One of the seven deadly sins. It goeth before the fall… yet, we are encouraged to take pride in what we do and who we are. But we’re some weird critters in that we see sex as both a shameful thing to partake of while recognizing, for the most part, our need for it. We hide what we do; we hide who we do it with and, in this context, we continue to have the eye-rolling behavior of dissing a part of what it means to be human.
Been seeing a lot of Pride stuff here and there and that’s a good thing but, being from the old school and all that, if you’re not quite straight, it’s nothing to be ashamed of since it’s a given that you’re not the only one who isn’t all that straight. We are raised to own the things in our lives, to adapt ourselves to a great many things and as quickly as possible because we know that the world, on the whole, isn’t going to slow down and wait for someone to get up to speed on what it can mean to be alive.
I thought, “I was proud of my sexuality before it became a thing…” and despite what all the old heads were saying about being prideful or even getting a “big head” over your successes and no matter what you succeeded in. If you’re not going to tempt fate and engage in some pride about who and what you are, is anyone really gonna do it for you? Is anyone else supposed to instill a sense of pride in you when, supposedly, you’re capable of figuring this out yourself?
Depends on a lot of shit but it’s not like I don’t understand what Pride is all about – I do. It’s telling anyone who cares to pay attention that no matter what you think about those of us who aren’t straight, we are here and among you and your… primitive and outmoded thinking isn’t going to make us go away or stop us from celebrating our lives and this aspect of our lives, too.
The old heads – those remaining folks of the generation before mine – have a hard time getting their heads around this sexuality thing; the folks of my generation had a… breakout moment when we started shouting loudly, “If it feels good, do it!” – and then was going about doing it and with great gusto and much to the chagrin to those who were of a mind that we were just… unholy and highly immoral to be having sex – and engaging in relationships – way outside of what was still considered to be the norm.
But the one thing we learned is that we can be… prideful about being bisexual without being publicly demonstrative about it and it’s a thing that many of us still do because even with the greater exposure Pride has brought to the table, there are still a lot of people who think we’re the weirdos and, sometimes, worse that gay folks, because we’re neither straight nor gay.
A mentor told me that we should always celebrate our successes, not only on the job but in life as well; Pride is both a… demonstration as well as a celebration; events taking place all over the globe shows everyone that, again, we are here. We are among you. Some of us are pretty obvious while many more of us aren’t so obvious.
And we aren’t going anywhere. I felt myself nodding to think about this… then I almost got a bad case of the giggles to think, “Hey… since you can’t beat us, why don’t you join us?” I held off the giggles because I know that there are a whole lot of people who are, in fact and in deed (if/when they can), joining us because they’re refusing to keep being suppressed and shamed for being the way humans have always been throughout the entirety of our existence.
Slowly but surely, we are letting go of being afraid of what we are; we’ve quickly become sick and tired of those who keep trying to shame us and make us the bad guys because of what we are. Bisexuals are the new rebels with a cause, taking up the “rebellion” where homosexuals left off and, by the millions who attend Pride events, letting the very terminal Moral Majority know that they are, in fact, a dying breed and like change tends to do, is leaving them in the dust because they continue to hold on to a mindset that is, every single, being proven to be outdated, outmoded, and inaccurate.
Whether anyone attends a Pride event or not, we should all be proud of what we are and whether anyone else knows it or not. Does being bisexual make me feel some kind of way… and in that negative sense? Hell, no – why should it? Oh, that’s right – the people who think no one should be bisexual say I should feel badly about it. Not gonna happen. Ever. In this, I have the advantage of coming to terms with all of this way, way before all the current drama got started and when the focus of societal angst was all on homosexuals and, yeah, anyone who appeared to be – or even falsely accused of being – gay, fairies, queer or just not straight.
We are no different from anyone else; we work, pay taxes, so on and so forth but with the one real difference being that when it comes to intimacy, bisexuals don’t pick a side or, ha, we’re more… equal opportunity in these things.
And proud to be. Because it doesn’t make any damned sense not to be proud of yourself. We talk about the need for acceptance of bisexuality and Pride is visible proof that if no one else is gonna accept it, we do. And we do it every single day and not just when a Pride event is put together. Every day. Everywhere. We are among you and we’re not going anywhere… and with Pride events, we have the nerve to let you know this. You’re not gonna see all of us but in this, if you see one of us, you’re seeing all of us because the one’s you see at events aren’t the only ones who are bisexual. And if you think, “Shit… that’s a lot of people…” you’re right – and more than you could ever realize.