Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Misinformation

22 Aug

Some time ago, I read a rather lengthy article from a “reliable” source that sought to apply demographics to bisexuality. The article cited things like living in urban areas, being at or below current poverty levels, a lack of education, ethnicity, and joblessness as the epicenter for risky bisexual behaviors and mainly among men. They did mention a rise in domestic abuse instances among bisexual women as well as date rape and other despicable things but the gist of the article was about bisexual men.

It had me wondering where they got their information from and noted that, as the media tends to do, they carefully omitted some things and, notably, that there are a lot of people who don’t fit the demographics they mentioned who are bisexual and, at a high level, no more or less than anyone else who is. Their data are skewed – or got that way – as a lot of well-known celebrities came out as being bisexual but instead of adjusting their demographic statements, much of the media chose to field the question of whether they were really gay and, I don’t know, maybe because their celebrity didn’t fall into the demographic information all that much since many celebrities don’t live in urban areas, aren’t anywhere near poverty levels, are college educated, from all walks of ethnic life, and they obviously have a job.

If you’re gonna tell it, tell all of it and not just the part of it that fits your view of things and more so when you’re going to make a “point” that male bisexuals are a clear and present danger to everyone. Is the information the article provided accurate? Yes… but they only told one side of it; they left out the larger demographic group who makes up the middle class and definitely didn’t say anything about those in the upper class who, just like anyone else can, are getting their bisexual freak on.

The article almost specifically called out Black and Hispanic men and, yep, they got that part right because there are a lot of Black and Hispanic bisexuals; the article sought to downplay white and other ethnic bisexuals and I remember reading all this and thinking that I knew more white bisexuals than any other ethnicity – and that was just where I grew up and lived; once I got traveling to other places, I got a more broader picture of things bisexual and while I could better see how inclusive male bisexual was in reference to race and those other things that article mentioned, reading the article had me wondering what the fuck was the media trying to do.

Of course, it mentioned men being on the DL and making a point to state that this behavior was a great threat to women because if a man was on the DL, he was engaging in very risky sex and was responsible for the continued spread of STDs and HIV… and I thought that, okay, this much is true… but they still didn’t tell all of it and, notably, the part where there are a lot of men getting some dick action on the side who are not contributing to the health risks to themselves or anyone else for that matter. They inferred that if you’re bisexual, you’re prone to being subjected to or initiating all kinds of abuse, are drug users and other such things and, again, making me wonder where they were getting their information from but also recognizing something I was very familiar with:

You can make the data say anything you want it to say. One of the things I had to learn in order to do my job was statistical analysis which is some pretty cool stuff but even in the business world, I could see how some data were being left out in order to make the results fit the way they wanted things to say. It was something that used to piss me off since, having access to the raw data, I could easily see what was being omitted and I got miffed when whoever ordered the analysis would lose their shit when the results didn’t fit the way they wanted it to and I’d wind up manipulating the data to their specific results and results that, more often than not, didn’t tell the whole story that the data really told.

After reading the article, I could see how the media source only took the data that supported their position in order to write the article and to send the message that if you were male and bisexual, yeah – that clear and present danger thing as well as offering up the opinion that male bisexuals were really on their way to being homosexuals and, yep, in denial and all that other stuff. My thought was, “This is some bullshit…” but the thing that got to me was the number of people who were believing what this particular article – and others like it – were saying and now there were a lot of bisexuals not only believing it but spreading the misinformation and as if it were the gospel truth of bisexuality and male bisexuality.

And it isn’t. There isn’t a day that goes by where I don’t see someone on Twitter and other social media spouting the misinformation and giving it such weight and importance when, methinks, they should be paying more attention to their own sexuality and how to be the best bisexual they can be – and in the face of all the spun-up misinformation and more so when, if you were to really pay attention to it, you’d see that, again, the whole story isn’t being told and the media is having a field day basically fucking with people with the way they present the data but, at the same time, playing on our fascination with celebrities who, hmm, don’t ever seem to be included in the doom and gloom messages about bisexuality… and a lot of bisexuals just love to talk about how cool and nice it is that this celeb or that celeb came out as bi and like them doing so gives validity to bisexuality.

