Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Straight Guys Who Do What Now?

26 Apr

Fresh from the bi guys’ forum, one of the directions that a thread went in was about straight guys who suck dick, which is usually enough to get most people rapidly blinking in confusion – but these guys almost immediately launched into a session of label hating.  Some of the participants opined that straight guys who suck dick are more than likely bisexual but will insist that they’re straight anyway… and it is a constant reminder of our ability to justify anything that we do even to the point where if our actions don’t match up with our words, well, that’s fine.  If “Greg” wants to spend some time sucking dick but maintain that he’s as straight as an arrow, that’s his right to do so.

I don’t deny that our hypothetical “Greg” has the right to see his actions in this in whatever way makes him feel comfortable but all this ongoing mindset does is to give some qualification to the biphobic assertion that bisexuals are in a constant state of denial.  I sat and read stuff written by a gaggle of bisexual men who insisted that the bisexual label didn’t apply to them… and if that really makes sense to you, you’re more than welcome to head to the comments section and share with us why you believe it does make sense… and more so if you’re one of those folks who hold true to the notion that actions speak louder than words, that what one says isn’t as important as what one does.

Like the one guy who commented on something I wrote (on another topic) and said that he disagreed with my position that if two men are having sex with each other, it’s homosexual sex.  He said it wasn’t… and I blinked on that one because, um, if “Greg” and “Dan” are sucking each other off or fucking or whatever else two guys can get into, I’m pretty sure this isn’t heterosexual sex.  So when I sit and read a bunch of guys saying that, essentially, it’s okay for a straight guy to maintain the fact that he’s straight even though he admits to having a fondness for sucking cock, well, folks, I don’t know about you I think there’s something wrong here because last I heard, straight dudes don’t suck dick… but bisexual and gay guys do.

This isn’t to say that “Craig,” a dyed-in-the-wool heterosexual stud, can’t think about either sucking cock or convincing some willing dude to give him a blow job; most people wouldn’t say he’s guilty of anything other than having a filthy mind – except those folks who live in the “if you think about it, that means you’re gonna do it” camp.  But, conventionally, “Craig” is still a straight dude… until he does something that says otherwise, oh, like hook up with “Greg” and the two of them spend an hour or two sucking each other off.  Those of you who are in the “actions speak louder than words” camp might find this hypothetical situation agreeable.  Now, it wouldn’t be unusual for “Craig” to, well, lie about having had oral sex with “Greg” if someone were to question him about it – image, after all, is still everything.  But if “Craig” were to fess up and admit that, yeah, he occasionally gets with his good friend “Greg” and they get each other off (think bro-job, if that helps), is he still lying when he says he’s as straight (and a lover of pussy) as he’s always been?

Or is “Craig” really and seriously in some kind of denial and, because image is everything, he’s not of a mind to let go of his heterosexual labeling?  Here’s some more conventional thinking:  Even I will say that if “Craig” and/or “Greg” only sucked each other’s dick once, meh, they’re not bisexual – sometimes, shit really does just happen.  If they go for it again – and other than being horny – one could legitimately say that a second time is a proof of concept – a confirmation that they did it once and found it to their liking.  However, if these two hypothetical dudes keep on doing it, um, are they still straight?  Conventional thinking says they aren’t and I’ve seen guys try to skirt convention by saying, “Well, I’m not bisexual because I don’t do it all of the time; me and him might get together and do this once or twice a month (or some other specified time period)!”  I’ve seen them say that they’re still straight and simply because they’re still more attracted to women than to men; not saying that this isn’t true (because it usually is) but, ah, even I know you don’t have to be attracted to men as one would be with women to find a bit of cock sucking enjoyable.

