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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Inside Cock Sucking

17 Jul

I guess I’m kinda on a roll today and where this is concerned, it’s a close second to eating pussy. Why suck dick? It’s fun, it’s intimate, and among guys, it’s an entry level kind of thing for those looking to take the plunge and, for many of those who’ve already gotten their feet (and everything else) wet, it’s kinda an expectation. Guys say they’re a top, a bottom, or both as the situation calls for but sucking is almost an expected skill to be acquired and honed.

Yeah, don’t ask me why my brain got on this; I was replacing my Xbox One controller back into its charging cradle because it got cat attacked and somehow and for some reason, this leaped right into my head.

The “funny” thing about this isn’t that people suck cock – it’s why they do it and it’s usually along the lines of they love doing it, they’re expected to do it, or they feel obligated. Some guys are “cum sluts” while some would rather avoid consuming cum if it can be avoided; for some, sucking a dick is a sexual act unto itself while for others, it’s a prelude to fucking and often not considered to be foreplay – it’s just something to do to ensure the dick is good and hard and ready for insertion.

My mind also wondered – and not for the first time – when humans discovered that oral sex was a damned good thing to do as well as what two guys figured this out; bot of these things seems to have gotten lost and likely this discovery was made before there was such a thing as written history.

I don’t know about anyone else but I’m glad it was discovered. There are a lot of negatives associated with cock sucking involving men (yeah, what else is new?) bit I’ve always felt and believed that if this was really as bad as we believe it to be, um, no one would be doing it… but it’s clear why it’s bad – that baby-making thing again.

For some it’s a chore to be avoided or, if it can’t, the least amount of time spent doing it, the better. I once again point to the recently written TBT: How Do You Know? and that for a lot of guys, being the one doing the sucking is fairly alien to them so they tend to ask what’s it like and even I have a hard time trying to put it into words… and words that makes sense. It’s good but naughty, both easy to do but it can be a lot of work at the same time and then there’s the question of what to do about the sperm that’ll show up at some point (and if at all).

I’ve been of a mind that you’re either gonna love it or you like it or you’re indifferent about it and the funny thing about guys who class blow jobs into good or bad don’t seem to realize that it’s not technique that makes a blow job good or bad – it’s the level of desire of the person doing the sucking so you can, if you cared to pay attention, tell the difference between someone who loves to do and someone who doesn’t.

I recall a conversation with Cityman about this and, honestly, despite the seriousness of the conversation, I was almost hysterical with laughter as he shared his “concerns” about sucking cock and sucking a guy off – and that included being sucked. And, yes, he knows I was laughing at him because I told him I was.

See, there’s an expectation that if there’s no fucking on the table, dicks will be sucked and sucked until nuts get busted; otherwise, there doesn’t seem to be a point in sucking a dick if you’re not gonna get the other guy to bust a nut. I maintain that if you don’t wanna swallow it, you don’t have to but that’s personal preference that’s an aside of the battle of wills that takes place and, again, it’s kinda funny.

You’re sucking his cock and with the ultimate goal of making him lose his load; he actually wants you to make him lose it… but he’s not gonna make it easy if he can help it and it’s part of the intimate fun in sucking cock other than getting almost all of your senses into the game as well as taking care of one’s oral fixation. True enough, some guys make sucking their cock and getting them off a difficult thing to do and because, um, they don’t know how to get their dick sucked and, sadly, many believe that watching how porn stars do it is the way it’s supposed to be done; some also feel or otherwise believe that being face-fucked and having your dick sucked is one and the same… and it isn’t and if you don’t know the difference, I don’t know what to tell you other than what I just said.

You can learn all the techniques you can get under your belt… but if sucking cock isn’t a fun thing for you to do and/or you don’t get any satisfaction from doing it, well, would you say that this is a problem? Yeah, yeah – we hear that women aren’t fans of it because of a lot of things – it’s a lot of work, it takes too long, that, uh, liquid finish is an issue as well as the known fact that if homey cums before getting into the pussy, he’s pretty much done for a period of time.

