humility (feigned or genuine) but if he gets you in bed, well, things can be different because while you were talking to a gentleman, you’re about to engage in sexual with his animalistic side… and it might not be pretty.

In the past, I’ve written about what it’s like to suck a guy’s dick and how his behavior can take the fun out of sucking dick, like having him grabbing your head and doing his best to make the head of his cock burst out of the back of your throat and neck; in this, some guys don’t seem to understand that “I want to suck your dick” doesn’t mean I want you to choke and gag me by fucking my mouth.  Likewise, when you’ve consented to be boned, um, what part of, “Take it easy going in!” wasn’t understood and, I’d suppose we can thank gay porn for making guys think and believe that having our asses pounded by, say, a 220-pound man is so much fun, or having your legs and body forced into positions that they might not be inclined to easily adopt.

Yes, ladies, many bisexual men know like you know, both the good and bad of it… and some of us are smart and considerate enough to take this into mind when we’re climbing into bed with you because you sometimes adopt a mindset that you’re not gonna do anything to someone you wouldn’t want done to you.

As I touched on yesterday – and as Cityman alluded to – being a top (in the male-dominant role) is one thing but being a bottom (in the female-submissive role), well, let’s just say that some male egos can’t handle that very well and tend to avoid it like the plague.  Yes, many men avoid being on the receiving end of an anal sex moment and they will all cite the inherent pain and discomfort associated with driving the wrong way on a one way street as a damned good reason to not get boned…

What they really fear is that “girly” feeling being fucked and, gasp, inseminated; between ‘don’t stick it in too far’ and ‘don’t cum in my ass’, there’s a lot of scary shit happening that we believe robs us of our manliness… but make no mistake:  That “girly,” “bitch” feeling is very real and it’s not easy for the male mind to accept that, with apologies to the ladies, you’re being fucked like a woman would be fucked and in most cases, that dude is gonna crack his nits wide open inside you, with or without a condom, unless you tell him way before the fact to pull it out before he cums… and then hope he does and, yep, fight have happened when the pullout didn’t take place.

While we don’t have to worry about getting pregnant because he didn’t get out in time, some men take being internally creamed as an insult to their manhood which, if you think about it, kinda doesn’t make any sense since, um, homey was just fucking you, wasn’t he?  I guess that for some it’s all fun and games until he busts a nut in you…

Being a guy and being fucked by a guy was, in past times, seen as the most unmanly thing to do with sucking a guy’s dick a very close second; both things were always seen as a woman’s thing do to and one they exclusively owned – yeah, right, sure it is.  Today – and as I’ve mentioned at times – if you’re a dude and unwilling to, at the least, exchange blow jobs with another dude, well, you ain’t no kind of man; likewise, if you’re not willing to offer up your ass to be fucked and creamed, ditto, you bitch-assed pussy.  Ah, but note the hypocrisy that’s also taking place in that some dudes still think in terms of top and bottom and tops just do not get fucked in the ass, which is saying that a top is really “more of a man” than the “real man” he’s cornholing… really?

Yes, this diversionary thinking removes the stigma but the lesson of what it’s like to be sexed like a woman would is still very much in play and no amount of semantic spinning can ever change this part of the dynamic and that even though some of us might not openly admit it, yeah, we do, in deed and in fact, find out what it’s like to be the girl in this arrangement – we know like you know.

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