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Life, Living and Loving: Mrs. Fever’s Inspiration Project: What Inspires Me to Write

15 May

I write a lot about bisexuality and the inspiration comes from the fact that I am bisexual and have been for a large portion of my life… like over five decades. The other thing that inspires me to write about it is knowing that:

  1. A lot of people have no idea what bisexuality is.
  2. A lot of people don’t know how to be bisexual and that it’s not just a thing to do sexually.
  3. A lot of people have questions or concerns and there aren’t that many answers to them that aren’t couched in pie-in-the-sky nonsense and psychobabble.
  4. It’s a kind of legacy thing; I felt a great need to pass on what I’ve learned about this and I’ve learned a lot of shit about this
  5. It’s therapeutic to write. Years ago, I had a stroke that left my whole right side impaired. I had to relearn how to walk and relearn how to do simple things like pick something up with my right hand and other stuff right-handed people normally do and including, for me, being able to type as well and as fast as I could before I had the stroke.

I like to say that I’m “rabidly bisexual” which might sound weird but isn’t; being bisexual is the shit, not just because of the sex that can be had but because it proved to be one hell of an eye-opening thing that, almost right away, showed me the world and the way things really worked. I saw that what we believe about certain things is just the preferred way to do them… but has never been the only way.

Bisexuality liberated me from conventional thinking, beliefs and behaviors. It’s been likened to being blind… then being able to see and now a lot of the things that didn’t make sense started to make sense… and I embraced the hell out of it and, without any shame whatsoever, yeah – the sex is just fucking amazing. Once I started blogging – and blogging about this particular aspect – the thoughts that are forever bouncing around inside my head now had an outlet and if I had a regret, it’s that it took a long time for me to find this outlet and I probably wouldn’t have until a very dear – and now late – friend of mine told me about the blog she was writing and suggested that she thought I’d be good at blogging.

As it turns out, this month is my WordPress anniversary month. I wrote my very first blog on 28 May 2010… and I haven’t stopped blogging and, wow, I’ve had a lot to say about what it’s like to be bisexual and what it means as well as what I’ve observed from others on the topic. When someone asked me, “Why do you write about this?” my answer was, “Because someone has to… and someone has to be for-real about it. No sugar-coating it; no bullshit; tell it as it is and as I’ve experienced and observed it.”

While a lot of bloggers blog to gain an audience and can be all about the stats, eh, I don’t care about that so much; I’m inspired and “driven” to get the word out to anyone who cares to pay attention to it that bisexuality isn’t the non-existent thing everyone seems to think it is. It’s not all about the sex but the sex is just as much a part of it as the emotional aspects are. I’ve heard a lot of people ask, “Why do guys have sex with each other?” and I’m the guy who can answer that question and, nope, being gay has nothing to do with it… and I’m also the guy who is inspired to do some mythbusting and get down to the real and “dirty” answer to that question…

And then to let anyone who cares to read what I write know that the only shame in this is the shame we allow ourselves to feel or allow someone else to foist upon us. Stats aren’t important; the fact that few people ever comment on the things I write about this doesn’t mean a whole lot… but getting the word out there means everything.

I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it for I shall not pass this way again.” Etienne de Grellet du Mabillier is credited with uttering these words and when I first saw this, I was inspired; if I can “set the record straight” about what it means to be bisexual and what it is, then I’ve done some good and, again, someone has to. If not now, when? If not me, then who? I’d not call my the expert in things bisexual… but I know some shit about it and, as one can see when I write, it’s a lot of shit that most people aren’t even aware of because few people ever really bother to dig down deep and as I did to answer a question I asked myself five decades ago: How can something that’s supposed to be so bad feel so good?

Because I know the answer, yeah… inspired like you wouldn’t believe. I know the good of it as well as the bad; I understand the science behind it and if being bisexual didn’t teach me anything, it taught me what it means to be human and no matter what the rules have to say about it. Some bloggers write to excite and stimulate and, well, when I write about, um, certain things, they can excite and stimulate… but that’s not the purpose or reason because if I really wanted to do that, I can and have written erotica and got published (and paid) for it. I am inspired to inform and to the best of my ability to do so and do it in a no-nonsense, no bullshit kind of way because I know, even if no one else does or cares to know, bisexuality is some very real and life-changing shit.

And I remain inspired to be the one to have the nerve and gall to write about it… because someone has to.

 
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6 responses to “Life, Living and Loving: Mrs. Fever’s Inspiration Project: What Inspires Me to Write

  1. Mrs Fever

    15 May 2021 at 17:00

    Rabidly Bisexual — this made me giggle! 😉 Love it!

    I absolutely agree, re: legacy, and “someone has to.” The only way we (the collective ‘we’) can gain a better understanding of the depths and nuances of sex and relationships is if we (‘we’ as individuals) share our stories. I think you do a great job of that on your blog.

    And how cool is it, to not only ACCEPT, but also EMBRACE and feel INSPIRED by your own sense of bisexual identity?

    !!!!!

    So many people struggle to “find themselves” or to even understand who they are (or why they do what they do), but you are like, “yep, this is me” in a totally No-Bullshit way. I think that’s awesome. 🙂

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    • kdaddy23

      15 May 2021 at 17:04

      Absolutely no shame in my game at all and I know we’re taught to be ashamed… and people need to know this and see that they need not be ashamed of who and what they are. Yep – rabidly bisexual; that’s me all day, every day. But I know the truth and I’m gonna keep telling it.

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  2. naughty nora

    16 May 2021 at 14:27

    I LOVE knowing you have been blogging since 2010 and that you still have so much to say! I can only hope to maintain the passion you have for sharing your truth and educating others. Very cool, kdaddy!

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    • kdaddy23

      16 May 2021 at 14:59

      When this has been an integral part of your life for as long as it has been, there’s always something to say and the passion is always there.

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  3. thebarefootsub

    18 May 2021 at 05:54

    Great Post, and it’s lovely to find your blog.

    This stood out for me “While a lot of bloggers blog to gain an audience and can be all about the stats, eh, I don’t care about that so much; I’m inspired and “driven” to get the word out to anyone who cares to pay attention to it that bisexuality isn’t the non-existent thing everyone seems to think it is.”

    Having an understanding of why you write is half the battle with inspiration, isn’t it? I’m very much looking forward to reading on about your experiences with bisexuality. It’s refreshing to see a man’s take on their sexuality.

    For me blogging is about communicating with 1- myself and 2- Sir. I love that others find value in what I share, in particular my experiences of domestic violence and personal growth, and so the stats are interesting. But not the be all and end all. N

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    • kdaddy23

      18 May 2021 at 15:09

      Thanks – and welcome to what’s inside my head! What stood out for me in your comment was that you blog to communicate with yourself – that’s huge where self-care is concerned.

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