Would it surprise you that men also share these things and despite the fact that a lot of men do this to each other because women infamously aren’t fans? Again, if you’re not into anal sex, the blow job is the thing to do – again, it’s an expected skill one “must have and, indeed, a lot of M2M encounters never get off the ground because someone isn’t willing or otherwise fond of sucking cock.

Just keep in mind that I keep telling y’all that men are funnier about this than women can be, okay? I know I’m very biased about this because, as I said in the beginning, sucking cock runs a close second to eating pussy which, in my very humble opinion, is just way too much fun to do.

Cityman told me once that he’ll blow a guy but, bleh, it really doesn’t do much for him and I allowed that just like anything else, you have to learn how it can make you feel pretty damned good to do it. It’s sensual and very intimate and so damned naughty that it makes me wonder why some guys aren’t excited by this; a lot of guys admit that they’ll blow a guy because he expects it or the only way they’re gonna get their dick sucked is if they do some sucking. I’ll say that Cityman has since discovered that sucking cock can be all of that and a bag of chips. I’ve been of a mind to think that when sucking a dick, we – and I mean anyone who sucks cock – is thinking more about pleasing the cock’s owner more than finding out what it is that’s pleasurable about doing it.

A lot of guys on the bi guy forum say that when they suck cock, they do it to please the other guy which I guess is okay… but I suck cock to make myself feel all warm, fuzzy, and orgasmic and if the other guy is enjoying it, okay, that works. Why suck cock? Well, for the same reason you eat pussy – because it makes you feel very damned good to do it! And I have zero shame to admit that doing either thing makes me feel very good and is very satisfying.

And, really, if you don’t feel this way about it, why are you doing it at all. Sure, I’d say that on the whole, oral sex is a expectation for some (and others not so much but I’m not talking about them) and maybe it’s just me but if you’re gonna do it, why not have a grand time doing it? Yes, there are some guys who say that they can’t cum from getting sucked, the poor things… doesn’t mean ya can’t have a load of fun trying to get them to cum, does it? Now, admittedly, the guys who baffle me are the ones who say they love to suck cock… but don’t like being sucked and I’m fairly sure my bias gets in the way of me really understanding this – but it is what it is for them.

It can be challenging and labor intensive and I can easily admit that but if it was really that easy, I wonder how much fun it would truly be? People say oral sex isn’t really sex and some say it’s not intimate (but kissing is – go figure) but if it’s not really sex and it lacks intimacy, well, what is it and why doesn’t it? As mentioned, some folks don’t even consider it to be foreplay and I don’t pretend to understand what makes them think this, that and the thought that if you’re not gonna enjoy doing it, why do it at all?

You know, being called a cock sucker is still an epithet that can start a fight and like being a sucker of cocks is a bad thing… and I suppose it is for all of those folks who still believe that men shouldn’t suck each other’s cocks. Hell, I used to get seriously pissed off whenever someone called me a cocksucker… until I “realized” that, um, I do suck cocks… so what am I getting pissed off about?

It seems to me that bi guys these days build a wall between giving and receiving and as if the two things aren’t mutually inclusive… or they shouldn’t be and “reciprocation” is a big time buzzword. They say it’s better to give than receive and, yeah, sure, even I’ve been known to tell a guy that he doesn’t have to return the favor… but I’m not gonna get all bent out of shape if he does return the favor.

The fellas ask, “Would you rather give or receive?” And my answer is, “Yes!” which tends to baffle them and I supposed they’re used to things being one or the other… but not both. Is it a “gay” thing to do? Of course it is… but I’m not gay, am I? Well, I am when I’m blowing a guy and in that moment but you know what I mean and more so since, if you can believe what’s being said about more men joining the bisexual ranks, not every man who sucks cock is homosexual.

I love it, don’t you? And if you don’t, ask yourself why you don’t then ask yourself if it makes sense not to find it as enjoyable as it can be.

Okay, back to Minecraft…

 
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