KDaddy’s General Observations: Only in California

08 Oct

I had to write this before it slipped my mind. I was looking at my online newsfeeds when my eye caught a blurb about California passing a law and making it illegal to remove a condom during sex without the other person’s permissions, aka, stealthing… and California is the first and only state with this law now on the books.

I saw the blurb and my curiosity made me read it and as I thought, “Stealthing? What the fuck is that?” Then I read it and thought, “Oh, okay…” I’d heard of it before; I’d heard women putting the word out on some dude who was fucking them with a condom and everything’s going good and the next thing she knew, she could feel his cum blasting into her and it dawns on her that somewhere along the line, he removed the condom and she wasn’t aware that he had… and, yeah, she was beyond being pissed off that he did.

Admittedly, I’d not heard of such a thing “a whole lot.” Now, I’ve used condoms having sex with people and I’ve had them ask me to take it off… and I don’t remember ever asking them if I could take it off and I sure as fuck wouldn’t do something as heinous as having one on, screwing them, and then just ripping it off and being all raw up in them. I’ve broken them and, um, have had them come off in there and the sex just stops to take care of such things… but to just take it off and not tell the other person that you’re doing that and if it’s okay? Ugh.

I’d guess that in the state of California, stealthing is a major problem and one that caused them to make a law against it. It’s the crime/offense of sexual assault, according to the article and someone perpetrating this offense can be sued in civil court. Here’s the link to one such article so you can read it for yourself:

I understand what they said about why they passed this law… didn’t know it was that much of a “thing,” though. The article cited a BBC show where some dude stealthed the woman he was having sex with and the NPR article said something about this being hyped in pop culture and making me think that, perhaps, my pop culture knowledge is sorely lacking or it just might be lacking because I don’t live in California… and Californians, without offense, well, they do some pretty “weird” stuff that other states probably don’t even know about and I often have fun teasing the shit out of my protege over. However, this isn’t a laughing matter… and I will be asking him what he knows about this as he follows California politics fairly closely.


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4 responses to “KDaddy’s General Observations: Only in California

  1. gemmi72

    8 October 2021 at 17:21

    I didn’t know this had a name although I have experienced it with at least two men that I can think of right now, possibly another. It is more common for a guy to try to ‘sneak’ inside naked by ‘accident’.
    What is interesting is that the Australian Capital Territory has recently passed legislation making both of these acts a criminal offence. What is even more interesting is that the member who introduced the bill cited an Australian study conducted in Melbourne that one in three women and one in five men (having sex with other men) were victims of this act.
    So I guess it isn’t just a Californian thing.


    • kdaddy23

      9 October 2021 at 15:43

      Admittedly, I don’t know much about what goes on in Australia and the article didn’t mention any such laws being in place in other countries. The bill here, as I understood the article, stops short of making it a criminal offense like rape or other forms of sexual assault but an offense that could land someone in civil court and being sued for it.

      I wouldn’t be surprised to see news articles about guys in California being arrested and sued for this new… offense.


  2. Mrs Fever

    8 October 2021 at 18:56

    California is pretty much its own planet.

    But really, it makes sense to update sex-offense laws. And yes, I’d say stealthing a fairly common problem. Even if it was a rare one, it should be a punishable offense. I know more than one person who has experienced this, and one of them wound up with an STD as a result. I’d say that’s deserving of punishment!


    • kdaddy23

      9 October 2021 at 15:50

      Yeah, it makes sense to update those laws but I do wonder if it’s one of those laws that could wind up being unenforceable despite being on the books. Sure, a woman can/will find out that homey stealthed her but if she’s gonna take him to task for it in civil court, how does she prove it other than winding up pregnant or with an STD? I did noticed that it’s not a criminal offense – unless I read the article wrong – and that it said one can wind up being sued in civil court seems to indicate that it’s not a criminal offense despite been called a form of sexual battery.

      Yeah… California. Pretty weird over there.



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