I just came from the bi guys forum where the big topic today seems to be why bisexual men are shunned and, as expected, everyone has an opinion about it and many opinions are just rehashing shit that’s being said about bisexuality and, if only in my opinion, the membership is over-thinking the whole matter. If one understands why homosexuality in any form is shunned, it doesn’t take much to see why bisexuality is being shunned today and more than homosexuality is. We all know what the rules are regarding love, sex, and relationships. In the beginning, homosexuality took those rules and flushed them and we know about the battle homosexuals have fought and died for in order to be seen and treated as everyone else is. Ah, but now, there are more and more bisexuals making their presence known and felt and, no, bisexuals didn’t just appear out of nowhere – we’ve always been around albeit in the background.
But our “emergence” takes the one-on-one rules and just obliterates them because as far as the bisexual fellas are concerned, we have the fucking nerve to not only engage in sexual congress with women but we also act just like the once-hated homosexual men, too! I’ve been around long enough to see how the angst has been transferred from homosexual men to bisexual men but it remains true that bisexual women, well, okay, that’s quite acceptable but lesbian women tend to disagree – but that’s to be expected because bisexual women face the same kind of angst with lesbians that bisexual men face with gay men and because we take the generally accepted one-on-one rule and toss it out the nearest window.
I’ve been around long enough to have taken notice that the things being said about biphobia are eerily similar to what was once said in reference to homophobia; they’ve just been redirected toward bisexuals. And if no one else has, I’ve noticed that it’s quite interesting that homosexuals are, in fact, holding to traditional heterosexual standards… and standards that bisexuality, by its very nature, just rips to shreds; there’s a reason why bisexuals are demanded to pick a side and stay there, right? I’ve also noticed that the people who are making this demand aren’t heterosexuals, who kinda tend to take the stance that as long as you’re not hitting on them for sex, they don’t care what you do… but homosexuals give us shit about this because our existence pretty much takes that which they believe and invalidates it because, like almost everyone believes, people are supposed to be monosexual only.
Yeah, right… sure they are. What it boils down to is whether or not an individual is going to believe the hype and bullshit… or accept the reality that bisexuals have always been around despite the constant push to keep things like sex the way it’s been prescribed and mandated which, today, is boy/girl, boy/boy, girl/girl… but as sure as hell not “all of the above.” The membership kept pointing to what bisexual men do as the source of the lack of acceptance but it’s not what we do that’s being objected to – again, it’s the fact that we have the unmitigated gall to want to be with men and women, thumbing our metaphorical noses at the one-on-one rule. They insist that this cannot be… except it’s always been like this because bisexuality isn’t a modern kind of thing – it’s just that bisexuals are being more noticed today than at any other time.
And some folks just don’t like knowing that the things they believe in aren’t entirely the truth of how shit has been really happening all along. Like you’ve seen me write, there’s the way things are supposed to be… and then there’s the way things really are and the truth is that some cannot accept is that bisexuality is real and just as real as being straight or gay.