I was chatting with Cityman last night when he asked me if there was something about older men embracing bisexuality (like fifty and older) and if hormones played a role in it as well as why older men are so cool with it and not subject to all the social angst that keeps younger men from checking this aspect of sex out.
I wouldn’t say that hormones have anything to with it, not like that surge of hormones that bitch-slap is when puberty lands on us; if anything, our testosterone levels start to fall off. I think the answer is a lot more complex than a guy saying, “Why not try it?” although this is a legitimate answer and depends on a lot of stuff that can’t be easily generalized. He even asked me if I wasn’t already bisexual, did I think I would have eventually “discovered” it and I’m thinking that I would have although that’s not really a fair answer.
But I know of guys who have gotten to their fifties and even having good sexual relationships with women, decide that checking out the other side is a good idea and for whatever reason works for them; again, the justifications are too specific to an individual but I’ve heard things like wanting more sex, not getting any sex, finally “giving in” to bisexual tendencies, and some older and widowed men said that they turned to sex with men simply for the companionship.
I once again thought about the then sixty-seven year old who told me that he had ED, had his prostate removed, but his mouth still worked and taking a hard one in the ass was very possible because it was better than being alone and dying sexless. It’s a sobering though, maybe not when you’re a strapping lad of twenty but when you hit fifty and sixty, yeah, things could open the door and, yeah, I’ve even heard that close brushes with death can make an older man say, “I gotta live every day like it’s really gonna be my last!” and almost in a bucket list kinda of thing.
Cityman told me a story about a guy he knows about a retirement party for a navy veteran. He was getting up there in years, and it was more of a drinking reception in his honor. He gave a speech and said that before he dies, he wants to suck a dick. And if he likes it, he’s gonna get really pissed!
In ou heteronormative society, this might sound really strange… but not as strange as you may think; the older we get, the more aware of the clock counting down we are and I don’t know about others my age but I would think about all the stuff I had yet to do, if I could do them, and whether or not I had the time remaining to do them. Obviously, sucking a dick (and liking it) isn’t on my list but that doesn’t mean some guys won’t have a need to put it on their list and then implement it.
It seems like more and more every day, men of all ages are deciding to get into this… and simply because they can. Cityman sent me this link: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/speaking-of-science/wp/2016/06/01/study-same-sex-experiences-are-on-the-rise-and-americans-are-increasingly-chill-about-it/
And I find there’s a lot of truth to what the author says, even though I wouldn’t have used those exact words. If you consider the referenced article, it’s not really all that surprising that, say, guys my age are now looking for more than just a woman to have sex with. Despite what some say, there is a choice in this: You can let centuries old dogma control every aspect of your life or, as the author says, you can say, “This is my life and I’ll do whatever the hell I feel like doing… and if that’s getting busy with a guy, so be it!”