Hmm – that’s a good question, huh? I’d suppose that, on the surface, it could be seen as kinky given that, in the same-sex mode of things, it’s outside of that which is considered to be normal where having sex is concerned but, of course, people can be pretty damned kinky and bisexuality isn’t even in the picture…
Or some folks find a kink that works for them and bisexuality could show up to join the party and as a “kinky” kind of thing to get into on top of the original kink. Growing up? Of course I’d hear how “kinky” it was for someone to go both ways and I’d actually think about if being bisexual was, in fact, kinky – but learned that when you’re bisexual already, it’s not easy to see what might be kinky about it since, to a bisexual, what they may be doing is seen by them to be normal… for them.
It’s forbidden sex… and the fact that it is forbidden makes it exciting for some to even think about and I’ve heard people who only think about sex like this say that it’s pretty kinky – we’re not gonna talk about those who think it’s perverted and disgusting. I’m of a mind that if it’s not a main part of one’s sexual diet, yeah – getting your cookies crumbled in the same-sex way could be seen as being “wickedly” kinky – ain’t it kinda thrilling to do something that’s forbidden but can be loads of fun… and no one other than the people you get “kinky” with knows that you’re being kinky?
I’ve always been of a mind that bisexuality opens a lot of things within a person and it’s just isn’t another way to have sex and be intimate: It opens the mind, too, and some folks become bisexual… and get kinky with other things like group sex (swinging and other forms of this), BDSM stuff, roleplaying, crossdressing and other activities that can be seen as being even more kinkier than being bisexual might be seen as.
Bisexuality – and as I’ve been able to observe it – does seem to open a lot of doors that lead to some pretty interesting sexual experiences or, as I said earlier, getting into a kink of one’s choice can do some door opening that’ll allow bisexuality to pay a visit. It’s actually pretty easy to be up to your eyeballs in your favorite kink and see getting into some same-sex stuff as just another way to enhance the kink and, um, get your cookies crumbled… or you get to crumble someone else’s cookies.
I was thinking about cuckolds yesterday and after I wrote yesterday’s scribble about M2M not looking sexy and I was thinking about this because some guys who are into this could very well wind up becoming a cock sucker… and there are a lot of guys who actually want to be into being a cuck so that they can get a chance of sucking that dick his “hotwife” has been enjoying. And, yeah – there’s plenty of porn to be seen where this happens but what I wonder is if a guy who is being cuckolded thinks, feels, or believes that when his hotwife grabs her other lover’s cock and tell him to suck it, is it kinky as far as he – or even his wife – is concerned?
Again, I’d guess that some would say that it is given that for many, being in a threesome, in and of itself, is pretty damned kinky since sex is only supposed to involve two people and no one else. So while one can find themselves in some kind of threesome and that’s kinky, it can be even kinkier when some same-sex stuff jumps off, too, and more so when it adds to the enjoyment of the moment… and, of course, provided one wants to or can be that kinky in this situation.
I am again reminded of the guy I knew who played Mistress/slave games with his wife and swinging partner and how he was up to his eyeballs being “ordered” to suck cock and get fucked while denying that he was bisexual. I get that being able to say, “I was just following orders” is, in itself, pretty kinky but if I’ve learned nothing about this stuff, it’s that people rarely do sexual things that they really don’t like doing or otherwise don’t believe in but, okay, I can see being “made” to do it can be pretty kinky in their view of things.
For me, it all begs the question of whether or not those things we consider to be kinky are really proof of our innate ability to have sex and in a great many different ways or, an even shorter version and question: Is sex itself considered to be kinky… or just humans doing what humans can do? I mean, even the preferred method of sex – boy/girl – can delve into the realm of kinks, right? I think that because of the way we’ve been told and taught to think about sex does put a lot of things “outside of the box” and those things are, well, kinky.
