Peeping the Searches

Ya know this one caught my eye:  “themansex” which, of course, translates to “the man sex.”

One could look at this in several ways… but instinct says otherwise.  It lends itself to the thought that there are some folks out there who find the subject of men having sex with each other interesting, at the least.

I wouldn’t go as far as to say that getting… intimate with another guy is glamorous; I wouldn’t even say that, in most cases, romance – as we understand it – is involved in sexual situations all that much since a lot of men who decide to throw down like this – and are not gay – are just looking to bust a nut or two.  One could even make a case about men being the dogs we’re reputed to be, so locked-in on having sex that we’ll even do it with each other when there are no other options… or even when there are other options.

If the person searching for this is/was looking for information that might tell them what it’s really like, well, if they happen to see my writing, all I can say is that the first time is often a bit of a shock – and that depends on what that first time entails.  It could be something as ‘innocent’ as jerking each other off and as invasive as having your butt filled with a stiff one.  I can say that when you get that much testosterone together in one room, it can be kinda scary which oddly tends to lend to an extra measure of excitement.

For a lot of guys, taking the plunge for the first time can be like taking a short walk off of a long plank; you have your need for sex pounding away at you while, at the same time, your moral conscience is doing its best to stop you from breaking the rules.  Sometimes, one’s conscience wins out and leads to a guy chickening out before the fact; there’s really no shame in this – it happens.  I’ve seen guys so wired before the fact that they can’t get or maintain an erection; again, no shame here because it happens.

I’ve seen men approach this with a lot of apprehension… and with little or no concern for what they’re about to do.  I’ve heard men actually question their sexuality (before the fact) because they want to do this, just as I’ve heard men insist that what they’re about to do has nothing to do with their sexuality.

It’s just another way to have sex… and, often, a lot more impersonal than having sex with a woman.  On the one hand, a lot of guys don’t find it much of a problem negotiating with another like-minded man for sex; on the other hand, even I have found it easier asking a woman for sex than it is a guy – as you’ve seen me write on occasion, some guys can be really bitchy drama queens about the whole thing.  They want sex, they want it right now, and they want it the way they want it, which really isn’t so different from how the dynamic works between men and women when you stop to think about it.

I guess it can be said that there is something erotic and sensual about it, depending on one’s appreciation for the sex act and, something I find interesting (for lack of a better word) is that there are women who see two guys getting on as very erotic and sensual.  I would go as far as to admit that, yeah, there’s something erotic and sensual about doing it with another guy… but there’s something primal about seeing it done and while I have the ability to see the ‘beauty’ in two guys having sex, um, it’s kinda hard to see it.

It can be gratifying and satisfying… and not so much; that depends on the individuals involved as well as what the sex act is.  Most guys are ‘simple’ when it comes to this:  It’s whatever makes us cum and if we do – and I say that because there are some situations where it doesn’t happen – well, the purpose has been served and the means justify the end result.  It is my opinion, however, that it’s really not as simple as it appears to be; this is because men don’t always – or ever – do all that can be done with the male body.

Some guys never ‘graduate’ beyond mutual masturbation; some guys never graduate beyond oral sex and, despite the perception, not all men engage in anal sex.  The perception, as it tends to be, is a lot worse than the truth; I hazard the guess that it’s easier to assume that when two men get together for sex, it’s on and in totality – they’re always doing it all.  But the truth is very different because with any sex act, it all depends on a guy’s preferences in this and that whole top and bottom thing that tends to muddy the sexual waters.

Maybe I’ll write more about this later…