It makes me want to throw up at times. Fame and fortune doesn’t make bisexuality “okay” in that sense and you can’t hold up the “rich and famous” as examples while downplaying or outright denigrating the regular kinds of people for being bisexual. Most of my bisexual experiences involved white, middle to lower upper class guys. Well educated. Being employed not so much of an issue at those ages but, sure, some of us had jobs just the same. The majority of the families in my neighborhood were more middle class than poor and, yeah, most of those families were Black so, sure, all of us guys were having a fun good time having sex with each other and any girls who’d let us have sex with them. And this was back in the 1960s and, yeah, times were hard back then and not all that different from how hard times are in the here and now as far as joblessness, fluctuating poverty levels, education and shit like domestic abuse and mental illness goes; those things haven’t changed much and are facts of the matter… but the media never tells the whole story.

Just the one that fits their point of view or whatever message they’re trying to convey, like, all bisexuals are fucked up but, again, celebrities? They’re kinda/sorta okay; they are lauded for their bravery in coming out while often writing about how many bisexuals come out and get their whole lives FUBAR’ed for telling the truth about themselves. And at fault are… bisexual men and those who fit the aforementioned demographics… but not so much any bisexual man who doesn’t fit them.

Cityman and I often talk about this and he’s got this… thing about education and financial standings where male bisexuality goes that I find both funny – and because he sounds like a lot of other people I know of – and “disturbing” because he’s paying attention to what the media has been saying as well as other sources of misinformation and I tend to caution him about looking at things like that because it creates a bias and as such things tend to do in others that won’t allow one to really see bisexuality for what it is and that there are no barriers that bisexuality doesn’t easily leap over. Things like education, financial standing, where you live or where you grew up and including ethnicity means nothing because, duh, anyone can be bisexual and for whatever reasons makes sense to them.

But there are those who’d want to make you believe that these things are a factor in someone being bisexual and negatively so. And, might I be allowed to point out that a lot of this misinformation is of the same kind I heard about homosexuals and homosexuality? If there’s a difference, it’s that we’ve become adept at spin-doctoring and taking any raw data and making it say whatever we want it to say… while conveniently not telling the whole story or all of the facts that the data reveals.


Posted by on 22 August 2021 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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9 responses to “Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Misinformation

  1. porngirl3

    22 August 2021 at 21:30

    Yea. The media is one big shithole of bias information. I remember reading about pedophiles filling a certain demographic. The data analyst came up with low intelligence, white and ugly. I laughed so hard. Not a single pedophile I’ve ever met has fit that demographic and unfortunately I’ve met far too many for my experience to be an anomaly.

    It’s just like in science. They come up with the hypothesis and then skew the information to match. The people who publish it are either complicit or equally as idiotic.


    • kdaddy23

      22 August 2021 at 22:17

      The media loves to blow things out of proportion in order to pad their viewing numbers and the more sensational they can make it, the better. So what if their info isn’t all that accurate or even credible? Pick a type for something then vilify it loudly and get the fearful even more fearful.

      And people believe it even when they should know better.

      Liked by 1 person

      • porngirl3

        22 August 2021 at 22:35

        The thing about fear is that no matter hor irrational, the person that is fearful wants everyone to be just as fearful and for the same reasons, preferably. Lol

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      • kdaddy23

        22 August 2021 at 23:48

        True. Right up to the moment when someone finds out there’s nothing to be afraid of.


      • porngirl3

        23 August 2021 at 01:10

        Maybe there is something to be afraid of. Living in fear is simply no life to live. It really isn’t. That’s one of my biggest mantra’s.


      • kdaddy23

        23 August 2021 at 15:04

        I’ve spent “a lifetime” demonstrating to a lot of men that bisexuality isn’t the horror a lot of people say and think it is. To bottom-line it and at the least, it’s sex and at the most, relationships of some kind. The media and even social media would have you believe that bisexuality is a pandemic on par with COVID and your whole life will get fucked up in a few ways. What they don’t tell you is that all the bad things I mentioned can happen to anyone; it’s just easier to point the finger at bisexuality and male bisexuals in particular.

        And a lot of men are afraid because they’ve been told to be afraid… until they find out there’s nothing to be afraid of and now they feel a bit silly to have believed the hype and misinformation.


      • porngirl3

        23 August 2021 at 15:27

        Fear is a strong control tactic. It gets weaponized against people constantly. You see this one perspective on how it is getting used and it is valid. It’s nice to see how you see things and the issues you see surrounding it. We all have our hills.


      • kdaddy23

        23 August 2021 at 15:36

        I’m the guy who’ll let people know about stuff like this. At best, the misinformation is a partial truth and that’s more damaging than an outright lie.


      • porngirl3

        23 August 2021 at 15:48

        More believable. I get that.



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