And as such, bisexuality can be seen as kinky because, um, it is fun, exciting, and pleasurable to take the rules and toss them out whenever they need to be tossed out. I recall, way, way, back in the day, being in a foursome and it wasn’t planned but some same-sex stuff happened and the non-bisexual couple thought that what they’d done was pretty exciting… and kinky. I remember thinking that it “made sense” that they saw it as being kinky because, until that moment, it was something neither of them had even thought about but being in the moment and all that, well, they did it and they seemed to get a kick at finding out they were even more kinkier than they believed themselves to be.
I remember the guy, who had spent quite a bit of time sucking my dick, asking me, “Wasn’t that pretty damned kinky? Wow!” I said that it was really kinky of them but, eh, I kinda fibbed a little because I didn’t think it was kinky at all… then again, having a guy sucking my dick isn’t something new to me… but maybe it is kinky in its own right. I do remember letting the thought just kinda fade away from giving it any conscious thought but, yeah – when some people have sex and in a way that just trashes convention, yup – kinky. Just not the way it’s supposed to be done and, importantly, without a single thought or notion about it being perverted or disgusting sexual behavior.
Methinks there’s not much of a line between being kinky and into one of the many fetishes that can be gotten into and the fetishes themselves could be seen as being kinky or, where bisexuality is concerned, a kink within a kink. Bi guys who are crossdressers come to mind; these guys – and as their idea of a great way to have sex – will set aside their male clothing and put on their best girly stuff – then go to town on another guy’s cock when blowing him and then with great glee assume the position to feel that cock in their ass and on the verge of exploding. Do crossdressers think of themselves as being kinky… or is this just normal for them and, even better, does the guy giving the hot crossdresser da bizness think he’s being kinky having sex with another dude who also happens to be decked out in his finest Victoria’s Secret accoutrement?
Hell, is it kinky to even think about it? Or is it just that humans are just notorious when it comes to finding so many different ways to have sex and it’s… easier to think of it as being kinky and all because whatever their kink is puts them outside of what’s always been considered to be conventional sex? I got to thinking about DDJennifer – she and her clan are a very amazing group and with domestic discipline being their kink of choice… but there’s also bisexuality in the mix as well… and does that become a kink within a kink? I’m gonna have to remember to ask Jennifer about this – and that’s if she doesn’t read this and chimes in. It’s my thought that she might not think of it as being kinky but, who know – she might.
I’ve had people ask me how kinky I am or can be and I’ve responded by saying, “That depends on what you find kinky…” because in my own mind – and because I’m bisexual – I don’t think I’m really all that kinky… in that sense; being in a three- or foursome and some guy on guy action is happening isn’t what I’d call kinky – both things are pretty normal to me… but, yeah, I suppose it can be called kinky even though my mind kinda doesn’t work like that; to me, it’s just an extension of those things we considered to be normal and morally correct – it’s still sex but unconventionally so…
Kinda kinky when ya get right down to it. It’s an interesting notion or even concept given that I know of a lot of people who didn’t have a kinky bone in their body become pretty damned kinky once their bisexuality set in and got off the ground. Bisexuality removes a lot of the “normal” sexual inhibitions – and in defiance of the rules – and, sure, okay: It’s kinky to have sex this way and sometimes the kink isn’t the sex itself – it’s breaking the rules that says no one should have sex in the same-sex mode of things. Apparently, it’s quite possible for someone to be very damned kinky and without any real fetishes in the mix and all they really have to do is to have sex in a way that’s not covered under the rules of how sex is supposed to be.
Even going further back in my memories, I can remember when it was said and suggested that eating pussy was… kinky. Later in life, I’d question whether it really was kinky since, um, pussies have been eaten for a damned long time before I discovered the joy of it… but, okay, I guess it’s kinky and probably more so when the rules really don’t say that it’s okay to have oral sex except – and as I understand it – the Catholic Church (and maybe other branches of religion) has a thing against anything that resembles contraception or, bluntly and crudely, if the sperm ain’t going into a pussy – and that’s the only place it’s supposed to go, you could be in a lot of trouble. So maybe this admonishment paves the way for humans to be kinky and not just do the nasty the way we’ve been told to do it.
Interesting. Debatable, even. One person’s kink is another person’s normal and all that.