Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Another One of Those Questions

08 May

“Which do you like the best – eating pussy or sucking dick?”

Typical when bi guys are talking but it’s the question itself that I continue to find so revealing in that it enforces that “either/or” school of thought that, I dunno, is part of being a “typical” person. The question implies that one thing is better than the other and, sure, it can be viewed as such depending on where one’s head is about either thing specifically and oral sex in general.

Of course, some guys who’ve not sucked a dick let the membership know that, in actuality, they had no point of reference in which to provide an answer to the question; kinda hard to say whether you like sucking dick more than eating pussy when you’ve never sucked a dick, right? Still, it’s good to know that those guys do wanna suck dick.

But what does it say about how we think about this stuff? A lot of things in our lives are based upon preferences, that which we like versus that which we don’t like so much. I found it a bit odd that some guys said that they do like eating pussy but prefer sucking cock more and I kinda expected such responses before I actually read them.

Either thing is all that easy to do from a physical point of view; when you add on how the person you’re sucking or eating may or may not react, well, your results, as a giver of head, may vary including having moments where doing either thing hasn’t been your idea of fun.

Bisexuality bridges a gap, you know, that place that’s between straight and gay and is often seen as the best of both sexual worlds… yet we ask questions like this that, at best, only serve to slice and dice things and, often, unnecessarily so while perpetuating that “either/or” mindset.

It is to note – and also as expected – that some guys said both are the best, including yours truly… but not many guys said this and I wonder if the guys who said that they like sucking dick the best – and other than being truthful, mind you – were thinking more about their experiences than they were performing the acts themselves.

Methinks this is a significant difference in perspective.

I could spend a few hours telling you everything I love and “hate” about giving someone head; I could regale you with hours of stories of epic successes and failures giving head but, sure, I like both the best because, um, I do, in fact, love giving head despite the difficulties and varying results… because it kinda/sorta doesn’t make sense not to like giving head – period.

The results are what they are and mean what they mean… but the act itself, well, if ya can’t find the pleasure in it, I don’t know what to tell you except maybe that thinking more about the act and the pleasures it provides more than focusing on how things turned out.

Bisexuals are plagued with a lot of these either/or questions that “implies” picking a side, if you will, which semantically defeats the premise of bisexuality: It’s not men or women, it’s men and women. It’s not that sucking dick or eating pussy trumps each other although, when based on one’s experiences, one can be better than the other but doesn’t – or shouldn’t, in my opinion – be trumped by the fact that giving someone head is a lot of fun… even if the person you’re giving head to doesn’t share that assessment.


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3 responses to “Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Another One of Those Questions

  1. theacquiescentsoul

    8 May 2019 at 17:22

    The question, I think, has the quality of confining the bi into a preconceived box of a notion. For me, it’s always been, “Well, it depends who I’m with at the moment…” If I am with a woman, it’s gonna be the former. If I’m with a guy, it’s gonna be the latter.


    • kdaddy23

      8 May 2019 at 17:30

      Yes, of course! As always, the devil is in the details… and those details don’t always includes the obvious – “It depends.” Not so much on the person but how one is thinking and feeling when about to give head, while doing it, after after the fact.

      Today, I like eating pussy more than sucking dick; tomorrow it’s a different answer and one solely based upon how I’m feeling and what I’m thinking. Hell, right now, sucking a nice hard dick would be grand… and three seconds later, eating pussy works because it’s pussy… and still oral sex.

      And that is, in fact, no different from the thousand or more decisions I make every day about everything. Like the infamous “what’s for dinner” game; I like pasta more than steak some days… but I like to eat even if what I have for dinner isn’t the thing I like the most. Why be put in a position to choose between two very likable things when, in fact, both are best to ha e your mouth in contact with?

      Liked by 2 people

      • kittykris4u

        13 July 2019 at 01:08

        mmmmmmmmm I wish you were here eating mine now Sexxy Daddy



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