…but the other day, there was a spirited discussion about sucking cock for the first time and as a bisexual man, it did my heart a lot of good to see so many guys eager to give head for the first time. What really got my attention was a comment made by a guy who wanted to know if sucking cock was like sucking skin – like sucking on a soft finger – and what does another cock feel like, i.e., soft, hard, heavy, etc..
For a moment I thought that this was a strange thing to ask about until I took another moment to think about it. As men, we, um, get very familiar with our own dicks; we have occasion to see quite a few of them, like in the shower room after gym class, and if we watch porn, we get to eyeball some pretty impressive-looking dicks… and none of which really prepares you to handle sucking cock for the first time. As I continually say, it’s one thing to think about doing this and let your imagination run wild thinking about what it would be like but the potentially very cold slap in the face comes when there’s a naked man with you and his cock is right there in your face, either soft or very hard, and awaiting some attention from you.
Those of you who suck cock know exactly what I’m talking about because we’ve all had that first time doing this and can recall whether or not it was the scariest thing we’ve ever done… or it wasn’t that much of an ordeal in any way. For those who haven’t had the experience, well, that someone would ask the questions this guy did really isn’t surprising. Yeah, okay, you might be thinking, “What kind of question is that? If you’ve seen one dick – even your own – you’ve seen them all!” and that’s not as true as one might believe because, thanks to the “magic” of genetics, every swinging dick is unique to the person it’s attached to – only the anatomy itself is consistent from one guy to the next but things like shape, size, heft, girth, etc., isn’t so consistent.
So while playing with your own dick is one thing, playing with someone else’s dick is a different experience and one of the things that keeps a lot of guys on the bench is not really knowing what it’s like to actually touch another man’s cock. Yep, you’d think that it shouldn’t be any different from touching your own but that’s not how it works in your head; since this isn’t your prick you’re about to grab and do something this, it’s perceived to be different, strange and for some, about the scariest thing they’ve done to date. You might even think that if you’ve watched porn, that should tell you what the deal is… but that’s just visual input; you can see the size and shape of a “model’s” cock but you have no way of knowing what it feels like, what it tastes like, and even what he smells like.
Now, someone like myself can tell you these things and that’s fine but until you actually experience these things for yourself, your knowledge and understanding is, at best, incomplete. The intellectual aspects are theory and while there’s nothing wrong with theory, um, they don’t prove themselves do they? Theories must be proven via practical application and while a guy can confirm their theories via the experiences of others, this still isn’t the same as finding yourself face to face with another man’s cock.