Now we get to that part that, intelligently, tends to drive me a little cray-cray:  People who, in this situation, insist that their words are speaking much louder than their actions.  I am of a mind that despite what everyone thinks, thinking and doing aren’t the same things; it doesn’t always imply intent either because I can sit here and think about robbing a bank… doesn’t mean I’m going to, does it?  So, um, if our boy “Craig” confesses that, okay, he occasionally likes to suck “Greg’s” dick but turns right around – and in the same breath – says that he’s still straight despite his confession, I dunno… do y’all think there’s something not quite right going on here?  Which thing should be considered true – what “Craig” says or what he does?

Even better:  If “Craig” were to, say, have ten people tell him that, no, bro, you ain’t exactly straight these days – but “Craig” insists that he is, how possible or probable is it that those ten people are wrong and “Craig” is as straight as he says even though him and “Greg” are bro-jobbing as needed?

If you think that this kinda/sorta defies logic, chances are good that you’re right.  Conventional thinking says that a straight dude that sucks cock can’t be a straight dude… but there are quite a few people who seem to believe that conventional – and logical – thinking is wrong here.  I’m a fairly smart guy and I have a hard time understanding how it’s possible for “Craig” to quack like a duck… but not be a duck… unless he’s managed to convince himself that he’s not a duck… even though he damn well knows he’s a duck.

I gotta go run some errands; y’all think about this while I’m gone and, please, add your twenty-two cents if you’re of a mind to.  A long time friend of mine once said that you can lie to people as much as you want or need to – but there’s only so much lying you can do to yourself so let me know if you think “Craig” is lying to himself about being straight despite his cock sucking… or is he speaking a truth that no one else has uncovered yet?  Does his words truly outweigh his actions?

Leave a comment

Posted by on 26 April 2017 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


Tags: , , ,

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

Jenny's Swinger Party and Dating Advice 🎉

23 year old real estate agent & swinger 💋

Katya Evangeline

From Missionary to Sex Preacher and Loving It!

Domestic Discipline, Jenny style!

Unconventional journey to unimaginable fulfillment.


All the things that make me, well "me."


If I had a power color, it would be sparkle. Landon Brinkley

Hopeful Heartache

Ramblings about life, relationships, anxiety, depression, and questions.

SeXXy Julie

Sordid Sex Stories & Erotica of a Cougar

Temperature's Rising

It's getting hot in here...

A Question of Lust

"Love My Way, It's a New Road"

Madeline Harper



Random thoughts from a random mind

Equal Anarchy

Equality, Gender, Feminism, Sexuality

Sensual Desires

Sensual Poetry


Writing about recovery.

The Watering Hole

Where everyone comes to quench their thirst for insight to life's challenging questions.

B0Y . LU5T

Coming to terms with being male, atheist, married, over 40, bisexual, kinky and blurring the lines of monogamy while living in a conservative "red state" .


Parts Of My Life

Date A Bisexual


The Wise Serpent


Fetishes, Gender Issues, Sexual Politics, Erotic Memoirs

a worried whimsy

bouncing between happy and anxious

ann st vincent

My journey through marriage, open marriage, divorce, being a Mom, sexual rebirth, online dating, failed relationships, and lots of sex

The Conquest Files

"The truth is rarely pure and never simple." - Oscar Wilde

More Is Merrier

Views on consensual non-monogamy

Brighton Bipolar

Adult Survivor of Child Abuse and Diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder - Working towards ending the stigma of Mental Illness

The Self-Actualized Life

Have a fulfilling life sexually and every other way!

Assentively Yours

Ramblings of a depressed mind and other nuances.

Larry Archer's World (

------ Erotica from the dirty mind of Larry Archer


is there a path to a successful open marriage?


The silent inside of an anonymous Indian rebelling against society

The (Bi)te

The uninteresting world of a young bisexual girl


What Perspective Matters Most Depends on Your Perception


Just my random thoughts and meanderings... I'll try to keep you entertained

Roller Coaster Life of a Fat Girl

Highs and Lows of My Weight Loss Journey


when and why size matters


I write when the choice is to die if I don't

My SEXuality

Why am I afraid to tell you who I'am?

Confessions of a Cheating Housewife

...because love just isn't enough ;)

%d bloggers like this: