Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Is It Asking Too Much?

A guy on the “new forum” asked this question and with reference to his desire to be the “monkey in the middle” as two guys have their way with him, one in his butt, the other in his mouth. The membership was pretty positive with their comments and quite a few wrote that they’d be eager to experience this themselves.

Is it asking too much? Well, no, not really – whatever floats your boat and all that and the fantasy of such a thing can be pretty exciting to think about; it doesn’t surprise me at all that a lot of guys want to have this MMM experience because, if nothing else, it’s a… test of concept (and because I can’t think of anything else to call it) that provide additional “proof” that they like dick as much as they’ve found that they do. It’s also quite the challenge and not just because you’ve got two horny dudes working together to do a number on you.

It’s challenging because most people don’t have a clue about having sex with more than one person. One of the things that is assumed – and I really don’t know why – is that three guys getting together to have sex with each other not only makes sense but it’s not as difficult as, say, getting a woman to join two guys in bed… when it’s not as easy as it’s presumed to be because, as I’ve said a lot, guys are funnier about this than women are.

Some MMM threesomes do happen spontaneously; to one and all involved, sure, sounds like it’ll be fun – let’s do it! But it’s something that has to be planned and with particular focus on the participants and their unique personalities, those things they find attractive about men and, importantly, their willingness to share something in a group setting that, as a matter of course, is more of a one-on-one activity

You’d think that “Pete,” “Frank,” and “Earl,” because they all like dick, they’d be on the same page about this and be more than eager to do it… and you’d be mistaken because for a MMM threesome to jump off, there’s more to it than all three guys liking dick. There are a lot of questions to be answered before “Pete” invites the other two guys:

1. Are they even interested in doing it like this? Some guys dream about this act between three guys but doesn’t mean they really wanna do it like that.
2. Does everyone know each other and, if so, do they even like each other enough to get naked in this group setting?
3. Does anyone have any modesty or other issues that might be a problem pulling this off? As an example, if “Earl” is feeling some kind of way about the size of his cock, it’s one thing to let one guy get at him… but two? This situation gets “worse” in the case where “Earl” is very familiar with “Pete…” but doesn’t know “Frank” all that well.
4. What’s everyone’s idea of being sexually attracted? It’s not unusual for guys to know and like each other enough to hang out… but when it comes to doing the nasty, eh, not really each other’s type so much even though all three guys like cock and ass.

I’ve found that if these things aren’t taken into consideration when thinking, “Ya know, I think it’d be fun if all of us got nasty with each other!” uh, things usually don’t go very well. Sure, you get some guys sauced enough, their inhibitions take a hike, and they’re all gung-ho for whatever happens but, conversely, the removal of their inhibitions might reveal that they’re a lot more nervous in the service than their un-sauced behavior tends to indicate; they’d be just fine in a one-on-one setting but a group thing lights up all kinds of caution lights.

If there’s some reluctance, sure, it’s possible to get all persons involved engaged in something but with a cloud of reticence hanging over things that, frankly, ain’t gonna be a good thing. I’ve heard guys talk about their unsuccessful attempts at this and they’ve wondered just what the fuck went wrong… and what went wrong is that they overlooked the fact that guys are funny about how they have sex and more so if they’ve never been in this situation before. It’s one thing to be talking to a guy and this comes up and he says, in theory, that he thinks this would be hot and all that… and obviously something very different when he finds himself in that moment of truth.

It’s deeply ingrained in us to only have sex with one person at a time and it’s not easy to set this aside even though ya might think it would be fun; shit, some guys are funny about getting undressed in front of just one guy so you might be able to imagine how getting undressed before two guys might make them feel. Some guys are even funny about the dicks they like to play with so if a guy is a fan of cut cocks and now he’s with two other guys – and one of them is uncut – oops; that might be a problem.

Ditto for cock size. A lot of guys subscribe to the “bigger is better” school of thought and guys who have issues with the size of their dick might not be of a mind to let more than one person know that they don’t measure up and “as expected.” And, yeah, some guys have self-esteem issues about the condition of their body and it can be a stretch to initially get naked with one guy but really pushes their comfort level when there are two guys eyeballing them from head to toe… and they might not like what they see.

I’d say that it’s not asking to much to want what you want… but you might be asking a lot of other guys you might want to engage with. There are, in fact, a lot of guys who think they can do this; they also find out that thinking and doing sure as fuck ain’t the same things.

Cityman asked me one time (actually more than once but I digress on this one) if being in a threesome would bother me and I had to laugh since, um, I’ve participated in more group sex than most people I know so this is old hat as far as I’m concerned. We got into a lot of situational and conditional things that involved preferences and one’s thoughts about what’s sexually attractive and what isn’t and I allowed that, sure, one must consider these things before agreeing to join the party but a lot of it has to do with how one thinks about having sex and I said to him, when we talked about preferences, that if there’s a preference to really be taken into consideration, it’s the preference to have sex that stands out the most.

If you let what you like and don’t like into the mix, um, ah, ya might find that being able to jump in there and have a fun good time might be hard to do. Which is why planning these things and hashing out the details is, to me, a necessary and important thing to do because there’s nothing that will kill a sexy moment faster than someone doing something that someone else doesn’t like – and no one knew that they didn’t like whatever happened.

Just having a liking when it comes to playing with a dick isn’t enough; there are just too many other things that play into this and while a MMM tryst can jump off spontaneously, it usually works out better for one and all when you can get everyone to buy into it, allay any fears or concerns, and other things that will make having one guy plowing your south forty while another reams out your tonsils a very satisfying thing to do.