Living here in the US often has me writing about male bisexuality and based upon the moral and social norms here so I realized that I’ve been a bit remiss to say a few syllables about this in the other countries I’ve been to in my travels and the things I can read written by male bisexuals who don’t live here.
The first thing that stands out is that a lot of countries are either a lot more relaxed about such things or “extreme” in their resistance to anything that looks like homosexuality. I’ve been to the UK, Canada and even Japan and, well, let’s just say that I came into contact with bisexual men in these countries, you know, to be nice about it for a change. Having said that, the one thing that I take note of is that if we here in the US think that bisexuality is some kind of “sky falling” thing, it pales in comparison to what other bisexuals in other countries have to deal with. I get to see what bisexual men in African countries are saying about things where they live and much of it ain’t pretty given the level of violence against bisexuals and having to live under the threat of death or other severe punishment for not being straight…
And it gives me chills and, without offence, makes me glad that I live here. Like us, a lot of countries are making a push to get and make male bisexuality – and bisexuality on the whole – acceptable but it seems to me that they have more of an uphill battle than we do and it does, I think, speak to why a lot of bisexuals who live in repressive countries are immigrating to the US since, we might be fussing and fighting about all of this but, um, you’re not going to be subject to the death penalty just because you’re not straight and not likely to experience the level of violence I’ve been reading about and especially in those places we consider to be “third world” countries and those who are subject to Sharia law which I don’t pretend to really understand but I’ve heard some stuff about it that gives me chills, too.
Bisexuality isn’t an issue here at home: It’s a global issue and the devil is in the details involved in those places outside of the US. It does suffice to say that in some place, eh, it’s not “that big of a deal” while in others, it is very much a big deal and more so when there’s a lack of… social services that we here in the US kinda/sorta take for granted, like the LGBTQ+ community being “large and in charge” here as they lead the fight for sexuality equality but their presence in other countries is minimal at best… and if it exists at all.
Bisexuality advocates here are trying to spread the word about what our bisexual brothers and sisters are experiencing in those suppressed countries and doing their best to let those who care to listen that this really is a global issue that needs a global resolution and, again, what happens in other countries makes the fussing we’re doing look insignificant and, dare I say, somewhat petty in nature with a lot of finger-pointing and pontificating about our morals and social norms and the evils of domestic violence and rape along with depression and other real or imagined forms of suppression but, again, whew, all of this, while important, just doesn’t hold a candle to being bisexual, say, in an African country, and knowing that if you got caught, you could either wind up in prison for the rest of your life or be summarily executed. There’s a greater chance of experiencing extreme acts of violence as well as being gang-raped and other abuses and the thing that gets me is that all of this… inhumane stuff is all because of a global belief in some stuff that I keep saying doesn’t want to tell the whole story about the sexual nature of humans.
Like, I saw a documentary about the ladyboys in Thailand and what they have to go through to be the person they want and need to be and some of it wasn’t pretty but they’ve made a few inroads to greater acceptance because there are a lot of ladyboys and they are getting together to fight against the suppression and, I’d say, “overloading the system” to the point where officials are in over their heads trying to do anything to stop ladyboys being… ladyboys. I’ve read a lot about the Brazilian version and they’re a lot more “famous” than their Thai counterparts and they have no problems flaunting their appearance or sexuality; Japan, who has always been “funny” about sex doesn’t seem to give citizens who aren’t straight that much grief and if they are, they’re not talking about it all that much but that doesn’t surprise me given their centuries-long privacy about a great many things even with having fun with Western influences (read that as the US “teaching them bad habits but not in bad ways all that much).
Here at home, bisexuality – and especially male bisexuality – is seen as a tremendous moral issue but, eh, yeah, not all that surprising given what our moral beliefs are and where they stem from. We’re the bad guys plain and simple and, depending on who you’re talking to, a clear and present danger not only to our fragile and crumbling morality but to everyone around us. Bisexual women are either being vilified or victimized in unsavory ways and none of this is right but, again, in other and more “extreme” countries?
I remember my first trip to Jamaica and my lady seeing fit to warn me not to “be bisexual” given how infamously homophobic Jamaican are. Of course, I’ve heard about this and probably like a lot of people have but the truth about this is that, sure, a lot of Jamaicans are homophobic… but not all of them are since, um, there are Jamaican bisexuals and a lot of them are male. Hmm. I don’t and didn’t see this as being all that different from that thing I heard about all Blacks being homophobic and, well, I know that’s a lie and for obvious reasons. In these things, we’d rather believe the stereotype and being made fearful of that “reputation” rather than to see the truth: There are bisexuals everywhere and even in countries who aren’t all that much in touch with the rest of the world given how isolated they may be but, yeah, if they’re that isolated and out of touch, there’s not a whole lot we know about them specifically and what information we may have is miniscule at best.
Still, the main point is that bisexuality – and male bisexuality – is very much a globally human thing. I had been reading about the uptick in women being raped in parts of India and one article that suggested that the uptick was taking place because of cultural and religious restriction on men having sex with each other and with some pretty nasty punishments for those who get caught or otherwise outed. I know that Cityman and I talk about this aspect a lot in that these crimes against women could be very much lessened if society-at-large wasn’t so pissy about us – men – doing each other without fear of reprisal and other prejudices. All of this aside, what is to be noted and taken as a given that even in those repressed countries, men are very much having sex with each other which, in the more undeveloped countries has given rise and reason for us here in the US to be slamming down the disease card and not without justification.
We bitch and moan and cower over this aspect but the big difference between us and some other countries is that we have access to better medicines to combat STDs and HIV/AIDS. As such – and as we’re prone to do – we emphasis this aspect of global bisexuality as a reason for people to not be bisexual and with the assumption that if one bisexual gets infected and infects someone else, all male bisexuals are going to infect someone and by some very weird default and, no, I am seriously not joking about this peculiar mindset because I’ve seen it way too much and you just can’t make this up; I have a great imagination but it ain’t that great or good.
The global battle is fierce; the resistance to bisexuality is great but moral and social norms are being overwhelmed and overrun by the sheer number of bisexuals who, despite all the bitching and moaning, are being bisexual nonetheless and it’s like I been saying over the last couple of days: Human nature always seems to trump the rules of man; don’t be anything but straight is all well and good and if it works for you, fine… but it doesn’t work for everyone and needs always musts even if it means taking some “risks” to see to those needs which, really, ain’t all that different from having sex – period.
The awareness must be universal; the push for acceptance must be universal and uniform; we should not “take care of home” and then tell the others who are suffering great suppression and oppression that their problems ain’t our problems – we fixed ours so now get your own house in order… and even though bisexuals everywhere “live” in the same house.
Ideally, we should take a more expansive view about men having sex with each other as well as working toward getting rid our rather prudish beliefs about sex in general. The reality says we’re not like that even here in the US and, I think, more unlike that because of our belief that men are supposed to only be a certain way but glossing over our inherent need for sex to begin with.
We will eventually get this squared away but “eventually” does nothing for the immediate need for global bisexuality – and male bisexuality – to be the crime against nature that everyone believes it to be. Oh, and it’s not going to stop guys anywhere in the world from doing what they gotta do in this and the unspoken “hope” is that it’s done as responsibly as possible and with whatever means are available.